Baby sleeps all day and is completely awake at night

[TiredMommy93]

My son is 2 months old tomorrow and he is sleeping all day (at least 9 hours with 2 feedings) and is wide awake all night. Do you have any tips how I can fix his sleep pattern? Or maybe you also have some tips for night time routines and how to get babies to sleep well in general.

No. I can't get away from him. Even this short time that he has the baby gives me at least some energy to function and be there for my baby.

I also never thought overfeeding was possible but my 9 week old baby weighs 14 pounds. He definitely is a bit... Chubby...

He's very very fussy today after getting his first shot and doesn't eat well but I think that's pretty common. Just when he finally seemed to get into a routine!!

Is 2 months old still considered newborn btw?

I am sorry to hear your update and I have no words about your boyfriend. Utterly disgraceful.

Could you seek a 2nd medical opinion? I always believed you couldn't overfeed a newborn. Do you have any family or friends support that can help you?

Are you only just getting out in the morning? Are there any baby and mum groups near you you can join to help meet other people?

I don't believe you can overfeed a baby. There be sick often (even then that could be other things)

My lo was born 9lb 5oz. And was easily well over 14lbs at 2 months. If there tracking in the red book, even if they drop a bit that's OK. It's if they massively go over the lines - hope that makes sense.

Your Paediatrician definitely shouldn't be telling you not to leave your DP.

As he's seems to be making thinks worse, have you got anyone else who could help? Could you go to your DMs for a couple of days with the baby?

What was your LO referred to the Paediatrician for @ChittyBang1987?

Sorry Chitty I tagged you in by mistake. I meant @TiredMommy93

My lo was never referred. I'm in UK so may be different to OP.

I was just thought it might help the OP to know my lo has always been on the bigger side and they never been concerned 🤷‍♀️ they always Said as long as their tracking along the right way just go with it and extremely hard to overfeed a baby like other posters have said

I'll get another medical opinion tomorrow.
And no I don't have any support where I live because I moved before I became pregnant. So no friends (Corona.. Made it hard to find new friends) or family here.
Oh wait. My dad sometimes comes over but he's useless with babies and likes to be served. He saw that I was extremely tired 3 weeks after baby was born but still demanded I make coffee for him and stuff. He knows where the kitchen is??? He always behaves like that. Women have to serve him. He wouldn't even microwave his own meal or go to the fridge.
I'll ask my mum if she can come help with housework and maybe run some errands..

I'm so so sorry you are feeling crap.

This will pass the exhaustion for the first 3 months is horrendous. I remember crying a fair bit when my baby cried and wouldn't sleep at night. Perserve with the light in day time ( you don't need to take baby outside if you don't feel up to it everyday ever beside a window will help but might help your own mood to get out.)

Any mum and baby classes or groups you can go to? You can meet some other mums. Lots of free ones about ask your HV if unsure.

Your partner if he is a bit rubbish with the baby can he do all the household stuff? So you literally do nothing and and let him cook, clean etc. Ideally you want him to help with the baby and I think truthfully it's such a shame he isn't but if he can do the housework it might help the pressure a teeny bit.

I would definitely ask your mum to help even get her to come over once a day of she can to mind the baby and let you just sleep or as you say do some housework if your partner won't.

You are in the 4th trimester right now and it's awful it really is. I promise it will get better.

Once you start to feel a bit more human and it will happen I think if your partner doesn't pull his weight might be time to have a conversation with him on where things are going relationship wise.

My son used to try to sleep lots in the day & then wanted to stay up til 12/1am. I just used to force him to stay away for stretches of time during the day. Took 6 weeks but he was in routine by then & stayed in it after that.

Following. My baby is exactly the same although he's only 2 weeks.

So I've a long way to go until 12 weeks (when it's supposed to ease) which makes me cry.

I only had 45 mins sleep last night and my arms are shaking with the pain of rocking him all night.

Definitely get your DM to help. Get her to come over and mind the baby and do so housework whilst you go to bed if she will.

Do you think that how your DF is means that you're prepared to put up with a DP who doesn't support you?

Doesn’t sound like the OP and her mum are in the same country?

I hear you but I promise my baby already got easier at 8 weeks. Today he slept 5 + 2 hours at night and usually doesn't even need to be settled anymore when I put him in his crib.
Easier but surely not easy yet. I'm also a bit desperate for the 12 week mark when the colic is supposed to stop. He got his first shot yesterday and is screaming his head off. Just when things started to get better.
I always leave the room bright but not too bright. Just enough so he can tell day from night. That helps immensely. It fixed his day night confusion in only a couple days.
And I also implemented a routine. 8 pm = no more noise. 9pm = bath, massage and then feed. 10pm = bed.
At 9am I usually go for a walk.

That's all I do and it helped his sleep. You can start doing the same thing early on too but don't expect too much at 2 weeks. It's really a bit early.

Also babies who sleep crappy during the day don't sleep well at night because they are overtired which releases stress hormones and in turn makes it hard for them to fall asleep. Complicated right??? You would think someone who is tired would just sleep.
So I'd say go for max. 3 hour naps during the day. Then wake him/her softly and offer milk. Then engage a little but not too much and then back to sleep.
When baby looks away or yawns let him sleep right away. It means the baby is tired.