Sleep time hell!!

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My 11 month old has slept through. Self settles and is fine generally with naps and has been until now. She’s just turned 11 months and my whole routine with her has gone to crap. The past 5 nights she has woke in the night and won’t settle for sometimes up to two hours. Tonight it took me from 7:30-9:15 to get her to sleep. I never rock or hold her to sleep and she never falls asleep on the bottle. She has a little mobile above her crib on very low. She sleeps in the dark in her own room.

Before this started she was having an hour nap around 10-11am after waking around 7/7:30 then another smaller nap around 2/3pm which has always worked well. However this morning for example she was up at 7:30 after several wake ups for dummy (best night so far) and today was put down to nap at 10am slept from 10:30-11 then was up unable to get her to sleep any longer. She then went for a second nap at 1:55pm and slept until 3:20pm. I took her up to bed at 7:30pm and she finally fell asleep at 9:15pm.

She hasn’t had a bottle through the night for months now and doesn’t seem hungry but seems to be in pain every time I put her down in her crib. Tonight she’s had nurofen gripe water and more milk than she usually would for her night feed.

I’m not holding her to sleep just trying to comfort which she pushes away and tries to climb all over me. She has been standing for months now and cruising, crawling for even longer. She used to get put down stay lying down roll to get comfortable and then sleep by herself. Now she is standing up crying at the sides of the cot and I spent an hour and 15 mins laying her back down to leave the room and she would be back up standing. She is fighting sleep so much both naps and at night and is getting so over tired. I’ve tried shortening her naps. Missing her second nap which she refuses sometimes and all the other things that are usually suggested. I left her in cot from 7:30-8 and just went in to lay her down. Gave her a quick cuddle and back to lying her down. Then I gave gripe water and she passed a fair bit of wind but still didn’t settle until 9:15 where I held her for a few minutes put her in cot awake and she fell asleep. I don’t know what to do anymore I’m so exhausted. Is there a sleep regression and will it pass? Developmental. Should I expect her to walk soon? So many questions.

I can’t leave her to cry because I don’t agree with it I have however left her for 5 mins, 10 mins and it doesn’t make a difference because once she’s up and standing she won’t resettle. She’s tired enough to sleep but she’s fighting it. My partner works long shifts so I can’t leave her to cry at night. We also have an older child so don’t want to disturb her. She never gets rocked or out to sleep on us always put down drowsy.

Any advice would be fabulous. Or anyone going through the same thing?

Yeah sometimes it’s two hours of her just standing then crying on and off messing about so I just give up on the nap at these times and get her up because there’s no point. She got up at 8:30 today very cranky around 10:30 tried to put her down for a nap around 11 and she didn’t sleep so will stick with the one nap around 1ish like I have been doing because I don’t want a fight and she usually self settles around then ready for a nap I think last night teeth were playing a part to be honest because she seemed to be in pain

Update 2. We’re back on two naps. The morning nap has become a 30 min cat nap and the second nap has become an hour. Much easier to get her down she’s self settling again and sleeping a solid 12 hours at night with the occasional hiccup. She wasn’t ready to transition to one nap and was constantly overtired so let’s hope the good sleep continues.

We’ve found with our DD when she’s having trouble going to sleep, she goes to sleep much faster when we do g go back in after bedtime. She has also generally been a good sleeper but had periods of regression. I don’t have a problem with cry it out but we’ve also found that if she does cry when she goes to sleep (very rare) if we go in repeatedly she ends up crying off an on for up to two hours. Whereas if we don’t go back in after initially putting her down, she goes to sleep usually within 5 mins or so. Every kid is different, but I think for ours coming back in repeatedly just taunts her because we aren’t going to get her back up obviously!

When she dropped to one nap we did have some funky sleep for a few weeks- one nap wasn’t enough but two was too many!

She wasn’t ready to transition to one nap and was constantly overtired

You did the right thing, 1-nap days usually begin around the 18 month mark (ish). My youngest DD stayed on 2 naps per days until 20/22 months old.

Sometimes she won’t take the second nap like today for example. She slept 1 hour at 11-12 and was asleep at 3pm
But slept 14 minutes and now she’s in a terrible mood. We can’t force them to sleep. She has been much better overall self settling and will not be put in cot completely awake and roll about for 10-30 minutes until she independently falls asleep. So hopefully this continues. Last night she slept a solid 13 hours overnight which is good.