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Wtf is going on, 8 week old still not sleep

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JamesonCask · 23/09/2019 00:38

Been trying since 8pm to get her to sleep and every time I put her down she wakes up. Im exhausted.

No to co-sleeping before anyone suggests it.

I tried googling sleep regression etc and can't find anything. It's been 3 days of bad sleep now, very short naps unless being walked in buggy

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SS1987 · 23/09/2019 19:39

At that age if you’re not going to co sleep then you probably just have to ride it out. Swaddle and white noise may help slightly. I was like you when my little girl was born, swore blind I would never ever co sleep - 10 weeks in and extremely sleep deprived I got her in bed with me in the early hours and slept the most i’d slept in a long time. Only done it as and when and it was never an every night kind of thing. She’s happily slept in her own cot since 5 months (on the odd occasion ended up with us) it will get to a point where you will be so tired you’ll think I need to give something else a go. Your baby won’t be 3 months and in bad habits. Your baby and you will probably be a bit more rested and you might find you can put her down to sleep easier as she’s not over tired. Good luck

AiryFairyMum · 23/09/2019 20:22

Eight weeks? Have you read about the fourth trimester. I'd just go along with your baby's timings and let her find her natural sleep patterns.

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JamesonCask · 23/09/2019 20:33

Ok thread is getting derailed with all the co sleeping which I keep repeating isn't what I want to do.

I do have a routine with her, we have bath and swaddle and feed and usually I then keep offering feeds until she sleeps. Last night was just so strange as being awake until 2am isn't normal as at this age babies sleep more than being awake. Hopefully it's just a once off

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Basil90 · 23/09/2019 21:18

@MustardScreams our baby is in a basket next to our bed and when he needs comforting at night that's exactly what we do. He's not exactly 'stuck on his own' out in the garden shed

LiveInAHidingPlace · 23/09/2019 23:08

"Last night was just so strange as being awake until 2am isn't normal as at this age babies sleep more than being awake."

I think you have unrealistic expectations and think everything is going to be like in the books. It's not that simple. There is no "should" when it comes to sleep with little babies.

Ginger1982 · 23/09/2019 23:12

Hate to tell you but you're probably going to experience peaks and troughs of sleeping patterns over the next few years! DS is 2.5 and a few months ago started a habit of waking up during the night. It was short lived but I fully expect such a thing to happen again.

Bouledeneige · 23/09/2019 23:40

I agree with not co-sleeping. A couple of friends of mine ended up with lots worse problems trying to get their babies out of their bed later. So just delaying the problem and they ended up really, really exhausted for months/years. I think start with the good habits that you mean to go on with. I am also a light sleeper and just couldn't get the quality of sleep with the baby in my room, let alone in my bed. I was always half listening out for them. Each to their own.

I'd just try to stick to a very good routine during the day, with lots of fresh air and not too many long naps. And a very good wind down bedtime routine with bath and feed etc - not you watching TV or other distractions. But you're probably doing all that. Its a phase and it will pass - it will just feel like crap right now. But everything changes very quickly with babies as I'm sure you know.

LiveInAHidingPlace · 24/09/2019 01:45

"A couple of friends of mine ended up with lots worse problems trying to get their babies out of their bed later. So just delaying the problem and they ended up really, really exhausted for months/years. "

That's not as a direct result of cosleeping though. It's their failure to properly set a new routine later (or to just accept that maybe having your children next to you in bed isn't the worst thing in the world. The British/Americans are the only people I know that stick so rigidly to separating themselves from their kids to sleep. My husband is Asian and thinks I'm crazy for wanting to sleep apart from the children.)

There IS no routine making with a baby that young. Their tiny brains are not even beginning to be ready to be conscious of such a thing.

At that age, it's basic survival tactics.

Harrysmummy246 · 24/09/2019 12:50

Basil, please get down off that High horse you're on while you only have a 3 month old. You really aren't in a position of experience there.

MrsPellegrinoPetrichor · 24/09/2019 12:56

The OP couldn't have made it clearer from the off she didn't want to co sleep!

I second the suggest of warming the cot before putting her down but seeing as she has a cold that might be the reason she's so restless.

misspiggy19 · 24/09/2019 12:59

She’s only 8 weeks old for heavens sake!

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JamesonCask · 24/09/2019 13:40

@misspiggy19 oh do fuck off. It's not like I was asking how to get baby to sleep through the night, I was asking why baby was still awake at 2am

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