Sleep deprivation zzz

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Just thought I'd start a discussion and see if anyone else is feeling that dreaded "are we going to get any sleep tonight" feeling...

Our background have 2 young girls 3y and 6months! DD1 usually a pretty good sleeper and DD2 was getting better HOWEVER Since Christmas it's been a lot worse .. both of them waking numerous times in the night but now the icing on the cake ...they both have colds ahhh!
I can feel it's gonna be a long night already, the baby is coughing in her sleep.

So I feel I need to either laugh or joke about it otherwise I'll cry lol soo anyone else wanna join my midnight party .. open til early hours come on in!

Well we had an 'improvement' of every 2 hours so I guess that's better. Ds didn't wake up again but DD woke properly at 7.30 instead of 9 so I missed out on quiet cuddles with him first thing.

DD is already having a nap so I'm having a coffee and trying to find some motivation.

Glad you're not feeling to bad today, it makes a difference to your day doesn't it.

We're meant to be off to the park today with a friend but it's looking grim out so might just be a coffee and cake day. What is everyone up to.

@doadeer did it improve? Or should I not even ask??!?!

6 wake ups last night
Nap this morning was 23min. And now he is yawning and refusing to go down again.
coffee isn't enough

@Lolacat1234 we started sleep training last night be is 12 months - it was hell but working with a sleep consultant so I don't feel alone.

@doadeer oh I see! 😭 good luck with it, I hope you have success! Keep us updated, this could be me in 3 months xx

How's everyone's day been? We had a quiet day doing jobs and visiting family.

Anyone else wish their baby came with a manual? I feel this sleeping issue will be never ending 😥 before she got this cold she would go down on her own beautifully, ok we had the odd wake up but sleep was much better. I'm now worried we're making bad habits to help her sleep with this cold. And I know all she wants is her mum if she feels rough, just feels like ahhhh!

Another night ahead .. here we go!

We've been sleep training and tonight DS 12 months took 45 mins to go to sleep, previous night it was 90 mins. Lots of tears in that time. But he would be crying with any situation other than lying in bed with me. It's been so so tough. I've had 15m now of no sleep (very painful pregnancy). We've tried to be patient but it's impacting my ability to do my job and I'm worried I'll lose my Contract. I'm working with a sleep consultant

DD is still wide awake, I've literally bounced her in her chair for 2 hours and fed her and she's bright eyed. Only upside is she's really happy and not screaming at me.

DS took forever to go to sleep, could here him messing about until gone 8, luckily I don't need to be in the room with him.

I really wouldn't worry about bad habits just do what you need to do.

@doadeer least you can already see positives, which hopefully will mean he's beginning to realise changes are happening. Hang in there! Before long you'll look back and think cor remember when etc.
Least you've got the support of the sleep consultant too. How is he during the night? Or is it just going off etc?

@Motherofmonsters hope you managed to get some sleep in the end. Your so right about 'doing what ever we can' kind of thing. We've had improvement as the nights gone on waking up a little later, however she wanted a chat (I didn't lol) had a cuddle and she's gone back off. Hopefully will get a decent block in 🤞

We had a little miracle, I put DD in her cot and got myself ready for bed and she actually put herself to sleep! Probably a one off but cheered me up. Still had a terrible night though, she did 2 hours and then 3 but DS was up dancing around again at 4 until 6.

He's at nursery today so hopefully I can have a quiet day.

Did you manage to get a good block in?

Slight improvement for us. Still quite unsettled but most times she cried out she managed to get herself back off to sleep before I went in. Had to go in 2 or 3 times plus a night feed around 3. Pretty early wake time though, 6am. I worry she only ever sleeps 11 hours, my son used to sleep over 12 and have great naps so it does worry me x

Hi all thought I'd check in.

Hope your all having a lovely weekend!

Soo DD2 cold has improved and she seems loads better, me trying not to continue any bad habits I've persevered with making her go back to sleep in her own room. Well that's been fine but we've woken up crying every 2 hours! We haven't done this in months 😩 thankfully she settles off back to sleep by having a cuddle. She's going through a stage where she doesn't like being left at sleep time and cries. I know they say there's a 6 month separation anxiety or something but you know when it's like ah what's wrong, what do I do bla bla.

Finding these bedtimes really hard at the moment 😥😴

We are still having inconsistent wake ups throughout the night, and still a night feed anywhere from 12:30 to 3:00am. Last night she was really unsettled between 5 and 6. Kept crying out but going back to sleep again, I wonder if it was wind but at 9 months you would think colic issues would be long gone. Also the last few days she's been learning so many new things, she can clap her hands on cue now and wave, and she's been experimenting with word sounds like "C" when she sees the cat or we sing 5 little ducks (for quack quack). So maybe her little brain is working overtime at night? I just don't know, think I'm making excuses!!!

We had 7.10pm (only took 10 mins to go off) with a short wake up at 5am, 6am then up at 7am. Amazing. No feeds or big tears. I can't get my hopes up till we have three nights like this!

Not sure how much longer I can survive doing 2 hour wakings. He's 15 weeks, it shouldn't be this bad, right?

@GingerBeverage it will pass I promise you. It's hard when your stuck in it but the 4 month regression is hard! Baby is just adjusting and getting used to their sleep cycles but facet developed how to self settle back after. Hand hold .. it does pass tho!

Update our end ... well what a couple of weeks! DD2 is over here cold but the bad sleep association's I created last week meant she wanted them to continue this week! Ahh... after being up most the night Sunday literally crying every half hour from
2 wanting to be held to sleep etc!
Monday saw the change..we ditched the dummy, removed the sleepyhead and wait for it resulted in controlled crying to help with self settling! And what a transformation! ☺️

How's everyone else getting on xx

We're in the thick of a bad sleep patch at the moment. Back to two night feeds last night and she's ill with a cold so I'm hoping once she's feeling better it'll improve. First day at her childminder tomorrow so in reality I have a feeling the sleep situation is just going to get worse from here!

How did the controlled crying go?

Hi @Lolacat1234 sorry it's taken me a while to reply, I didn't realise I got logged out and never knew I had a reply 🙈

How's things your end? How's did her first day with the childminder today? Bless her that's a big transition! When DD1 started nursery (she was 10.5 months) her sleep went to pot 😢 did improve thankfully!

Our end ... well I keep falling into a trap. DD2 is great at going down both for naps and at bedtime it's just during the night when she wakes up .. I give in to quickly go to her, and because she's crying pick her up.. and because I don't want her to wake anyone else up end up bringing her in with me! Which isn't great!!! I need to be consistent I know but I don't want her to wake others ah! It's all well and good saying in the day I'm gonna be strong at night etc and then the night comes and I'm like I need sleep and give in to quickly. Ah x