Just end the end of my rope now. 2.5 year old has never slept. It gets better for short periods and I consider him finally sleeping through then slips back again. We've had periods of cosleeping in our bed, periods of me falling asleep in my bed.... Aside from the bedtime routine which hasn't changed since he was a baby, consistency hasn't been great because I am so fucking tired I do whatever works at the current time, until I'm more rested, then get really firm and get him out of habits, then he slips into a different habit and before I know it I've made a different rod for my own back. Never done any sleep training as felt it would be so distressing for him as he is so, so attached to me.
I'm absolutely fed up with it. For the past few weeks he has slept through with maybe one wake up but then woken at 5. I then get into his bed and he does another hour cuddled into my neck. During that time I have to sleep with him constantly pulling my hair. He has done this his whole life and I have been really firm about stopping it but I am so tired and so used to it I can actually sleep while he does it so during my most tired times I drift in and out of sleep while having my hair pulled.
This morning, at 5.30, I was deep asleep and woke up because he bit me, hard, on the nose. I know this sounds ridiculous but it was honestly terrifying and made me cry. I didn't know what was happening. It was only momentary and then he was grinning at me and I was so shocked I asked him if he just bit me and he said yes. I told him how upset I was and how much he hurt me and that he must never, ever do that again. Then I left the room and he started screaming.
I feel utterly shit this morning. I feel like I have poured everything into getting this boy to sleep for the past two years while DH is totally unaffected (he won't accept DH in the night) only to be treated like that. I know he's only two. Am I overreacting? Where would you go from here?
How do I get him to fucking sleep on his own.