Not waking for crying baby/breathing monitor

[Murphynat]

Hi my DS is 5 weeks old and I'm not waking when his angelcare alarm goes off. Im also not waking properly when he cries and it's beginning to really worry me. My hubby leave for two weeks tonight and he's not very happy with me. Feeling like a failure 😢

@skinnymarshmallow good luck - i truly hope this hasn't coloured your opinion of all men foever, there are lots of decent men out there who won't lie to you about minor things in order to make you feel bad, and you deserve to be with one.

My mind actually went to the same place as @moobar but we do have similar backgrounds. Coupled with the fact that I do think it's odd that you didn't stir when the alarm allegedly went off. I'm a heavy sleeper and I tend to wake before my babies cry, when they start rustling. Either way you are a new mum and your husband needs to work with you to find a solution as opposed to scalding you and leaving you alone with the baby.

"he's not very happy with me" is a weird thing to say, surely he should just be concerned.

How many times has it happened? This happened to me once but I was absolutely exhausted at the time, we had stayed up until 3am watching stranger things so I slept through DS waking at half 6. Luckily, DP was in.

@Murphynat how is it going, are you managing to wake up?

@Murphynat I’m afraid I read your post and it immediately triggered the exact same concerns @moobar raised. I’m not a DV solicitor, but I have experienced domestic abuse, and the sort of comments your husband made ring alarm bells for me. I really hope that’s not what’s going on. But please look after yourself and talk to people. Us on here if that’s easiest for you. As for the sleeping through: you are obviously a loving mum or else you wouldn’t be worried about this. From what you’ve described, I’m not entirely sure this has been a regular thing, so if it’s a one off, then you really just need to cut yourself some slack and tell your husband to do the same. If you’re sure it’s happening on a regular basis, then talking to a GP or health visitor sounds a good idea. Perhaps you are anaemic. If you lost blood in the birth that can easily happen. Please take care of yourself

Before anyone condemns her DH (I do understand the genuine concerns though) OP said she is also having trouble waking for the baby. Surely she knows once finally awake that the baby really was crying.

I would make a GP appointment op, that level of tiredness sounds extreme. I have 6 week old and 2 other young DC to round around after so I am shattered in the evenings but my baby still wakes me usually before he even gets to crying properly.

The only times I have ever been tired enough to sleep through loud noises is early pregnancy where I simply cant be stirred, so maybe there is something going on with you that should be addressed medically?