42 week old not sleeping

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Hi all,..

I've posted before about routines and sleep but currently we're going backwards sleep wise

Honestly, it's like she just does not need sleep, I've recently moved her into her own room as I was constantly told (when she was waking for 1 feed) "once she's in her own room she will sleep so much better", I have already gotten rid of her crib in our room to a family member so moving her back isn't an option...

She currently goes to bed when she wants (bedtime is 8 but screams) so usually sleeps around 9/10, then wakes every 2/3 hours, sometimes for a bottle sometimes for a dummy wakes in the morning 6/7, she only sleeps in the day if we go for a walk or car ride.

I'm so tired I feel constantly shattered... can anyone please give me tips/routines, she has always self settled with a dummy and white noise and we have never had any issues up until now

Thanks everyone!

Do you mean 42 weeks or is that a typo? What’s that in months?? I’m too tired to do the maths...

Waking every 2-3 hours was normal for my baby until about 5/6 months I think.

I would nap in the day when I could but appreciate you probably can’t do that if you have to drive or walk her for naps.

Therefore I’d persevere with putting her in the cot with dummy for daytime naps. My DD went through a nap-resisting phase at about 4 months but I just kept on shushing, playing white noise and putting the dummy back in until she gave up and slept. It could take as long as 45 mins some days which was brutal but I was desperate to take a nap too so kept on at it.

Good luck. It’s probably just a phase.

How old is 42 weeks?

Is she teething? My eight month old is a terrible sleeper normally but AWFUL when teething. He's teething at the moment and he's been waking every 30 mins for the last week.

To be honest, I think some babies just are bad sleepers. I try to practice acceptance and not get annoyed about it. They will all sleep through eventually.

@MrsBriteSide nope 42 weeks I just couldn't be bothered to work out the months she's 9/10 months, I never know I just have an app that tells me in weeks... I'm hoping she'll get out of it, she used to sleep really well as a newborn etc and I could nap in the day as well but now she's just not interested

@Rockandrollwithit roughly 9/10 months... she has two bottom teeth already but I think she's starting to teeth again she's definitely dribbling and chewing more, I've been using anbesol etc but I'm at a bit of a loss really, I think she just isn't a big sleeper at all (I am a big sleeper on the other hand) hopefully I can suss our what it is and sort it, she's usually ok and slept once she was asleep (she'd just want to stay up late with everyone)

Thanks both for your responses!! X

I thought toy meant you were 42 weeks pregnant

As you were comrades

Dd didn't sleep through until 10 months, DS was 18 months. I think you are expecting too much, although I completely sympathise with the tiredness. It's torture.
DS had a dummy clipped to his teddy so he could find it in the night.
DD always likes being cool in bed whereas if I wrapped ds up in vest and all in one, in a sleeping bag, with a blanket he slept much better.

Sorry but ... 42 weeks? Give over

42 weeks 😂

It may not solve anything, but I'd try putting her to bed earlier.

Because she's not napping much in the day she is probably over tired by 8pm, which is why she might not be settling until later.

There’s a big sleep regression at 8-10months. Both my babies had it (am in sleep hell at the moment with my 9m DD) but not every baby seems to. Have a look at sarah ockwell smith for good info

Sorry can’t do links (too sleep deprived!!) but hope this works:
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/sarahockwell-smith.com/2017/07/24/the-rollercoaster-of-real-baby-sleep/amp/

Sounds like the dummy is the cause of a lot of the night wakings, have you thought about either just chucking a load in the cot so she can find her own or ditching it entirely?

I also wouldn’t expect a bottle fed 10 month old to need night feeds. How is she eating during the day? I’d look at upping her daytime food intake and offer water and cuddles if she wakes but not milk.

Then also consider an earlier bedtime; they should be doing about 12 hours at that age so 8pm bedtime with 6am wake up doesn’t sound like enough sleep to me.

Finally 42 weeks... seriously if you say that on real life everyone will be giggling, stop it already and start referring to her age in months

@boatass @PinkBall @halfwitpicker as I said in my previous post I couldn't be bothered to work out the month she was, no I do not say 42 weeks in real life, I say 9/10 months, I checked her weeks age on the app I use and typed that for ease as I haven't actually looked at it for a while, maybe not post anything if you don't have anything positive to write when I've already clarified why I used that??

I can't get past 42 weeks

@ThisBabyIsAnOctopus thank you for the link it's very helpful to read over! X

I agree with the dummies are meant to solve problems not create them . Once they cause problems time to go.

I would look at trying to get her down for naps. I think she is over tired.

@TroubledLichen thanks.. she does wake sometimes for the dummy but if she doesn't have it she screams till she gets it I think she finds it soothing, she does sometimes reach for it herself but she does loose it quite a lot

@Lukeandlorelai4Ever as I said in my previous post I couldn't be bothered to work out the month she was, no I do not say 42 weeks in real life, I say 9/10 months, I checked her weeks age on the app I use and typed that for ease as I haven't actually looked at it for a while, maybe not post anything if you don't have anything positive to write when I've already clarified why I used that??

@Starlight2345 thanks I'll try and get her napping a bit more x

My first was exactly the same, he approved around a year old when he changed to cows milk but didn't really start sleeping through and no bedtime battles until around 2.5. Now at 4 he's really good, sleeps 7.30-7.30 :D fucking suffered to get there though!

Couldn't be bothered to work out months yet you use months in real life so you must know...42 weeks

approved? improved! ffs I can't even blame predictive as I'm on laptop!

@cc5601 why do you actually even care enough to post about which I use and how I worked it out and what I say in real life?? Before I checked that I couldn't have told you how many months weeks days whatever you prefer me to use because I hadn't looked, I didn't think it would matter to anyone what so ever however it was written
I checked her age on the app I use, whilst in bed exhausted from being woken every 2 hours, trying to settle her so I can get some sleep since I have felt ill due to the total lack of sleep and constant anxiety I deal with daily.. I posted for some advice on how to settle her to sleep not to be ridiculed because I used different wording than what you might approve of... like I said if you've got nothing helpful or positive to say don't say anything at all.

@JustSeeingHowManyCharactersWeC thank you for your post! It's sometimes just nice to know it's not just mine refusing to sleep and I'm not on my own! x

Are you managing to get a huge bowl of porridge or something else heavy on the stomach into her before bed time? At this age they really need to up their calories to have any chance of sleeping for longer periods.

10 1/2 months?

Bowl of ready brek for supper can help. Gets rid of any hungry niggles