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At breaking point with toddlers sleep.

56 replies

YellowEllis · 18/10/2020 04:22

15 month old has always been a pretty good sleeper, 7.30-6.30/6 everyday for a long time. For the past 2 months, very different story. He goes to bed at 7.30, wakes up at 2.30, 4.30, 5.30 and then that's it. He stands up in his cot and screams, not cries, screams, like a shrill throaty scream. He screams so hard he ends up sounding like he's lost his voice. It's so upsetting. He cut all his first molars around the same time this started 2 months ago, so we assumed things would settle down but they are now fully through and all other signs of teething have stopped and he's still doing it. Sometimes if we leave him to cry for 10 mins he'll fall back asleep but sometimes nope. I've been up with him since 2.30 and everytime I calm him down he starts screaming the second I put him down.

We've always made sure he self settled, we put him down at night and for his naps awake. He is fine at those times.

He has a nap at around 9.30 for 1.5/2 hours.
Sometimes he has a mini nap at 4-4.45 but not always.
We've tried pushing bed time earlier, later, we've tried letting him nap in the afternoon, keeping him awake. I'm at my wits end.

DH has now got in the habit of bringing him into the spare room and sleeping in bed with him this last week just so we can all get some sleep but I just know deep down it's making it worse.

Please can anybody offer any advice I really can't keep doing this forever

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Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 10:23

you'll end up on the routine the previous posters have suggested.

WittyFunnyUsername · 18/10/2020 10:39

Oh god I've already kept him up. We've been in the park and now were watching baby bums Blush do I let him nap now with a bottle or keep him up until 11.30 give him lunch and then put him down? We're both so thrown Grin

Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 10:44

@WittyFunnyUsername don't panic! I'm only offering an opinion, I can even be wrong 😉 How's he doing? I would give him some lunch at 11 the put him to bed. Then make bedtime not more than 5hrs from whatever time he wakes, even if it seems crazy early. View it as a bonus evening!

WittyFunnyUsername · 18/10/2020 10:44

Name change fail. I usually don't bitch about my child on this one Grin

WittyFunnyUsername · 18/10/2020 10:54

He looked very confused being presented with his lunch instead of a nap. He's happily eating though so that's good.

Do I just give him one bed time bottle then? Or can he have a small bottle after his lunch before his nap? I don't want to get it all wrong Blush

Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 11:16

If he normally has milk before his nap then that sounds OK to me. Up to you. Hoping he'll have a good nap 1.5-2 hrs, longer would be fine even.

WittyFunnyUsername · 18/10/2020 11:37

He's full of beans after lunch charging around the lounge. Worried I won't get him to nap now 😂

Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 11:39

Lol, 12 would be fine or even 12:30 if you need to.

Sexnotgender · 18/10/2020 12:51

Has he gone down for a nap yet?

Russell19 · 18/10/2020 13:02

Milk before his nap is fine if that's what you normally do. From a nutrition point of view he doesn't 'need' it but no harm if he enjoys it. How did it go?

WittyFunnyUsername · 18/10/2020 13:23

He wouldn't take his milk! Fell asleep at 5 to 12 and still sleeping.

Sexnotgender · 18/10/2020 13:50

Sounds good. I’m about to go wake DS, he fell asleep at 12.15.

Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 13:58

Just let him sleep if I was you, he needs a catch up.

YellowEllis · 18/10/2020 14:03

Yeah I can't bring myself to wake him up he's snoring away still

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Hercwasonaroll · 18/10/2020 15:24

Don't wake him. Have a fresh air filled afternoon.

Russell19 · 18/10/2020 15:54

Sorry to burst the bubble but if you let him sleep much after 2.30 bedtime may be hard!

YellowEllis · 18/10/2020 16:16

He woke up at 10 past 2! We went down the beach for a run around for an hour now having a snack. Praying for a better night!

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Sexnotgender · 18/10/2020 16:22

Fingers crossed for you.

Indecisivelurcher · 18/10/2020 17:07

Sounds like a better routine for daytime, hopefully it'll help at night! It might take a few days still. And you might end up at controlled crying still. But great start, well done.

Russell19 · 18/10/2020 18:11

Sounds like it suited him! Let us know how tonight goes. Flowers

shesgonebatshitagain · 18/10/2020 19:44

Good luck for tonight!!

babyblueee · 18/10/2020 20:25

Hi OP! My son is exactly the same. Teething really fucked up our routine & he has ended up co sleeping with us as were exhausted. Last night I decided enough was enough & have began the controlled crying method. It went pretty well last night, he woke up a few times and was up for an hour between 2-3am but he did stay in his own bed until 6.40am which for us is a huge success. We will see how tonight goes. Have you thought of sleep training again xx

YellowEllis · 19/10/2020 07:46

He woke up at 5 screaming but fell back asleep 15 mins later and only woke up again now. He's also babbling on the monitor rather than screaming which hasn't happened in months!

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Russell19 · 19/10/2020 09:01

Stick with it OP! Well done.

Sexnotgender · 19/10/2020 09:36

Amazing!!! Hope it continues well.

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