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CC / Sleep Training 15 month old - hand hold please

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BeeBum · 02/10/2018 18:55

So after much discussion and debate between me and DH, we are starting CC / Sleep Training / whatever it's called tonight.

Really nervous and really feel conflicted as we both always said we wouldn't ever do this. But after 1 month of our previously self settling pretty much sleeping through DS turning into no self settling and constant night waker we feel at end of our tether.

We have read up about how to wait 2 minutes before going in but is this 2 minutes of actual crying or do I count moaning?

Also... When I do pop in to settle him, do I have to stay till he has stopped moaning completely? As this could take about 10 minutes as he sometime won't stop till he falls asleep?

Oh idk I guess I just feel so bad for doing this

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DappledThings · 02/10/2018 19:57

We did it with DS. Trying to avoid it with DD (got another thread here on that).

We did it as 1 minute of proper crying than go in. Leave as soon as cry abates to a moan. Go to 2 minutes. We only want as far as 3 minutes. According to instructions we had (sent to us by a friend who had paid a consultant) keeping at 3 mins max is fine as long as you are consistent.

Anything less than your current 1, 2 or 3 mins of crying then stopping by herself you reset. E.g. you are on 2 minutes. She cries for 75 seconds then stops. You start at 0 seconds again. Unless it's been over 10 mins since you've been in due to resetting I which case go randomly.

After 30 minutes of silence of she wakes again start again at 1 minute.

Get wine.

It does work. DS took 1hr20 first night and woke twice. 20 mins 2nd night and woke once. 5 minutes 3rd night and slept through.

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BeeBum · 02/10/2018 21:51

Thank you DappledThings for your reply. He managed to settle in an hour and I only went in twice as was waiting for proper cries. Good to know how the crying stopping resets the time though as we were unsure if we were doing that right.

He has woken up already though so I assume we do CC throughout the night too?

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BeeBum · 02/10/2018 21:52

Is hard distinguishing a moan and a cry though must admit

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DappledThings · 02/10/2018 21:59

Yeah. Just start from the 1 minute timer again.

We had plenty of nights later on when he woke up for hours randomly but the training we did still made it feel like that was different and we could deal with that differently because he had the basics sorted if that makes sense.

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BeeBum · 03/10/2018 07:00

DappledThings yeah that does make sense. He woke only twice, took 15 minutes first time to settle but an hour and half second time. Think we are making it extra hard for ourselves as we are also cutting out bottles of milk during the night too

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bumblingalongway · 03/10/2018 14:43

Just wondered how old your kids are @DappledThings and @BeeBum? Mine is 5 months (not in his own room yet though so can't really 'leave' as we sleep there too) and wondered what age you started?

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BeeBum · 03/10/2018 15:00

bumblingalongway 15 months old. I am pretty sure the guidance is deffo not before 6 months

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bumblingalongway · 03/10/2018 16:36

Yeah I've read that @BeeBum I definitely won't start yet but wondered if any of you had done it pre 12 months.

DappledThings · 03/10/2018 16:44

Mine are 2.8 and 9 months. We did it with DS at 8 months.

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BeeBum · 03/10/2018 18:35

So neighbours have made it clear they are pissed about us doing CC!

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LalaLeona · 03/10/2018 18:42

Sorry to tell you but it doesn't work for all kids but good luck x

aidelmaidel · 03/10/2018 18:48

Buy the neighbours some wine and tell them if this method doesn't change things within two weeks you'll be stopping.

We did it at 9 months and it's been extraordinary.

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BeeBum · 03/10/2018 19:01

LalaLeona totally know it doesn't work for all kids, we did actually try with DS at 12 months old but we only managed 1 night because the next day he was so traumatised (he was a totally different baby) that we said we wouldn't ever do it again. Desperate times though... also he was totally fine today and his usual happy self.

DS only took 15 minutes to settle himself tonight!!!! So I'm taking that as a massive positive and no tears just moaning (I did go in and calm him down twice as his moans were hard to listen to)

aidelmaidel think it's their young teen son that's doing it actually... I'll buy treats for the 3 of them to say sorry tomorrow

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BeeBum · 05/10/2018 18:41

Just in case anyone may be interested now or in the future. DS slept through last night and tonight he asked to go to bed and settled him within 2 minutes! So was only really 2 days of CC!

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DappledThings · 05/10/2018 19:40

Thats brilliant BeeBum. I think we'll be joining you in a week's time!

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BeeBum · 05/10/2018 19:43

Good luck DappledThings really hope you see same result as us!

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DappledThings · 05/10/2018 19:45

Thanks. Your experience is very similar to what we had with DS two years ago so fingers crossed

aidelmaidel · 05/10/2018 20:23

Wahey! Go you!

melsw · 09/10/2018 09:10

I am following this thread with interest! We are considering CC with our 15 month old. He used to be a great sleeper, slept through the night consistently from 12 weeks until about 9 months. Then the first tooth came which screwed things up a bit but he was still sleeping through more often than not. However since starting nursery 3 months ago followed by picking up every germ under the sun, he does not sleep through. Some nights it’s a quick pop the dummy back in, other nights we can be up for 2 hours with him. He does settle himself to sleep at bedtime most nights though which I’m hoping is a positive. I too am worried about the neighbours and the noise but I feel we need to do it as me and OH are so grouchy with each other. Plus DS is never refreshed! It’s nice to know I’m not alone, any comments gratefully received!

DappledThings · 12/10/2018 17:15

We're starting tonight. Just in case anyone on this thread is still about to do it or has recently.

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BeeBum · 12/10/2018 17:34

Well DS is still sleeping through, he had a solid 12 hours last night and asks to go to bed at night so I don't think it's damaged him in anyway!

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DappledThings · 12/10/2018 19:13

Excellent stuff BeeBum. I'm downstairs eyeing up the gin. DH is at the business end. DS seems to have gone off as normal and isn't being disturbed.

DappledThings · 12/10/2018 20:02

She went to sleep in 20 minutes. That was half an hour ago. I keep looking at the monitor to check the light's on and it's actually working!

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BeeBum · 12/10/2018 20:08

I'm so glad it is working for you!

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melsw · 14/10/2018 12:35

Glad it’s working for everyone! I think we are going to start controlled crying next Friday when we have the weekend ahead of us. Last night was particularly trying with 3 hours of screaming 😔 A couple of questions - can you do CC if your LO has a dummy? And our LO will settle off to sleep at bedtime so assume I just follow the CC guidelines when he wakes in the night?

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