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Maloneyb · 2023-05-30T11:12:58+00:00

My baby is 6mo now. I’m not ready to transition him out of our bedroom. he’s too big for his bedside cot so I’m thinking of bringing his big crib into our room. We have the space although it might be a bit tight… still offering breast feeding during the night too so it just makes sense. am I being too clingy?? Is this ok? And how long for?

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CSR721 · 30/05/2023 20:30

I slept in a day bed in my little boys nursery for a few weeks before I left him on his own. We are back in our room now but I still move back in there if he's having a bad night. But I really miss having him in the next to me.

Moon12345 · 31/05/2023 00:56

Katypp · 30/05/2023 13:34

Sorry what?! Nearly 2 and still feeding in the night? You must be crazy

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It’s very, very normal. We just live in a society that has warped into a state where responding to your child’s natural, biological needs is seen as odd. He’s still tiny, and feeding through the night brings him comfort, security, nutrition, immunity and also many benefits for me too. Long may it continue!

Nat6999 · 31/05/2023 02:03

My ds was still in our room past 18 months old, we tried moving him to his own room but we ended up being up & down with him so much it was easier to have him next to us. He finally moved out when he was ready to go into a proper bed.

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Maloneyb · 31/05/2023 07:24

Thank you all so much. Made me feel much better

how do your partners feel about it?
I worry mine is going to come to a point where he wants baby out and in their own room sooner than I’m ready to be honest..

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Katypp · 31/05/2023 07:44

Moon12345 · 31/05/2023 00:56

It’s very, very normal. We just live in a society that has warped into a state where responding to your child’s natural, biological needs is seen as odd. He’s still tiny, and feeding through the night brings him comfort, security, nutrition, immunity and also many benefits for me too. Long may it continue!

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No it's not. Feeding three times at night at 2 years old is not 'very, very normal' at all. He has no biological need for breast milk at 2 years old.

Moon12345 · 31/05/2023 10:41

Katypp · 31/05/2023 07:44

No it's not. Feeding three times at night at 2 years old is not 'very, very normal' at all. He has no biological need for breast milk at 2 years old.

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That’s incorrect, there are many biological needs being fulfilled for him by still breastfeeding. La Leche League has lots of insight on this if you’re interested. I find it quite odd that you take such issue with a baby having milk from its mum. Strange.

Katypp · 31/05/2023 10:47

Moon12345 · 31/05/2023 10:41

That’s incorrect, there are many biological needs being fulfilled for him by still breastfeeding. La Leche League has lots of insight on this if you’re interested. I find it quite odd that you take such issue with a baby having milk from its mum. Strange.

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Oh don't start that faux-innocent nonsense, please. A two-year-old is not a baby and most sensible people would not want to be up three times a night feeding a toddler. If you want to do it, crack on, but don't be under the illusion you are somehow superior for doing so. Strange indeed 🙄

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/05/2023 10:54

Trust your gut OP. DD was in with us till she was 2, lockdown and DH having to wfh meant he took over the nursery (which we kept all her stuff in) as his office till we realised it was here to stay and we rearranged the rooms.

He missed her being in with us more than I did in the end. But he’d never have insisted on anything either she or I would have been unhappy with. As her dad he loves her and wants what’s best for both of us which was in with us till she was a year and then the wfh situation landed anyway.

Separating infants from their carers at such a young age is a peculiar western concept. It’s okay to decide it’s not for you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/05/2023 10:55

Katypp · 31/05/2023 10:47

Oh don't start that faux-innocent nonsense, please. A two-year-old is not a baby and most sensible people would not want to be up three times a night feeding a toddler. If you want to do it, crack on, but don't be under the illusion you are somehow superior for doing so. Strange indeed 🙄

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It’s not @Moon12345 bring strange. You’ve made your point, give it a rest.

FlounderingFruitcake · 31/05/2023 11:50

Maloneyb · 31/05/2023 07:24

Thank you all so much. Made me feel much better

how do your partners feel about it?
I worry mine is going to come to a point where he wants baby out and in their own room sooner than I’m ready to be honest..

If you’re the one getting up to feed then DH doesn’t get a say- he should appreciate that it’s a lot of work to feed a baby and you’re getting a broken night every night and be willing to do just about anything that makes your life easier. If baby takes a bottle and he’s willing to get up, heat a bottle of expressed milk, trek down the corridor and resettle baby in the nursery while you blissfully snooze in bed then and only then would I consider his opinion. Or if baby starts sleeping through then discuss it. But right now, it’s about the most sleep for the most people which means room sharing. It won’t last forever.

midnightblue12 · 31/05/2023 12:28

Maloneyb · 31/05/2023 07:24

Thank you all so much. Made me feel much better

how do your partners feel about it?
I worry mine is going to come to a point where he wants baby out and in their own room sooner than I’m ready to be honest..

I parent on my own as me and my husband split during my second pregnancy. I do think though that if I'd wanted this with the first he would've made a few comments but accepted it.
The baby days are long but the years are short. A few months/however long you need won't be forever!

As476 · 31/05/2023 12:35

My daughter moved into her own room at 8 months. I don’t remember how old my son was when he moved into his own room, but I do remember waking up that first morning and panicking that he wasn’t with me 😂. It took me a good 5 minutes of half asleep panicking and waking up DP before I remembered he was in his own room 😂. I think he stayed with me for another month or so after that!

Canthave2manycats · 31/05/2023 12:36

Katypp · 30/05/2023 13:34

Sorry what?! Nearly 2 and still feeding in the night? You must be crazy

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Why? My youngest fed at night until he was 22 months. Slept in my room until he was 4. Moved out no problem and is now 20!!

If it’s not broken don’t fix it!

Kitcaterpillar · 31/05/2023 14:44

Katypp · 31/05/2023 10:47

Oh don't start that faux-innocent nonsense, please. A two-year-old is not a baby and most sensible people would not want to be up three times a night feeding a toddler. If you want to do it, crack on, but don't be under the illusion you are somehow superior for doing so. Strange indeed 🙄

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Why start a fight for absolutely no reason? Noone asked your opinion on it. Noone's coming to your house to make you feed a 2 year old. The poster made no claims originally, just a statement about their life. Get over yourself.

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Maloneyb · 03/06/2023 11:23

We moved the big cot into our bed and there has been success!!!
feel like we should’ve done this sooner 😅😅

thank you all for making me feel better ♥️

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midnightblue12 · 03/06/2023 12:09

@Katypp "no biological need for milk past 2 years old".
You need to scrub up on your facts! WHO recommends breastfeeding for 2 years and beyond. Extending breast feeding is extremely common amongst the breast feeding community. You better hold onto your chair for this one... my son is THREE years old and still occasionally feeds during the night. Naturally weaning him and everyone is happy. Maybe you think these things are "uncommon" because you have extremely limited knowledge about extended breast feeding. If that's the case you should probably keep those opinions to yourself. If you want to learn more there's lots of breast feeding support groups on Facebook or even the breast feeding network could answer any questions you may have.
You do your parenting, and let others do theirs? Ok!

OP I am extremely happy for you! So please you're feeling better and doing what feels right for you ☺️

Inkypot · 03/06/2023 12:15

There's no right or wrong. It's what works for you and your family. He won't still be sleeping in your room when he's 30 so enjoy the baby times while they're here.

Our son went into his own room at 6 months. Our daughter went into her own room around 22 months.
With our son we were in a small flat so it meant we were still really close to him whichever room we put him in.
Our daughter's room needed a lot of renovation and we didn't rush it.
Both children sleep fine in their own beds now and you wouldn't know which one went into their own room first/last unless we told you.
Enjoy your baby and don't let the overthinking creep in.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 03/06/2023 12:27

You can keep him in your room as long as you like c