Noisy baby at night

[KarisAbb]

I’ve been scrolling through this website like a mad lady at silly o clock to help and look for answers so I hope someone can shed some light and hopefully I’m not going mad!
First time mum my little one is 7weeks and he’s 13lbs - I no! He’s sleeps really well during the day but come 6 ish of the evening once he’s had his bottle we can’t settle him till his basically ready for his next bottle I think he has trapped wind as he does struggle to fart but he’s poops fine, how does this work!? Also when I lay him in his next to me for at night he has a party in his sleep! He is so loud and also very snotty/mucusy we have saline drops and done steamy baths to help this as he was born via section they said this would be common but why only at night I haven’t slept in days as he’s went through a stage of bringing milk up and it’s terrified me he’d would choke so I guess his noises at night are a trigger and I worry! My husband sleeps through it! I just need help as I’m so tired I can barely function l, I live on my nerves and need some sleep!
He’s grunts a lot in his sleep like he’s trying to fart as he brings his legs up but obviously being snotty and congested as well makes him sound like a pug with a bad cold, I’ve asked for help and don’t seem to be getting anywhere, what do I? Xx

Look up active sleeping!! Newborns are noisy as hell at night from weeks 3 to 12 and tend to kick, grunt and wriggle even when sound asleep. For some reason nobody tells new parents this!! You'll get a lot more rest when you know what it is.

Also, some babies spit up all the time and everywhere, including while lying down. They won't choke on it, I promise. Don't stress about it, it's OK.

Also, this period is HARD but it doesn't last forever - it will very soon be a distant memory while you delight in your beautiful smiling, babbling, happy baby. Until then take it day by day and enlist your husband to give you shifts where you can get a few extra hours of precious sleep. Solidarity - you've got this.

Oh and being grouchy/restless during the evening is called the witching hour (although it tends to last several hours). Another totally normal thing that newborn babies do, that new parents should be taught about!!

If you are breastfeeding they tend to cling to you like a limpet at this time of day and act like they are starving even though everything is fine and they're getting plenty of milk.

Babies like to make us worry!! But these are all totally normal things for your baby to do, I promise.

Thank you glad I'm not just crazy!
Just worries me as he's so congested I have taken him to the gp and he gave me gaviscon but he's showing no other signs of reflux so we don't use it as I no it can daisy constipation and he has trouble passing wind anyway!
Will just go with it and see how we go, just feels very isolating at times and so overwhelming xx

You might need to prop mattress up slightly - roll a towel up & put under mattress at end where head is.

You might need to keep him awake for longer stretches in the afternoon. They need plenty of sleep but not all day.

I had same thing with DS as he seemed to have a cold & wouldn't sleep well lying flat.

He also used to sleep all afternoon & then be awake teatime til around 1am. So I used to encourage him to be awake in the afternoon. It might sound cruel but I wasn't able to function with a 19 month old and a newborn on no sleep. By 6 weeks he was going to bed at a normal time & sleeping til morning.

Thank you!
The grunting seems like straining like he's trying to pass wind when he does this he also sometimes spits up a little milk is that normal too? M Sorry fir all the questions just so tired and worried

Some grunting is normal especially at 1am to 4am ish as its part of the whole active sleeping thing. But if you feel he is grunting or straining even when awake then there may be tummy issues going on too- I can't comment too much on that but I know friends have used colic drops etc

Hmm he seems like I do it ALL night and it's 7am he's still grunting/straining I have text my HV but being a Sunday don't suppose I'll hear anything til tomorrow now but thank you so much for your advise.
Trying to do my best on no sleep and no idea what I'm doing xxx

Mine did this. It was awful and I nearly slept. It just got better as he got older but I feel your pain!

Littlesnakes can I ask what you tried as i lm losing the will to live

My baby was so loud in his sleep - I can’t even describe it - it was like grunting/groaning. Really loud. Me and DH used to just take it in turns to sleep in the spare room.

I tried to research it loads and the only thing I could find was that babies’ windpipes are very soft when they’re born so can make weird noises as they breathe.

Mine stopped eventually but it was a hard few months.

Yeah I've researched loads it either says colic, reflux GORD/GERD, silent reflux or an allergy which I'm sure it's none of but again don't no!!! We took him to see a dr and they have checked him over and he's fine which is great but not sleeping is killing me and I'm a worrier anyway so any little noise wakes me up! Husband on the other hand, still snoring
I'll just go with it and see how he gets on like you say he's still small!
Just hate the thought of him being uncomfortable but he doesn't cry so that's a good sign I guess!
We've also tried bike legs and tummy massage to help him pass wind but he hates it and just wants to be held on my chest which seems to work better!
Hoping my HV can shed some light and hopefully I can get a decent nights sleep soon!!!! Xx

I put my son on anti reflux milk and the sickness stopped
That way he didn't need any drops for reflux. It's a thicker milk and changed our world.
I also slept in the guest room and the baby slept with my husband then I would come in to feed and change him. We swapped alternate nights if my husband was WFH or not working the next day and if he was working then I just did it. But I had the comfort of knowing he was with my husband if he did have a problem as he was far far too young to sleep alone

Could you put him on your husbands side of the bed?

Try anti reflux milk see if that stops him being sick and groaning

Hipp Organic my fave

Also I was advised and it was the best advice to wind and wind some more!! You can never wind enough

I just used to sit my son upright hand under his chin and he would burp. If I pat him he never managed to get the wind up.

Just a nice upright sit or over my shoulder very up right for about 10 minutes

We have tried different milks kendamil made him constipated really badly and comfort milk he didn't like so back on Aptamil 1 which he likes.He isn't being up a lot of milk only a very small bit just a drop or two occasionally it can be a little more if he burps which is normal but just worries me when he's sleeping or laying on his back! So I dont think he needs thicker milk or reflux milk!
Unfortunately we have a small bungalow and don't have a spare room, even if I went in the living room I can still hear him and it would worry me as husband doesn't always wake up
Just the constant groaning/grunting/straining which i don't know what I could be!
Thank you for the advice though it's so nice to not feel like I'm I'm on my own!

Evening restlessness is normal, mine would basically feed from 6-10pm almost continuously (I demand fed) and yes they are noisy!

I know it's not recommended but DS went into his own room at few weeks old and he seemed to sleep much better. He was born I think with a cold. His room was lovely & cosy compared to our room. It definitely helped with the snuffling. As I said we raised the top end of his mattress slightly.

We obviously checked on him constantly and had monitor.

Looking into it a bit more it could possibly be silent reflux he's seems very unsettled after his bottles, arches his back and cries a lot and pulls his legs up a lot and also clenches his fists!
I'm probably over reacting as a new mum I don't have a clue
But the constant grunting/straining at night is keeping him and I awake! He's clearly uncomfortable will speak to GP and see what they suggest I just don't want to give him anything that's going to create another problem!

@KarisAbb

Looking into it a bit more it could possibly be silent reflux he's seems very unsettled after his bottles, arches his back and cries a lot and pulls his legs up a lot and also clenches his fists! I'm probably over reacting as a new mum I don't have a clue But the constant grunting/straining at night is keeping him and I awake! He's clearly uncomfortable will speak to GP and see what they suggest I just don't want to give him anything that's going to create another problem!

Also his dad had CMA and looking at the signs of this he has a lot of them as well and after looking into it more they seem to go hand in hand - will definitely be calling GP

Honestly sounds like a totally normal newborn! Mine was exactly the same but by 3 months just grew out of it! I wouldn’t panic - saying that I was exactly the same haha!

I have a 7 week old who sounds like a wild animal when they sleep. Lots of goat like noises. We've also had heavy nasal congestion for 2.5 weeks. The longest cold in history it feels.
She only goes down in next to me for 2.5 hours before she wakes up choking on snot. Mostly it's just an hour. Nothing works. We have tried:
Nasal drops
Nasal aspiration
Bed head raised
Snuffle babe vapour oil
It's awfully depressing! When will it end?
All day naps in sling as ages upright. I'm absolutely exhausted from the very broken sleep

@thingymaboob

I have a 7 week old who sounds like a wild animal when they sleep. Lots of goat like noises. We've also had heavy nasal congestion for 2.5 weeks. The longest cold in history it feels. She only goes down in next to me for 2.5 hours before she wakes up choking on snot. Mostly it's just an hour. Nothing works. We have tried: Nasal drops Nasal aspiration Bed head raised Snuffle babe vapour oil It's awfully depressing! When will it end? All day naps in sling as ages upright. I'm absolutely exhausted from the very broken sleep

I'm glad I'm not the only one have you found anything that helps! I don't think I can do anymore sleepless nights or worrying and listening to him I feel awful

@KarisAbb the two most useful things are:-

1. a baby vac - nasal aspirator that attaches to the vacuum cleaner. It's safe for newborns and it pulls out tonnes of snot. Amazon prime.
2. snuffle babe vapour oil on a muslin near cot.

We have a tommee tippee dream maker which plays pink noise so it drowns out the fussy noise but I still wake up to cries. I wasn't sleeping at all because of worry etc so I bought an owlet. Expensive but will alert to low oxygen and heart rate.
It's been almost 3 weeks for us. When will it end?

Little update he's been prescribed omerprazle and got a referral for CMA just wondering what people experiences are with this medication and if so what was your baby like and did it have any side effects at all?
So tired and worried x

DD was a grunter ad probably spit up maybe 10-15 times a day? The grunting was HORRIBLE. My pediatrician said it sounds but but she was just learning how to poop. She seemed like she was uncomfortable, but she was mostly asleep and not crying, newborns don’t hesitate to tell you when something is uncomfortable. The spit up I think was maybe a bit of reflux and that she just drank too much milk, likes yours her weight gain was good to pediatrician said not to worry. Initially it was a worry but when it clearly didn’t bother her we just got on with it. We used to put a big muslin over her sheet tightly and swap it when we changed her. Otherwise we would leave her alone with some milk on her. It wasn’t causing any problems and just not sustainable to change her clothes 5x a night when she was asleep.

If your little one isn’t crying and is gaining weight, I recommend noise cancelling head phones over ear plugs to get you some sleep, he’ll be fine and probably stop grunting with in 2-3 weeks (mine stopped around 8 weeks).

@Happyhappyday I'm so glad I'm not the only one I feel like I'm going crazy! I understand he has to work his body out but he poops fine?! Is that me just being stupid but I just feel like something isn't right the grunting and straining is unbelievable, he goes so red as well which scares me and then cause he's pushed so hard makes himself sick! I'm petrified and scared of bedtime which sounds ridiculous I know but I dread it! He's 7 weeks +3 so fingers crossed it's only a little longer cause I don't think I can cope any more without sleep! I don't think I could wear headphones as I'd be worried I wouldn't wake up! Xx