Ferber method

[Angelcare1]

Hello all. Our little one is 8months old and having a nightmare with sleep. Needs us to hold her to go off. We get her down and she wakes and screams every time and needs us to stroke her face until she goes back to sleep. We are starting my the Ferber method and 1st night bedtime was 40m until she went off but wondering what we do with naps..for example she generally needs at least 1 hour nap atm but she does wake early sometimes like after 30m and usually Usual throng would be she screams and we would go up and get her up if she doesn’t go off after stroking face etc.. with Ferber if she woke early would we leave her to cry out and go in let’s say after 5/10/15 m or just leave her to try settle

I still did ferber at the beginning of the nap, but not if they woke early from nap. Don't get me wrong I still left for a few mins and see if my lo could resettle for naps. But I found once the nights improved naps did too.

Thanks for the reply..this is painful to do. Kills me hearing her scream

She's likely screaming because she is pissed off, it's a habit change and no-one likes change. Give it a week. Kids are adaptable.

Just make sure every single time in the night you do it. Naps are different. Conquer the night sleep first except when you first put her down for a nap make sure you do ferber.

Wear ear phones. Sounds crazy. But do it. You still hear your lo, but at a different tone. So it doesn't hurt as much.

She’s still crying after an hour ..is there a limit on how long you should leave in the day nap? Or just stick at it until she goes?

It belongs in the dark ages. I can’t believe people are still doing it. Like most things from the 80’s, they belong in the past.
Why on earth would you leave a child to cry for an hour??! It’s just so wrong.

Perhaps have a rethink stick with night time first. Then try naps again in couple days. Some Los benefits from doing all nightime and naps. SOme dont.

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I did nights first - still fed to sleep for naps for a while and would just get her after 10 mins if she woke up and didn’t resettle!
Then once the nights were good I started doing it for naps and then it all just fell into place and she started sleeping like 1.5–2 hours for the nap.

Thanks maybe way to go. She went down for night time sleep really well. First 5 min cry then went gave her a reassurance and then 2m later out like a light. The lack of sleep during day might have played a part in this but tbf she only took 10m last night also. It’s just the naps that are crazy hard. Maybe will try with your method thank you for the input

Thanks I think this is maybe way to go after hearing this a few times. Night time is not too bad tbf now it’s just the day naps

I can’t seem to find this :/

Ok so what are your day naps?

With second dd, I did on the go come with me and see morning. Nap on go or don't, then big nap after lunch, one to three. Absolutely rigid for that.

Did Ferber with both, dd1 at sixteen months dd2 at nine.

Dd2 still takes that nap now like always. She's twenty months.

Bit of an update on this for anyone it might help..following 7 days of this method out little one now self soothes during the night and also nap times we put her down and she moans a few seconds as we walk out but that’s it then lays gets herself comfy for 5 min or so (awake AND quiet) then nods off. Our life’s and her life’s much much better. She is a different baby during the day due to undisturbed sleep. Thank you for all the comments and encouragement. For anyone else who has stumbled across this post stick with the method it sure does work and has improved everyone all round :)

Amazing news 🙌 👏 just don't fall back into holding or rocking as could cause lo to unself soothe if makes sense

Hi did you do this method if baby woke during the night aswell?
My LB can be hard to settle going to sleep and then horrendous to get back to sleep when he wakes around 2.30-3am
Thanks

Yes you do it every single wake up. I did check Los nappy etc but I did no eye contact. Dark. And straight back in cot.

Ok thanks

wish me luck

I have this same issue in the night. He just won't settle and gets louder and louder. Needs my hand on him to fall asleep

Yes use same method as chitty said. Honestly we were in same situation. After a few weeks of Ferber method she now can be put down for her nap or nighttime and either just puts her head to the side and falls straight asleep no fuss or she will just lay awake anywhere between 5-15m gargling until she is ready then drops off no crying. It is tough and painful at first but so much worth it, both parents and baby sleep are so much better and during day baby is much happier with structured sleep. If baby wakes yes do same method for the night.

She thinks she has been abandoned and she is right really. Do not leave a baby crying for an hour!

I think it's very dangerous to let a baby cry for retro bowl hours

Don't let her cry for an hour!! Sleep training is fine, but you start off small at 1 min, then go in for a minute. Then wait 3 min, then go in for a minute. Etc. Don't just leave the baby crying for an hour!! Please research this properly before doing it!

Lullaby is a traditional method from ancient times of the Vietnamese people and is still applied to this day. It doesn't matter if you sing well or not, choose a song with a gentle melody and sing it to your baby. Lullabies happy wheels are always a very effective way to comfort and lull a newborn to sleep. This is also a way to create a magical emotional bond between mother and child!