Going to stop bfing at night tonight

[Lovage]

Saw my GP today who reckons nightfeeding is probably affecting my (already dicey) fertility. I really want another baby, and soon, since I'm getting old and it took 5 years and infertility treatment to conceive DS. Also I'm knackered.

I've been trying to stop bfing in the night for months now. DS is now 1 and I'm really pretty confident that it's not hunger. It's that he wakes up, is unhappy because he's woken and bfing is the way he wants to go back to sleep (which I can quite see, from his point of view). We've been trying gradual withdrawal but most nights I do end up bfing him after DP has tried to soothe him for an hour or has got him back to sleep but then DS wakes up again 45 mins later etc. We're not prepared to leave him to cry on his own but are going to try DP holding and rocking him while he cries/flails around/screams etc. We have been doing this for months but this time I really am not going to end up bfing him.

Really not looking forward to this. And poor DP is going to have a really rough night and is knackered already from bad night last night. So we did the sensible thing and finished off a bottle of wine with dinner... Ah well, maybe I'll be in too much of a drunken stupor to hear DS cry. Fat chance.

Hope you all have better nights than us! (Secretly hoping that posting this will make him sleep through, which he has done about 6 times)

Last night was much better. DD griped a few times but didn't cry until 5.30!!! DP settled her and she slept until 6.30.

So far so good then.

How was everyone else last night?

Excellent! sounds like you are making real progress.
Yeah i've been using canesten and the rash seems to be clearing up now, definitely not red raw anymore, thanks.
dd slept ok last night until dh went to the toilet at 3am, and it just happened to be when she was in light sleep/stiring anyway so it woke her up. I tred settling her on and off for an hour (was actually quite annoyed that he had woken her but i still had to do the settling!) but then eventually brought her in our bed where she finally went to sleep

Gosh I wish DD would settle in our bed, we used to love sleeping with her but she just wants to play if we try it.

I know what you mean about toilets waking the baby, our's does too. Also we have really creaky floorboards which wake her up and it makes me so angry.

She slept all night last night. I don't want to make too much of it though in case it was a one-off.

DD only sleeps in our bed if dh isn't in it! She still tries to play for a while but will eventually settle. He has been sleeping on sofa for a week or so because a) she disturbs him too much (that would be why he is always still snoring when i get up to her then [hmmm]) and b) because i disturb him to much by complaining that his snoring is stopping me from getting back to sleep after i get up to her.

Sounds like you had a good night! Hope it wasn't a oneoff. We have had terrible nights here, dd is sleeping til 2 ish, then is unable to get back to sleep. she'll go quiet for a few minutes after i go in to her, then start up again. It's not crying, just complaining. Friday night she slept til 11 ish and then started so i didnt have any uninterrupted sleep. Saturday we were out for dinner so she didnt go to bed til 9.45, but was still waking every 2 hours, finally gave her milk and medised at 4ish. Had friends here for the weekend so maybe that was what disturbed her...

Last night i almost gave her milk but eventually settled her in with me instead (and then got a 4 hour stretch in so dont feel too bad). am glad i didnt give her the milk tho cos although it seemed like she needed it at the time, she didnt drink all her milk this morning, and wasn't bothered about breakfast either so couldnt actually have been hungry in night.

Don't really know what to do. We had such a promising start but now sleep is 100 x worse than when i was giving her the night feed. At the same time, i am confident she doesnt actually need the night feed anymore so don't really want to start giving it again.

Well our nights seem to be going from one extreme to another! After the weekend of terrible nights, tuesday she wouldnt go to bed until 9pm and was properly screaming everytime i tried to put her in her cot. Tried leaving her in frustration but she just wouldnt settle so got her up again. Once she went to bed though, she slept until 7.15am! Yesterday afternoon she went for her sleep at just after 12 (earlier than usual) and was still asleep at 3.45 when i started to wonder what was going on! she did wake up when i checked on her but if i hadn't probably would've stayed there all day!
Last night i was anticipating another bad night, especially after the mammoth daytime sleep but she was ready for bed at the usual time and apart from a couple of single cries slept until 6am ish.
I however did not sleep as i have caught the cold she had last week (very few outward symptoms, just a bit of snot but feeling very wooly headed)and felt absolutely awful all night-at least now i know why she was sleeping so badly over the weekend although i do feel very guilty that i didnt give it the sympathy it deserved!