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9 year old sleeping in until noon on weekends

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Fifi0 · 30/04/2023 09:04

DD nearly 10 has started lying in until noon on weekends. She goes to bed at around 10pm on Friday night and saturday. Gets up at 7:30 am school days bed is 9pm -9:30 . I find myself having to get her up so we can go out , her devices lock at 8:30pm. Is this a developmental phase? I wasn't expecting the lie ins until 13 onwards.

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Kanaloa · 30/04/2023 20:06

Also I don’t think there’s any point repeating the questions about ‘screens.’ The op says ‘her devices lock at 8.30pm.’ Presumably this means she cannot access them after that time, and if she was sitting up on an iPad late at night it seems like op would have mentioned that.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/05/2023 07:22

Kanaloa · 30/04/2023 20:05

Why? What would be the benefit to waking her and forcing her to get up at 8.30 every Sunday morning?

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Because no nine year old should need to be woken at midday to start the day, they aren’t a hung over 20 year old. Clearly they go to bed too late, if the OP wakes her up it will readjust her sleeping hours.

Weallgottachangesometime · 01/05/2023 07:26

I remember reading that teenagers naturally have later waking times/more sleep, because at some point it was being suggested school should start later to account for this. So maybe it linked to becoming an adolescent.

Is there any change it’s also tiredness from using a device in bed or watching TV or anything? I’d double check there is no possibility it is this.

Personally I’d let her sleep a little later, but I’d have to get her out of bed before noon, most of the day is gone by then. Is she literally asleep until noon or waking and just dozing/chilling in bed?

rattymol · 01/05/2023 09:11

@OnlyFoolsnMothers if she is really asleep, she is sleeping for 14 hours. It's not just a case of going to bed earlier. She needs a trip to the GP.

Kanaloa · 01/05/2023 11:56

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/05/2023 07:22

Because no nine year old should need to be woken at midday to start the day, they aren’t a hung over 20 year old. Clearly they go to bed too late, if the OP wakes her up it will readjust her sleeping hours.

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Why shouldn’t they? Why is it morally superior for a 9 year old (who wakes themselves on time for school every day) to be woken at 8.30?

CurlewKate · 01/05/2023 12:10

I am a very early riser myself-but I really don't understand this idea that sleeping in is some sort of moral failing to be stamped out! Why should she be up? She has a busy life. She gets up no problem for school. I hope she's still in bed now!

Namechange192727171 · 01/05/2023 12:15

Maybe get her iron levels checked? Common for them to become iron deficient at that age.
Does she seem tired when she gets up?

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 01/05/2023 12:20

I second a trip to the gp. I don't think a 9 year old sleeping for 14 hours is normal but if she's genuinely exhausted she shouldn't be punished for it. Does she read books at all?

Screens weren't around when I was 9 but I used to read until really late!

OverTheHillAndDownTotherSide · 01/05/2023 12:24

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

As a baby I slept from midnight till noon. So did DD.

Since she was about 8 she’s had activities that don’t finish till 8:30/9pm. She sleeps in at weekends - suits us just fine.

Night owls are just as valid as larks.

rattymol · 01/05/2023 12:28

I still think a GO check up is needed. But the most physically active woman I know has always slept ten hours a night. So if she is very physically active she may just need the sleep.

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Fifi0 · 01/05/2023 14:18

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 01/05/2023 12:20

I second a trip to the gp. I don't think a 9 year old sleeping for 14 hours is normal but if she's genuinely exhausted she shouldn't be punished for it. Does she read books at all?

Screens weren't around when I was 9 but I used to read until really late!

She has recently had a check up all ok. I'm narcoleptic myself so there's a genetic component she doesn't need to nap or get the urge in the day at all. I do and it started before 10 the only treatment is stimulants so if she does have it I'd rather wait until the pressure ramps up to go on stimulants. She woke up at 10am today got into my bed and said she had a really good sleep.

All screens are programmed to shut down at 8:30pm. She does like drawing so might be drawing before she falls asleep. She's very active goes on bike rides out with friends.

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flutterbyebaby · 01/05/2023 14:41

I was made up when my sons decided to start sleeping later, though my 17 year old still wakes at 5am every morning. Unless you have plans just let her sleep.

CurlewKate · 01/05/2023 15:03

Hmm. Not sure that the NHS is really for the influx of worried parents "Doctor-she gets up at 7.00am during the week but sleeps in at the weekends-is it serious?

Scandimama · 01/05/2023 15:10

Wow I was about to be flippant and say wish that was my kids, my soon 9 year old is up no later than 7 every day no matter how late she’s in bed..yeah that doesn’t sound quite right.
Are you sure she gets good and solid sleep though the night? Does she have a black out curtain that makes it easy for her to fall asleep? Does she have nice activities to look forward to on the weekend? Is she happy in herself in general?

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Fifi0 · 01/05/2023 15:28

Scandimama · 01/05/2023 15:10

Wow I was about to be flippant and say wish that was my kids, my soon 9 year old is up no later than 7 every day no matter how late she’s in bed..yeah that doesn’t sound quite right.
Are you sure she gets good and solid sleep though the night? Does she have a black out curtain that makes it easy for her to fall asleep? Does she have nice activities to look forward to on the weekend? Is she happy in herself in general?

Yes she's very active and has blackout blinds. I think its a growth spurt she's perfectly happy. I'm a long sleeper so could be genetic.

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LBFseBrom · 01/05/2023 15:35

I used to sleep late when not going to school but could get up if I had somewhere to be. My parents didn't mind, I used to have to go out with them in the afternoon at weekends sometimes but nothing much happened before lunch time. My son also slept late when he could. It's not unusual and actually quite nice in some ways. I wouldn't worry about bedtimes at her age, she gets up for school.

elevenplusdilemma · 01/05/2023 17:39

Are you sure she's asleep all morning. I know you say her devices shut down at 8:30pm but when do they come back on? If the device is in her room overnight is she getting up early then lying in bed all morning on a device?

FusionChefGeoff · 01/05/2023 18:45

That would worry me unless she's well into a very early puberty. DS and most of his mates (10-11) all bounce out of bed between 7 and 8 in my experience

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Fifi0 · 01/05/2023 18:48

elevenplusdilemma · 01/05/2023 17:39

Are you sure she's asleep all morning. I know you say her devices shut down at 8:30pm but when do they come back on? If the device is in her room overnight is she getting up early then lying in bed all morning on a device?

They don't turn back on until 7:30 am and she's out the door at 8.20. It's not devices they shut off I have screen time access apps which shut them off.

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Fifi0 · 01/05/2023 18:49

elevenplusdilemma · 01/05/2023 17:39

Are you sure she's asleep all morning. I know you say her devices shut down at 8:30pm but when do they come back on? If the device is in her room overnight is she getting up early then lying in bed all morning on a device?

She's not on devices as I pop my head round the door and she's sleeping.

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