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Sleep time hell!!

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CursesAndMagic · 10/06/2020 21:43

My 11 month old has slept through. Self settles and is fine generally with naps and has been until now. She’s just turned 11 months and my whole routine with her has gone to crap. The past 5 nights she has woke in the night and won’t settle for sometimes up to two hours. Tonight it took me from 7:30-9:15 to get her to sleep. I never rock or hold her to sleep and she never falls asleep on the bottle. She has a little mobile above her crib on very low. She sleeps in the dark in her own room.

Before this started she was having an hour nap around 10-11am after waking around 7/7:30 then another smaller nap around 2/3pm which has always worked well. However this morning for example she was up at 7:30 after several wake ups for dummy (best night so far) and today was put down to nap at 10am slept from 10:30-11 then was up unable to get her to sleep any longer. She then went for a second nap at 1:55pm and slept until 3:20pm. I took her up to bed at 7:30pm and she finally fell asleep at 9:15pm.

She hasn’t had a bottle through the night for months now and doesn’t seem hungry but seems to be in pain every time I put her down in her crib. Tonight she’s had nurofen gripe water and more milk than she usually would for her night feed.

I’m not holding her to sleep just trying to comfort which she pushes away and tries to climb all over me. She has been standing for months now and cruising, crawling for even longer. She used to get put down stay lying down roll to get comfortable and then sleep by herself. Now she is standing up crying at the sides of the cot and I spent an hour and 15 mins laying her back down to leave the room and she would be back up standing. She is fighting sleep so much both naps and at night and is getting so over tired. I’ve tried shortening her naps. Missing her second nap which she refuses sometimes and all the other things that are usually suggested. I left her in cot from 7:30-8 and just went in to lay her down. Gave her a quick cuddle and back to lying her down. Then I gave gripe water and she passed a fair bit of wind but still didn’t settle until 9:15 where I held her for a few minutes put her in cot awake and she fell asleep. I don’t know what to do anymore I’m so exhausted. Is there a sleep regression and will it pass? Developmental. Should I expect her to walk soon? So many questions.

I can’t leave her to cry because I don’t agree with it I have however left her for 5 mins, 10 mins and it doesn’t make a difference because once she’s up and standing she won’t resettle. She’s tired enough to sleep but she’s fighting it. My partner works long shifts so I can’t leave her to cry at night. We also have an older child so don’t want to disturb her. She never gets rocked or out to sleep on us always put down drowsy.

Any advice would be fabulous. Or anyone going through the same thing?

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Peelspeelspeels · 10/06/2020 22:15

Poor you that sounds exhausting. Does she know how to sit back down from standing up? If she does, have you tried not laying her back down when she stands up in the cot? My son would just stand up again if I tried to lie him down immediately, but if I let him stand up and bob around the cot, throw his cuddly toys out eventually he’ll get it out his system and he’ll lie himself down when ready to sleep. Or if he’s really resisting I’ll lie him down and pat his bottom til he’s asleep - the patting stops him trying to stand again without actually restraining him.

CursesAndMagic · 10/06/2020 22:33

Thanks for replying. Yes I’ve done all that she just fights sleep so much. It’s exhausting because before she slept perfectly 🤔

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CursesAndMagic · 10/06/2020 22:35

And yes she can sit from standing she will lie down then get back up. Tonight was the worst it usually takes 30 mins to settle her these past few days

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2007Millie · 10/06/2020 22:45

Sounds like teething or a regression.
Just try and go with it as much as possible and not expect too much, give milk if needed. I sometimes find a little massage helps them relax.
It won't last so please try not to get anxious

user1471457757 · 10/06/2020 22:45

Sounds like she just needs one nap, rather than two a day.

Horehound · 10/06/2020 22:48

Definitely sounds like something is actually up with her and I would take a guess at teething!

physicskate · 11/06/2020 06:26

You have my sympathy. But welcome to the club.

Sounds like a regression or teething. Hopefully you can ride it out and things should go back to 'normal'.

MustStopSnacking28 · 11/06/2020 06:31

I also think this sounds like teething, my DS has always been a good sleeper and we feel very lucky but when he was teething he would wake for hours at a time and it was awful! Lasted for a few weeks but he did then resume his normal sleeping so there is hope. We just had to ride it out which I know is really unhelpful advice but there wasn’t any solution for us apart from to wait for his teeth to come through.

CursesAndMagic · 11/06/2020 06:39

I thought teething at first. Her top tooth popped through about 2 days ago. Would this still be bothering her this much?

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Horehound · 11/06/2020 07:57

Usually they come in pairs so I'd expect another one!

PrincessHoneysuckle · 11/06/2020 08:15

Drop the pm nap.I did this and ds was out like a light at bedtime

FATEdestiny · 11/06/2020 08:18

I thought teething at first. Her top tooth popped through about 2 days ago. Would this still be bothering her this much?

Teeth always come through in pairs.if ones through, the other is on its was very soon.

CursesAndMagic · 11/06/2020 08:33

The other top tooth is already through. Has been for a while

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2007Millie · 11/06/2020 09:27

When my son is teething it affects him for a good couple of weeks

Melamine · 11/06/2020 10:26

There’s a ‘leap’ around this time. Sleep went to shite for us for a few weeks. Happily it is back and actually better than ever at 12 months!

CursesAndMagic · 11/06/2020 10:44

Yeah she slept last night around 9:30pm
Woke at 12 & 2 but settled back down with dummy and then up at 7am for a bottle back down until 8am. Put her down for a nap just before had a bottle and a snuggle put her down and she’s fell asleep so that’s a good thing.

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esmereldak · 11/06/2020 20:18

Literally could have wrote this myself @cursesandmagic! Thank god im not the only one. My little boy is 11 months old in 2 weeks, was in a really good routine, napped 9am-10.30, then 2-3.30, bed at 7 most days. Started sleeping through with no bottle recently then BAM randomly last Friday he screams every time I put him down in his cot, won't settle until in bed with me (really didn't wanna get in his habit but exhausted). He goes to bed ok some nights but wakes around an hour later and is hysterical! Is catnapping most days & seems more hyper than usual at night time. He is also showing signs of wanting to walk eg standing up on his own without holding onto furniture & walking with his walker. Really hoping it is a developmental stage & doesn't last too much longer. I'm tired. X

CursesAndMagic · 12/06/2020 10:15

I don’t know what to do!!! Yesterday she had a morning nap for an hour ten minutes then refused her afternoon nap went down for bed earlier than usual and slept until 5am when she was awake until 6am and then slept until 9am.

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girlmummy25 · 12/06/2020 10:39

If she is kicking up that much fuss could it be worth brining her back downstairs for half an hour and then trying again? It seems to work for me when my DD stands up and shouts from her cot x

Melamine · 12/06/2020 11:00

OP you could try waking her from her morning nap after half an hour or so, so she is still tired enough for her afternoon nap? Don’t have the morning nap too late either. If she goes back to sleep at 6 I would also not let her sleep in until 9, maybe wake at 7.30 or 8am latest so she is again tired enough for morning nap and the cycle isn’t perpetuated

CursesAndMagic · 12/06/2020 19:49

Well today she was up at 9 and so was I as I’m exhausted as well as 5 months pregnant so we all needed it. Tried to put her down for morning nap didn’t happen gave up after an hour. So she was awake 9am-1:30pm. Napped 1:30pm put down with no fuss self settled to sleep then up at 2:40 managed well until bath time. In bed at 7:20pm stood straight up left her for ten mins went in gave her a hug while she was standing in cot. Lay her down and she fell asleep by herself. Fingers crossed tonight is okay

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CursesAndMagic · 13/06/2020 08:46

Update so last night she slept 7:30pm-8am which is the best sleep she’s had in months!! Maybe the one nap is the way to go

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esmereldak · 13/06/2020 13:22

@cursesandmagic that's so good! My little boy slept 6-6 but did struggle getting him to settle at 6pm. He's fine now going for naps! So weird. Maybe we will have little walkers soon xx

CursesAndMagic · 14/06/2020 11:33

Last night she took longer to settle than ever haha. She had one nap at 1:30-3 then was up until 9pm!!! I think something was going on though but she ended up rolling around and managed to self settle eventually so it was still good despite the time it took. That’s the first time she’s done that when she starts rolling and standing I usually lay her back down but last night I’d tried everything so left her to mess around. She then slept 9pm-8:30 with no wake ups so it wasn’t a bad night really. She’s a bit cranky this morning I think more teeth are on their way so maybe that contributed to last nights unsettled period.

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FATEdestiny · 14/06/2020 11:48

Not lying her down is a good idea, in fact I'd consider it necessary once baby has the physical ability to go from standing to sitting to lying down without any help.

I used to put baby in the cot standing up (every time) and got in the habit of tapping the mattress and telling her to lie down. It's better for good sleep hygiene long term if she does this herself.