Narrow cot

[Supernovamum]

Hey everyone I'm very new here so please be kind. I'm pulling my hair out me and my partner have a nearly 8 month old little girl and she's still in a cot that she was meant to be out of at 6 months old and it's obviously effecting her sleep. The problem is I need to find a narrow cot for her to be transferred too but the problem is the space I have is very limited I'm talking less than 100 in length and less than 50 in width I've looked absolutely everywhere and I honestly can't find one that she can be in for a couple of years I've seen the obaby bantam one and it's too big can anyone help me with anything I'm even looking into single beds and there still isn't anything out there narrow enough.
Help a mummy out before I go bold from stress

We planned on having things worked out very different for when we had children but unfortunately it didn't pan out that way so we are hoping to keep saving and if that means I have to stop going over then it will have to be that way

So what do they suggest you do?

I am not ignoring the main issue at all I cannot change the rules set for us we have tried to ask them to reconsider things and it's always been a no or just being ignored so we've come to the decision for me to stop going round on the one night a week I get some freedom from what I have going on we have tried to make it so the room has enough space for pur daughters cot but it isn't possible as we are in a room that is not only used for a bedroom but for everyone else's storage which is not allowed to be moved nor touched

I'm not going round anymore plain and simple

No we haven't we've decided to no longer stay round anymore

We are a band E and have been told it won't be moved up. As for private rentals they are all over 1k and require an annual income of 20k and above so its not possible. We are trying our hardest to get out of this situation but we can't

I get you but it seems at this point you need to stop staying over at your partner's house until you find a solution, you really can't keep your baby in such a small space for sleeping xx

Hi OP, I remember you posted about this before and got a bollocking from loads of posters and it eventually got deleted. We’re similar ages and we actually spoke via pm!

If your child has to stay at your partner’s parents house once a week, can’t they realise the importance of her having enough space? Them deciding that they just won’t move the tables to another room really isn’t on. Has your partner spoke to them?

As pp have said, you can maybe try a travel cot but even then, your daughter will be growing and will eventually need a proper cot or cot bed. Is DD not able to sleep in the room with the parents as they may have more space?

If she has to go over, why are they not doing everything they can to accommodate their growing grandchild?

I'm not sire how to close this thread but I will no longer be answering anything about this subject I am no longer going round to stay the night as it can't be retified. I haven't found a cot nor will I as we don't have the space and we aren't allowed to rearrange to make space because of the important storage taking up part of the room. My partner cannot come round to mine as of the times and days he works. As for housing we are in contact with council housing and they have kindly given us a band E which means we have no housing needs at this moment so we can't venture down that route nor can we go for private rentals as everything is over 1k a month with an annual income of 20k which is not possible for the area we are in.
Now I think I've answered everything and I'll be leaving it there
Thanks

Honestly this is bonkers. Your staying every week with people who ‘ don’t want to move a bedside table elsewhere’. They won’t allow a small cupboard to be moved or thrown so a child can safely sleep in an appropriate sized bed? Then don’t stay

An average cot or travel go will
be 60x120.
a large cot bed/ toddler bed 70x140.
They are both the mattress size, so the beds will be a few cm larger

My recently turned 2 year old is 95cm long. He’s in a 70 x140cm cot bed with side off now like a bed.

Your best bet is throwing the bedside table out the window, but travel cot for the next year or so. Then a mattress on the floor.
Or just don’t go there

Sorry we've never spoken before this is my first ever post on here and will definitely be my last.
Thanks

You've made the right decision OP, your little girl will thank you when she has all the freedom she wants to move in her sleep - I hope things work out for you soon xx

If he only works five days why can't he come to your mum's house on the days he doesn't work? He needs to be looking at ways to earn extra money, devine job if needed, and so do you even part time weekend bar work etc.
DH and I both worked two jobs for years to save for a deposit.
If you want your own space you need a plan to get it. On very low income living on your own/with partner you'd be entitled to benefits.
Ask your local council about rent deposit scheme where they will upfront your deposit for a private rental and act as a kind of guarantor.

Oh fair enough OP, apologies! There was someone who posted a similar query to yours not too long ago (either earlier this year or late last year).

Maybe your partner can try and speak to his parents to highlight the importance of his child needing appropriate space. If that’s the only day he can put her to bed then maybe that needs to be put on hold until they’re willing to prioritise your child’s needs

Why don't you co-sleep when you're at his parents?

We had a similar problem we got a space saving cot from Asda it was about £100

I checked and it's 100x50cm, my 18month old sleeps in it so it's big enough