Narrow cot

[Supernovamum]

Hey everyone I'm very new here so please be kind. I'm pulling my hair out me and my partner have a nearly 8 month old little girl and she's still in a cot that she was meant to be out of at 6 months old and it's obviously effecting her sleep. The problem is I need to find a narrow cot for her to be transferred too but the problem is the space I have is very limited I'm talking less than 100 in length and less than 50 in width I've looked absolutely everywhere and I honestly can't find one that she can be in for a couple of years I've seen the obaby bantam one and it's too big can anyone help me with anything I'm even looking into single beds and there still isn't anything out there narrow enough.
Help a mummy out before I go bold from stress

IKEA do a space saving cot, I’ve not checked the dimensions but you could look at that one.

I have just looked at that one and it's 60×120 so it's too big

Mokee mini?

That one is also 60×120

Unfortunately, that's not a big enough space for a child to sleep in. They need to be able to move freely and stretch out while they sleep.

Can you reshuffle the room so there's more space? Get rid of some other furniture?

Ahhh I didn't know that. Unfortunately not the room is in the way it needs to be and that's woth maximum space it's only got a double bed wardrobe shelving unit and 2 bedside tables and it's all positioned to give the maximum amount of space

At 8m you could put the cot in a separate room?

If that's not possible, maybe get rid of the bedside tables? That's what we did when we had a similar issue, ditched the tables and put shelves up above the bed instead.

Put any furniture you can in hall, remove bedside tables. Children need space to sleep, turn around etc.

You have my empathy, spent the first four years of first child's life playing furniture Jenga😉

Unfortunately we are only there 1 night a week anyway so anything that involves moving furniture wouldn't be possible as it's not our home its his parents home

Also there is no other room we can move her into as it's full to capacity and even when it eventually isn't they don't want her to be in the room next to there's incase they are woken by her

Whose "request" is it that you stay one night a week at his parents? Theirs or your partners/yours? Is the trip something that can be done as a day trip? Or could you stay in a hotel/elsewhere?

Ultimately your baby is only going to get bigger. Your in laws will need to accept this if they/your partner want your family to continue to stay there. In a year or so it will be out of a cot and in a bed - what happens then, particularly given you've mentioned that there is an available room but they don't want your baby in it in case crying wakes them? If this is a long term "we stay with them for one night a week" plan then they need to be able to accommodate your entire family appropriately, which now also includes your child.

There's no point pressuring yourself to make it work for now if in a year's time you're going to have a (quite literally) bigger problem. You need to sort this out with them now as otherwise you're just deferring the problem.

There isn't any room for you, so don't go!

It's the agreement we've had since the restrictions were lifted on mixing households way before babygirl was born. The thing is its the only night a week my partner gets to put her to bed as we don't live together so spending £100+ a week on a hotel isn't something that can be even considered. Its already something that has been mentioned many times but its put to the responsibility of us both to sort it.

No can do its the only night my partner gets to put his daughter to bed and it's the only night I don't have to be at home which I don't ever want to go back to but I have to

If you're only needing it for one night a week have you tried a travel cot? They're generally smaller

The situation is nuts. You might have ‘had an agreement’, but it’s not viable anymore so it needs to change. Whether that’s shifting furniture or staying less is up for debate.

But purely on the space issue - I’d consider co-sleeping with the little one, and the adult staying in another room (sofa if necessary).

You can't fit a big enough cot for your baby to sleep in in that space. You'll need to get rid of the bedside tables and push one side of the bed up against the wall to make a bigger space.

www.babysecurity.co.uk/products/obaby-bantam-space-saver-cot-100-x-50cm-white

I'm currently trying to find a suitable travel cot

I cannot make them charge there mind on the agreement its been set and it cannot be undone. I've already discussed sleeping elsewhere and it's not possible as every room apart from the kitchen and the bathroom are slept in.

Its not my decision to move or get rid of furniture as it isn't mine or my partners furniture

This is 57cm wide… could you move 1 bedside table just for when you are staying to make space, then put it back the following morning?
www.argos.co.uk/product/8892351?clickPR=plp:6:14

You sound quite young but even so you must realise that you're a parent now and therefore your child should come first.

This situation is not benefitting your daughter, being put to bed by her dad for this one evening is not worth her being left to sleep an unsafe cot.

The are arrangement needs to adapt as she grows, what worked for her as a newborn simply doesn't work now and will continue not to work as she grows. Please out your child first and end this bonkers arrangement.

I still don't get why you're there one night a week. Where are you the rest of the time and why can't your partner put her to bed there?

They don't need to change their mind, it's your baby not theirs. If they cannot accommodate your baby then you simply can't go anymore. What do they expect you to do?
You need to stand up for your baby. Baby needs a safe, suitable sleep space and it is your responsibility as their parents to provide that, and if your partners parents refuse then you simply can't stay there.