When did your DC reliably sleep through?

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DD is 4 months old and goes to bed ok at 7pm but then wakes at midnight, then 2am (for about 2 hours) and then is up for the day at 5am. We are really struggling I'm constantly feeling in a fog.

I'm aware I could have months/ years of this to come yet but want to know if there's light at the end of a (possibly very long) tunnel.

When did your DC sleep through?

You won’t like my answer but from the day we got back from hospital, we put him to bed at 7pm, one very quick feed around midnight, straight back to sleep, and then he woke at 7am. Two long naps in the day as well. I did follow the strict GF routine (which is very unpopular on Mumsnet) but to be honest I think it was just sheer luck.

10 months - when we did controlled crying. Except for illnesses, he has slept through ever since - now 2 and a half

Dd1 did it from 20 months (she slept through for the first time at 9 months but not reliably until much later). Dd2 is nearly 1 and has slept through the last 5 nights in a row but wouldn't say she's reliable yet

My little boy is 15 months and we are still waiting , we've had a few weeks of a good patch but it's all gone down hill again

DD1 was 3.5 (years). DD2 was 15 months. DS is currently nearly 5 months and sleeps through most nights. All treated in exactly the same way/followed the same routines. Which shows it’s generally the baby you have, rather than anything you do or don’t do!

Dc1 had an 8 hour stretch from 3 months, and slept through from 6 months. Then she hit 18 months and has barely slept through since, only now getting better at 4.5

Dc2 is 10 months and has slept through twice. Mostly 2-3 night feeds. I cant remember what it feels like not to be tired!

Three kids, nine reliably slept before age 2. But we don’t agree with controlled crying and never did it. They do sleep eventually, hang in there! What you describe is normal for a 4mo.

My 2.5 year old has just started sleeping through in her own bed about 5 out of 7 nights. Prior to that she would wake about 2ish and come in to bed with us, but still sleep pretty much all night really. My 13 month old breastfed baby is currently a fucking nightmare for sleeping though.

From about 3-3.5

That was years and not months

Dd slept through reliably from 2. She now does 7:30-6:30 every night, after a stint of waking up at 4.

4.5 years

All kids are different, comparing will just drive you nuts. My DSis took great pleasure in telling me all three of hers slept through at six weeks, my three did not!!!!!

I agree with SoyDora. My sister and I were very different sleepers. She was and still is a night owl and I have always been an early bird. My dd is a night owl and was three before she slept through. I remember the fog and just how difficult it was being sleep deprived. It is really important to try and take naps during the day when baby naps. Eat healthy and look after yourself. Sometimes I breastfed lying down in bed and asked her dad to keep an eye on us so I didn't roll on her if I fell asleep. Then he would take her. We took turns to try and make sure we both got sleep. It does get easier

did controlled crying at around 8/9 months as we had a boobaholic! she would still have the occasional wake up and night feed here and there. slept right through from 12 months on

DS maybe 4 months? We were such good parents.
DD probably 3 years. We learned it wasn't us, it was the child!

Dd: 5 years
Ds: Still waiting ( he's over 5 years)

DC1 6 weeks
DC2 4 years and still iffy
DC3 1 year
DC4 nearly 2 years old and still hit and miss

2 years but we can get 2/3 wakes. At 4 months I was getting 2 hour blocks maximum, probably not even. It sucks, but I think managing expectations might help. Try to go to bed at 7 and you get 5 hours of sleep, that is what I did and I still go when he goes. It is horrible OP I am sorry

DS was amazing and slept through from late 10:30/11 feed until 7 from 3 months ish. And from 7-7 from 6 months. DD didn’t sleep through until about 9 months. She woke twice a night to feed until then. But this took less than 15 minutes each time as I was strict and fed in the dark and put her straight back down after the feed. Or perhaps it was luck!

Ds1 was 6 weeks, easiest baby ever and we thought we must be super amazing parents!
Ds2 was 3 years, we realised how lucky we had been before! We ended up coleeping as it got us all the most sleep.
Ds3 was 9 months or so, he had nights where he slept through from about 6 months but reliably was about 9 months.

Eldest - 7 (he's only just turned 8, he only started sleeping through once he realised I couldn't keep getting in bed with him due to new baby, he has told me he still wakes up but goes back to sleep by himself)
Middle - around 1 I think (always been a great sleeper)
Youngest - 3 months! I have the odd night where she wakes up but not often)

I really think it depends on the child as I don't feel I've done anything different each time

Two of mine slept 6 hours a night from being a week old.
They also started waking in the middle of the night once they started school nursery at 3 and carried on until they were about 5.

My other two weren't sleeping through reliably until about 2, both had night terrors but once they did sleep that was it unless they were ill etc.

All of mine have been very easy to get to sleep though, no rocking, white noise, sitting with, multiple drinks of water, lights on etc

Did controlled crying at 9/10 months and has slept through since, apart from illness obviously. Know it's not for everyone though.

I'm not going to answer your question directly OP because I don't think it will help you.

What I think will help you more is instead of comparing your babies to others, is to work with your baby and see what you can do to help you get more rest.

Are you BF? When they get up at midnight or 5 can your partner get up with them to give you more sleep? At this age I also went to bed when the baby did. I don't remember them being in bed for 7 this early on, probably nearer 8 or 9, so it wasn't as early for me to go to bed!