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Should I be waking DS or let him sleep?

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GettingStuffDoneInSlippers · 09/03/2018 10:18

He's 4.5 months old.

People keep telling me to wake him in the morning, otherwise he won't get up for the school run when he's 4/5 years old Shock

I said that's ages away! The reply I get is "not as far away as you think".

DS goes down at 8PM, wakes up at 9.30/10am. I get up at about 7.30/8am. I Potter around having my shower/make up done and then doing house jobs etc.

If I stay in the bed with him, he won't rise until I get up really.

Am I making a rod for my own back or should I be letting him get up when he feels like it?

Previously I tried waking him when he was a little younger but he got very angst and was very cross for the morning/went back to sleep anyway.

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angelopal · 09/03/2018 10:22

Leave him to sleep.

Wannabecitygirl · 09/03/2018 10:22

😂😂😂 they’re jealous of the sleep. Silly buggers.

Nicolamarlow1 · 09/03/2018 10:22

Please let him sleep, he will wake naturally when he is ready. Sleep is crucial to babies' development.

Thebluedog · 09/03/2018 10:23

7.30/8pm seems quite late for a 4.5 month old to be going down. I find my dc have always needed about 12/13 hours a night (mine are now 6&10 and still both need this).

Although I’m insanely jealous you get that time in the morning Grin it might be worth slowly seeing how your dc gets on with an earlier bedtime.

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GettingStuffDoneInSlippers · 09/03/2018 10:25

Theblue we tried putting him down at 7pm but for some reason he wakes later the earlier I put him down Hmm so I decided I'll just have him for more cuddles.

Plus, my DH doesn't get to see him if I put him down that early Sad

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Thishatisnotmine · 09/03/2018 10:25

Dear Lord no, don't wake him up! His sleep patterns will change so much between now and four. If he is asleep and you don't need to wake him, then let him sleep.

SheepyFun · 09/03/2018 10:27

He's 4.5 months. Let him sleep! We did have to shift DD's bedtime when she went to school so she could get enough sleep, but we did that once she was at school. Definitely not 4 years in advance!

elvisisntdead · 09/03/2018 10:28

Stealth boast? ;) no, only joking (although insanely jealous).

But don’t wake them! And count your lucky stars for how lucky you are!!

purpleviolet1 · 09/03/2018 10:29

Lucky you op! Enjoy and ignore the comments!!

TiffinForTea · 09/03/2018 10:29

Never wake a sleeping baby Smile

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GettingStuffDoneInSlippers · 09/03/2018 10:30

Oh wow, I expected to be told I was wrong!

Thank you ladies (I assume Wink)

I'll let him carry on then Thanks

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ememem84 · 09/03/2018 10:34

Ds is the same. We put him to bed anywhere between 8-9 (dh finishes work at 6 Home by half past so he’s rarely see him if he went any earlier) and he’s awake at around 8am. He has a few day naps.

I do the same as you - get up early. By the time ds is awake I’ve showered dressed had breakfast and maybe bunged a wash on. Dh gets ds up has a cuddle and then heads to work

Leave babies sleeping that’s what I say.

Ubercornsdiscoball · 09/03/2018 10:35

Let him sleeps his pattern will change loads over the years!

Thundercatshoooo · 09/03/2018 10:38

He's 4.5 month old and they're worrying about a routine for school? Some of his classmates will have barely just been conceived Grin!

I have an 8month old and I'm still feeding him lots in the night, he often sleeps until about 10am. I have a 2 year old too and get up at 7ish with her, it means I have a few hours to get her sorted and for me to have a quick brew and tidy up a bit. I'd never wake my little one up, that's madness.

ThatsWotSheSaid · 09/03/2018 10:38

You know your baby. Do what you think is best.

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GettingStuffDoneInSlippers · 09/03/2018 12:16

He's 4.5 month old and they're worrying about a routine for school? Some of his classmates will have barely just been conceived !

This! I don't usually rate routine very much but thought I'd ask in case there was some kind of long lived habit to be had Grin

You know your baby. Do what you think is best.

Of course I know my baby, but I don't always naturally know what's best, and sometimes it's nice to have other people's thoughts too

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FortheloveofJames · 09/03/2018 14:24

If what you are doing works for you, let him sleep! I wake DS at 7.30 latest only because any later and he can’t fit in his 2 naps and he still needs them both. 8pm bed time is totally normal for the age. Enjoy it while you can because their sleep needs and patterns are forever changing. At 4.5 months I really don’t think you need to worrying that what you are doing now is going to impact on any future school routine 😂

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GettingStuffDoneInSlippers · 09/03/2018 20:01

Thanks ladies, just catching up on the replies. Happily enough, although feeling worn out from walking everyday all day.

Glass of fizz, bath and Eastenders for me Wine

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rubyroot · 09/03/2018 22:43

Bitch!

That’s all I can say Wink

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 09/03/2018 22:46

I let them sleep when they wanted right up until they started school. What do they need to get up for?

Monkeymonstermum · 09/03/2018 22:47

Enjoy! Presume you’re still on mat leave so make the most of it. These people are either insane or crazy jealous 😂
We all adjust to time zones/clocks going forwards and back, just as your baby will adjust to school timings when he needs to!!!

TittyGolightly · 09/03/2018 22:48

People keep telling me to wake him in the morning, otherwise he won't get up for the school run when he's 4/5 years old

This is utter bollocks.

TittyGolightly · 09/03/2018 22:49

7.30/8pm seems quite late for a 4.5 month old to be going down. I find my dc have always needed about 12/13 hours a night (mine are now 6&10 and still both need this).

My DD slept midnight till noon at that age.

She’s an owl. At 7 I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times she’s been asleep at 7pm - and that was due to scarlet fever and chicken pox!

Keepingupwiththejonesys · 09/03/2018 22:52

Lol at the poster saying 7.30/8 seems late for a baby. With my first she came to bed with me around 10pm and then we slept in until 8/9. Did the same with my second. My third only goes to bed at 7.30 (8 at weekends) coz his sisters do as they have to be up in the morning for school/preschool. Some people are so fixed on their children going to bed at really early times then are shocked when they're wide awake at 5am

jaynelovesagathachristie · 09/03/2018 23:27

I was confused until I realised you said 4.5 MONTHS not years. God let him sleep sleep changes insanely over first year

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