Help! What time should be bedtime for a 23 mth old? 8? 9? 10??

[Luxmum]

Sigh, For the last 2 weeks my DS just WONT go to sleep. I used to be able to put him in his cot awake, at 8:30 and just saunter out the room, and he'd happily lie there drinking his milk and singing to himself. Now, he wont. He wont even let me put his PJs on, so often I give up in frustration and he goes to bed just in the nappy. One of us has to stay in the room till he is asleep and this can take up to 2 hours.... So from 8-10 we're in his room. ie we have NO life. I'm due in 3 weeks, so need all the sleep I can get, and the thought of haveing TWO children who need hours to put to sleep is just headwreaking.. He wont let his dad put him to sleep (screams the house down for me) and if he gets really upset, he has a lovely habit of vomitting, so I know we do take this as an excuse for treating him softly. But please, is this a phase? When will it STOP!!!

olive, that seems to be our routine now as well.

dd1 will be getting an extra 15-30mins once she is in her own room.

7pm - Get the nursery to cut his day time nap down. I have a friend whose three children had all completely given up their daytime nap by the age of 2 - it isn't that unusual (sadly!). You can try cutting it down gradually to an hour and a half and then to an hour and then seeing what works. That is what we did with ds, thankfully dd still has an hour and a half (she is 24 months btw)