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11 months of shit sleep how the hell do you cope?

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IsItBiggerThanTheBoxItsIn · 13/02/2019 15:15

I feel like i'm falling to bits. I'm crying or angry so often because I am so tired. I'm struggling at work because I am so emotionally and physically drained. I'm foul to my husband and a boring whinge to my friends when it's bad....which is often.

DD is 11 months, has been a crappy sleeper from the beginning. Better periods are getting one 3 or 4 hour sleep at night and 1-2 hourly wakeups after that with a rare blissful 5 hours. Mostly she's woken up minimum 2 hourly.

She's bf and still feeds to sleep and through the night. We have co-slept for survival. She would nap anywhere but this week it's been really challenging. She doesn't always need to feed to sleep but does need rocking or to be touching me to fall asleep. We have a solid bedtime routine, eating is hit or miss and she drinks alot of water.

The last two nights I tried to put her in her cot all night. Managed it night 1 but got 3 hrs sleep myself most of which was on the floor in her room or sat in the chair. On night 2 it went well till 2am when she became hysterical so I gave up and took her to bed because I just couldn't cope.

It feels so pathetic but I just don't know what the hell to do. My husband is at home most of the time but is disabled so doing the night stuff has a huge impact on him. He does everything he can to give me breaks on my days off but I can't sleep in the day anymore.

I'm sick of bf all night, i'm fed up of not getting more than 2 hours sleep. I can't do cry it out. She is starting to walk a bit which i'm guessing is making it worse

If you've been through this, when the hell did it get better?

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IsItBiggerThanTheBoxItsIn · 10/03/2019 10:35

A positive update in case anyone reads this whos going through the horror of sleep deprivation 12 months in too.

There have been odd setbacks with teething and I do use ibuprofen which helps. I had a go with the extra food but DD wasn't interested. Generally there is huge improvement. From waking every hour at least it's been 2-3 hours for the last few days which is amazing. BF has dropped to bedtime 2 night feeds and on wakeup. Day time feeds vary. Naps are still random but 2-3 throughout the day.

Then last night I had the best sleep since she was born. She slept from 8 pm to 1:20 am self soothing (2 minutes) once that I heard. Quick feed then woke for a feed at 5:15, back to sleep by 6 and awake for the day at 06:50! It's amazing to know this is possible and hopefully will happen again some time.

Thank you to everyone who has offered advice it is helping along with DD mastering walking which I know is a big disrupter.

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bloodynewusernameagain · 24/09/2023 15:21

Thanks for the update op x
Am in this boat now (albeit not nearly as many wakeups as you had but I'm still struggling). Are you out the other end all these years later? Hope so!

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