Does your DP do his/her share of sleepless nights?

[helenelisabeth]

or do they retire in blissful ignorance to the spare bedroom?

DD2, BF, having few sleepless nights recently, co-sleeping from about 1-2am, DH makes hasty retreat to spare bed. Pisses me off as spent majority of last night massaging DD's tummy as she was constipated (another story) and could have done with some fecking help!

My DH was great. When I BF'd I expressed one feed for each night and DH would do one of them. When I stopped BF-ing, we took turns to get up with him - in fact, DH even did more feeds than me, I'd say, as he can survive on 5-6 hours a night sleep, whereas I am the wretch from hell with less than 8 hrs.

DH didn't on work nights as he had to be up at 6.30am for a 12 hour day.
He was fab on weekends though and always got up with them, also took the DC out in the afternoon so I could rest or pamper myself.

They have both been sleeping through for a while now, but I see it as my job to sort them out if they do wake in the night, as I only work part time and can pretty much choose if/when to work, whereas he does very long hours.

DP currently does all the night feeds (DS is 12 weeks) but it's only one a night, and DS actually settles better if DP feeds him (that's my argument anyway)

I am borderline PND though, and as sleep is my major trigger for depression he's being amazingly supportive and really helping out

I had very little success expressing, so I did all the night feeds. And he got up after the six-ish feed and took them away if they showed no inclination to go back to sleep.

But once they stopped and it was comforting rather than feeding required, we took it in turns. Although he needed a good boot to wake him up (sleeping skills honed by months of night breastfeeding and no spare bedroom to retreat to).

My problem is that DH sleeps through even the screaming next to his ear but if I wake him to take a turn I can't go back to sleep so then we're both awake which seems silly.

Our solution is that I do night wakings and he does early mornings which I think is pretty fair. I do wish he would lose the martyred moaning though.

I did most of the night waking with DS, but DH always did the 6 am onwards slot giving me another hour or so in bed before he left for work. He also did every Friday night - I got 12 hours straight in the spare room, and expressed the feeds for the folloing Friday when I woke up bursting ingthe morning!

With DD I had SPD and couldn't get out of bed without pain, so he woke at every feed, to get DD out of the cot, and put her back in. He did do this almost in his sleep though, and did the Friday nights also. I think I got a pretty good deal really

Dp does quite a bit - most of it - at the mo because I'm pg and finding it v painful to be lifting dd out of her cot in the middle of the night.

Usually I do it all (happily and voluntarily) because I'm not the one who has to get up and drive to an office in the morning.

He's always done his share at weekends / holidays / when I'm tired though.

my dh did all the nights because he figured i did all the pregnancy

hoooorayyyy!