controlled crying - it's been a while - can you remind me of soemthing please???

[Tutter]

scenario:

ds (just turned 2) wakes at 5:19 crying

i go in, do the whole shh-shh-it's-nighttime-go-to-sleep thing and he settles

at 5:25 he starts to cry again

do i wait another whole 10 mins before going in again, or do i go in 10 minutes after the last time (so 5:29)?

also - at the designated OK To Get Up time (6:00) do i go in straight away, or wait until the first time he cries after 6:00?

tia

pleeeeeeeease?

(the scenario of 5:19 waking is my reality, and has been for the last month or so)

please, no tips on blackout etc - all been covered

I know no tips wanted BUT, have you one of those bunny clocks that eyes open when it's time to get up? might do the trick

he won't see it furball, he has blackout blinds and curtains

anyone else?

YES WAIT ANOTHER TEN MINS

NO DONT GO IN AT 6 - WAIT

ok Tutter?

is he still in a cot?

thanks naily

no, in a bed now

since 2 weeks (ish) ago

appears to have made no difference either way

(except that now he sometimes cries standing up on the carpet rather than standing up in his cot)

ok, as I said, I know nothing but could you put him to bed forty minutes later and see if it translates to forty minutes later the next morning?

As for going in at 6 - definitely wait until he wakes up after then.

thnaks squonk, but bedtime appears to make feck all difference to wake-up time - have tried an hour each way several times

oh, sorry.

In that case, all i can offer is sympathy and a shoulder to cry on should you need it

tutter, going in at 6 wouldnt make any difference. he doesnt know its 6, so will not acknowledge the fact that 6 is get up time iyswim

wait til he cries for you after 6 then go in. my dd2 is 2and a half and after 6 moths in her bed has just realised if i dont go in when she shouts for me, she can get up and come into my room she is v proud of herself "look mummy i got up all on my own!!"

good luck x

squonk, it doesnt work

my dds normally go to bed at 8, last night itwas 930, they were still up at 615
on the dot
grrr

Tutter I didn't want to ignore your thread after seeing your plea, but I don't know anything about how to carry out cc for morning waking and I wouldn't recommend it in any case

I would do:
blackout
cuddles
keep going in whenever he cries
keep trying to settle him down
hope one day he will stop it

sorry I mentioned the blackout

but its not really 'controlled crying' in a 2 yr old is it?

What is it, then?

er, i dunno!

but to me a 2 yr old can settle themselves back down

or get up and come through

or get up and find a book and take it back to bed

Tutter, have you tried that? giving ds a book?

Well, mine never could settle himself

and a child in a cot can't come in and find you

he's got a blackout so he won't be able to read a book (mine didn't look at books independently until 3, either)

hes not in a cot

re the blackouts - pull them back a bit? if my dd2 wakes early (shes 2.5) i let her read a book in bed - this can give me another half hour!

cant you just let him play in his room for a bit?

He isn't playing, though, he's crying

not all children play happily or read by themselves when they wake up

dd2 (2.2) been in a bed since she was 19 months still only occasionally doesn't wake up crying

when she waes crying, she doesn't get out of bed, gets more and more upset until screaming

when she wakes not cring she justs gets up comes through to me and demands 'ogurt'

well, sorry

i was only trying to help

does he nap well during the day? I find that the better they nap, the better they sleep. Maybe you need to fine-tune that first?