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Not ready to move baby into own room

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Maloneyb · 30/05/2023 12:12

My baby is 6mo now. I’m not ready to transition him out of our bedroom.
he’s too big for his bedside cot so I’m thinking of bringing his big crib into our room. We have the space although it might be a bit tight… still offering breast feeding during the night too so it just makes sense.

am I being too clingy?? Is this ok? And how long for?

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Lkgcsr · 30/05/2023 12:14

It’s completely fine; there’s no rush at all and when you move them is your choice. I moved mine when I got to the point where I felt that we were waking them up which was at some point between 8-12 months.

defi · 30/05/2023 12:15

I don't think there is right or wrong answer for this, it's about what works best for you.

Daffodilmorning · 30/05/2023 12:16

My oldest DS stayed in our room until he was one and my youngest is still in our room at six months. As long as they aren’t being disturbed, I can’t see any reason to rush things. Do what feels right to you.

AlwaysMissingHome · 30/05/2023 12:34

Ours stayed in our room til they were between 12 and 18 months.

Your child is still very young and he’s breastfeeding. That’s not being clingy.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/05/2023 12:35

Whatever works for you!

AlltheFs · 30/05/2023 12:37

DD stayed in my room until 15 months. I personally think 6 months is very young, it’s the minimum advised- not a rule.

ANewAdventure · 30/05/2023 12:38

Do whatever works for you. One of mine stayed in with us until 3, at 5 he’s happily in his own room. Other is now 2, I think he’ll be in his own room soon. For both we’ve had their own room’s set up by about 12 months, and make sure to spend plenty of time in there so they have a concept of it being theirs.

Almie · 30/05/2023 12:39

In a lot of cultures, having babies go into their own rooms would be very unusual.

Do whatever works for you and your family! Smile

MapofVenice · 30/05/2023 12:39

It’s one of those things that it’s not an aim, it’s just guidance. Do whatever works for you.

FlounderingFruitcake · 30/05/2023 12:43

So long as you make sure he’s in a safe and age appropriate bed i.e. a proper cot and not a bedside crib designed for under 6 months, because that could be dangerous if sitting up and rolling, then do whatever works for you! If you’re still doing night feeds and aren’t considering sleep training anytime soon then you’d just be making work for yourself by having to trek down the corridor. What would be the point in moving him?

gogohmm · 30/05/2023 12:55

Dd2 was still coming into my bed aged 6

Seasonofthewitch83 · 30/05/2023 13:00

Its recommended six months they stay in your room to help reduce SIDS risk, theres no recommendation of when they have to move out after that! Whatever works for you and gets you the most sleep.

Kitcaterpillar · 30/05/2023 13:01

Yeah, why not. I didn't have a room to move mine to until she was 18 months. She seems unaffected by it!

randomsabreuse · 30/05/2023 13:07

Mine stayed in with me until I was done with regular night feeds, much less hassle than heading down the corridor when they wake up, and you'd need some kind of comfortable feeding set up in their room if they're still feeding at night.

Both of mine moved out at about a year although my younger one still had a double bed in his room (guest room) for easy feeding if required - I often ended up asleep in there after a late feed!

Moon12345 · 30/05/2023 13:12

DS is almost two and still in our room/bed. Absolutely no plans to move him out any time soon - plus he still feeds 2-3 times a night so no idea why I’d make life harder for myself by moving him out the room! We’re all happy, rested and love it - if you feel like you don’t want baby out the room yet, absolutely go with your gut. We have such an odd approach in society to force a tiny little baby to grow up and be independent years and years before they’re ready.

PainAuChocowhat · 30/05/2023 13:12

DD didn’t go into her own room til over a year. We shoehorned her cotbed into our room once she grew out of her crib and basically lived with a room which was mostly bed for a while. I really only jettisoned her because DH started to wake her up with his snoring.

As PP have said, the guidance is that you should keep them in with you til at least 6 months, it’s not that you should pop them in their own room once they hit that mark.

SparkyBlue · 30/05/2023 13:22

My youngest was over a year before she went into her own room. Absolutely no rules on this one it's whatever works for you

WeekendInTheBoondocks · 30/05/2023 13:26

I didn’t want to move my son but he became too big for his next to me at 7 months and went from sleeping through to waking a lot for no clear reason, so we moved him to his nursery and he seems to love it. He can turn over properly now and loves having the space to roll over and back again. Was a bit unnerving when he started sleeping on his front but my HV and GP both said it’s fine to leave him if he’s able to roll back again. He now sleeps really well. He seemed too young at 6 months but at 7 months he appeared to be ready!

Katypp · 30/05/2023 13:34

Moon12345 · 30/05/2023 13:12

DS is almost two and still in our room/bed. Absolutely no plans to move him out any time soon - plus he still feeds 2-3 times a night so no idea why I’d make life harder for myself by moving him out the room! We’re all happy, rested and love it - if you feel like you don’t want baby out the room yet, absolutely go with your gut. We have such an odd approach in society to force a tiny little baby to grow up and be independent years and years before they’re ready.

Sorry what?! Nearly 2 and still feeding in the night? You must be crazy

AmyandPhilipfan · 30/05/2023 13:53

Mine was in my room until 2 years 3 months when we moved into a bigger house. To be honest at 6 she still often comes into my bed in the night but she does always start off in her own room!

TaraRhu · 30/05/2023 13:59

My 2 y/o is still with us. Partially because we haven't yet renovated our house to make her a room. But honestly, until they are older. it's actually easier just having them there (especially if they are Sick).
My son is 4 and still ends up in with us 3 nights a week. We moved to a bigger house and all end up in one room half the time. Not sure what the point was!

MagpiePi · 30/05/2023 14:05

We moved from co-sleeping with one, co-sleeping and bed next to the double bed when DC2 came along and ended up with a double mattress with two single mattresses either side on the floor for a bit. DCs were probably about 2 or 3 when me and DP moved back into our own room.

It is weird that our society thinks it is odd to have your child in bed or in your room, but also that it is odd if you and your DP aren't in the same bed.

bussteward · 30/05/2023 14:31

DD didn’t move out til she was one and starting to sleep longer stretches, but still came in with us halfway through the night. Still does that, aged six, after a bad dream Hmm Having the room back for the evening and being able to read in bed was lovely, it was about the right time for us.

DS we’re hoping to kick out at six months as we’re disturbing each other and this time I’m going to sleep train instead of running myself into the ground. (Also milk isn’t a sure-fire sleep inducer any more, and he bites.) We’ve got room for a bed and cot in his room though so I’ll move in with him for a bit to ease the transition.

Six months is just the safe minimum. Realistically most people I know either did four months (with good sleepers, when they started disturbing each other), or 1-2 years (with terrible sleepers, when they stopped being dicks). Or often, when they ran out of space.

midnightblue12 · 30/05/2023 20:20

Don't do it OP!
From what you've said if you do it then it's only because of social pressures as you clearly don't want to!
I kept my breast fed baby in with my until he was 2... ok I'll admit 2.5 😂
It just worked for us. He was happy, I was happy. He just climbed into my bed when he needed me and some nights we co slept all night, others none at all. He's not in my room anymore although he does wander in most nights!
My best advice (not that anyone asked for it 😅) for all parents is to do what feels right for you, not anyone else!

beeswain · 30/05/2023 20:28

Agree with pp, do what's right! DS stayed with us until he was 2.5 years old and when he could climb out of his toddler bed continued to come in and sleep with us occasionally until he was about 10! The closeness was nice and he stopped when the time was right. (He is a very well adjusted 21 year old now, it certainly didn't do any of us any harm and we are still a close family)