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9 year old sleeping in until noon on weekends

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Fifi0 · 30/04/2023 09:04

DD nearly 10 has started lying in until noon on weekends. She goes to bed at around 10pm on Friday night and saturday. Gets up at 7:30 am school days bed is 9pm -9:30 . I find myself having to get her up so we can go out , her devices lock at 8:30pm. Is this a developmental phase? I wasn't expecting the lie ins until 13 onwards.

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Soontobe60 · 30/04/2023 09:06

No, it’s a parenting phase! Just get her up!!!

Dolphinnoises · 30/04/2023 09:07

It could be puberty related. But could you put her to bed earlier? My 10.5 year old goes to bed at 8.30/8.40 seven nights a week…

JJJSchmidt · 30/04/2023 09:07

Let her sleep

WheelsUp · 30/04/2023 09:08

I would make weekend bedtimes earlier so she was up earlier.

If she is that tired on weekends, I think you should make weekday bedtimes earlier too.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 30/04/2023 09:08

Ours didn’t start that until they were about 15. If you have plans just let her know the day before what time she needs to be up and ready by.

h3ll0o · 30/04/2023 09:09

Does she have a later body clock? I’m naturally an in bed at 9pm awake at 5am type person but my daughters a night owl and at 3.5 YO will happily stay up until 11.30 and then sleep in.

If your daughter is happy and you’re fine with walking her when you need to go out I’d let her sleep.

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Fifi0 · 30/04/2023 09:10

Dolphinnoises · 30/04/2023 09:07

It could be puberty related. But could you put her to bed earlier? My 10.5 year old goes to bed at 8.30/8.40 seven nights a week…

She wouldnt sleep at 8:30pm she's not tired until 9pm - 9:30.

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Backwithanotheroneofthoseblockrockingbeats · 30/04/2023 09:11

She'd be tired if she got up earlier! At that age I'd "enforce" (for want of a better word) earlier wake ups to help her regulate her sleep to be earlier.

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Fifi0 · 30/04/2023 09:13

h3ll0o · 30/04/2023 09:09

Does she have a later body clock? I’m naturally an in bed at 9pm awake at 5am type person but my daughters a night owl and at 3.5 YO will happily stay up until 11.30 and then sleep in.

If your daughter is happy and you’re fine with walking her when you need to go out I’d let her sleep.

Yes I think so she wants to go to bed around 10:30 - 11pm pm if I let her (I don't) . She wakes for school herself at 7:30 I don't have to wake her school days.

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CeliaNorth · 30/04/2023 09:13

What's her weekday schedule like? Does she have a lot of after school activities?

updin · 30/04/2023 09:15

I'd be a bit worried about that at that age tbh, seems very young.

rattymol · 30/04/2023 09:18

Is she actually needing the sleep? If yes I would let her sleep. But I would also take her to the GP for a check up. She may have a vitamin deficiency for example.

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Fifi0 · 30/04/2023 09:20

Actually I've just researched it can be puberty related and melatonin secretion times. She has signs of puberty.

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Kanaloa · 30/04/2023 09:23

So she is a responsible girl who sleeps early on school days and even wakes herself up at 7.30 to get ready, but likes a laze about on the weekends?

I’d let her laze. It’s not morally superior to be sitting on your beautifully made bed at 7.59am on a Sunday morning. Let her know if you have plans she has to be up for and otherwise just leave her to rest and relax.

mycatsanutter · 30/04/2023 09:31

Is she actually asleep or reading /playing on a screen ? My ds9 is in bed at 9 every night and up at 6-6.30

SavBlancTonight · 30/04/2023 09:36

Ds is definitely a night child. Pretty good about getting up in the week but we struggle to.get him to bed. So yes, he had a lie in on the weekend and resets.

I would prefer a more regular routine. But his father, grandmother (mil) and aunt (sil) are all.similar. it is what it is.

Tarantella6 · 30/04/2023 09:36

My 9yo is terrible at going to sleep, she can't wind down, so by the weekend she has a big deficit and needs to catch up.

I'm the same tbh if it's been a busy week I can easily sleep until 11am at the weekend. No-one benefits from me or her being knackered!

User0610139736 · 30/04/2023 09:37

Could be puberty but I had this with my 11 Yr old (although also falling asleep after school) and she’s always so hard to get up. Had blood tests and it showed she has had glandular fever in the last few months. So might be worth checking. Her vitamin D was also very low so am now giving her that.

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 09:40

Personally, I would only wake her up if there was something that she needed to get up for! Both of mine had crazy busy weeks so I let them laze at the weekend. I'll get crucified for this, but I often used to take them breakfast in bed on Sundays....

Yellowdays · 30/04/2023 09:47

I echo the query about screens.

Taxitaxiforever · 30/04/2023 09:55

Unless there is a reason for getting up early ,I personally would leave her to sleep.
She is obviously tired .

CurlewKate · 30/04/2023 10:00

Obviously tired-or one of nature's sleeper inners. Personally, I hate lying in, but members of my family are happy to wallow in their pits all morning!

TakeMyStrongHand · 30/04/2023 12:53

If she needs to sleep, let her sleep. Unless you have plans that are affected. Give her one of life's pleasures that will quickly be taken away as she grows up.

My DD is 11 and has gone to bed at 9.30 on a week day for a year or so. Later on a fri/sat and later mornings where possible.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/04/2023 12:54

Too late a bedtime- get her up at 8.30 on a weekend and she’ll soon sleep earlier.

Kanaloa · 30/04/2023 20:05

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/04/2023 12:54

Too late a bedtime- get her up at 8.30 on a weekend and she’ll soon sleep earlier.

Why? What would be the benefit to waking her and forcing her to get up at 8.30 every Sunday morning?

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