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Feeling sad that I will give up my DS napping on me - am i the only selfish one?

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Jellybabie3 · 14/02/2018 20:18

Sigh. As an alternative to the 'my 4mo DS only naps on me' I'm feeling sad that I am about to start trying puttting DS down for naps....Sad hes always napped on me as he doesnt like being lowered into anything.

So wish me luck trying....i think Sad

Hope I'm not the only one!

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KTCluck · 15/02/2018 14:48

My DD would only ever nap on me through the day. Suddenly at 6 months she wouldn't tolerate being fed to sleep and I can only get her to nap in her pram. Strap her in, push her back and forth along the hallway and within a matter of minutes she's flat out for 30mins to 2 hours! There was no input at all from me, it just happened. So hang in there, and enjoy the cuddles for now. I miss them and I now have to do housework while she's asleep as I have no excuse! Sad Just waiting on night time to click into place now...

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Jellybabie3 · 15/02/2018 15:20

Aww thanks. Will do and hope my DS figures it all out one day xx

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crazycatlady5 · 15/02/2018 16:16

Embrace the snuggles is what I’ll say. Currently lying on my bed cuddling my 1 year old while she sleeps. The rod thing I just don’t understand. Will he be doing it when he goes to uni? Certainly not Smile he WILL learn eventually but in his own time. My one year old sleeps in the buggy or sling when I’m at work.

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Jellybabie3 · 15/02/2018 16:59
Smile
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Oly5 · 15/02/2018 17:01

Me!!! I’m on my third and last baby.. I don’t want the cuddles to end!

123456kent · 15/02/2018 17:34

Also, have asked OH does he mind? Does he think I should be stricter and put her down? Does he mind that she naps on him at weekends? He loves it, he loves that his 2 girls are snuggled up at home, he loves she’s happy with me, he loves we have a cuddly baby, at the moment.
As pp says, if I put her down she will either cry or nap for 10 mins. Neither are condjucive (sp?) for a happy baby.
I may be posting in a few weeks time to say HELP I need her to stop sleeping on me but for now I love it

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Jellybabie3 · 15/02/2018 17:54

Oh yeah i will be joining you there i suspect. ...but yeah i will enjoy the cuddles for now. We dont have much of a routine anyway!

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Dobbythesockelf · 15/02/2018 17:58

My dd only napped on me for thr first 8 months or so. I used to moan that i never got anything done etc, then she suddenly started sleeping laying down next to me, then I tried putting her in her cot and she was fine. I missed it like crazy though, nothing as lovely as baby cuddles. She's now a 3 year old who has too much to do so doesn't waste time cuddling mummy.

user1498549192 · 15/02/2018 17:59

Aww mine slept on me for all daytime naps and every night until 5 months old. Now 6 months and sleeps in cot at night but still naps on me during the day. We both live it and the transition to the cot at night time happened completely organically and with no fuss at all, so don't stress about the"rod for your own back" stuff. If you're happy, carry on enjoying the snuggles!

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Jellybabie3 · 15/02/2018 18:11

Yay. My DH said the same. Chores can wait, do whats best for DS and like others its the fear they will sleep worse at night for it i dont know how thats possible for us atm thanks ladies for not making me feel like I'm doing something wrong xx

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crazycatlady5 · 15/02/2018 19:04

Lots of mumma love to you jelly x

Onemorecornetto · 15/02/2018 19:11

Well I’m lying in my 6 YEAR old ds’s bed while he sleeps on my shoulder. I cuddle him to sleep most nights Blush.
He can get to sleep by himself fine but we both like the cuddles so we’ve stuck with them.

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Jellybabie3 · 15/02/2018 20:04

@Onemorecornetto thats just lovely 😍

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FartnissEverbeans · 16/02/2018 16:51

DS is 16mo and at the weekends we still nap together. I love it so much (both the sleep and the cuddles).

He's a bit big to nap on me now though!

lovelystar · 16/02/2018 16:55

Good luck OP sorry you're feeling a bit sad Flowers. I'm about to have my first baby and because of my epilepsy I've been advised not to let babies sleep on me or in the same bed or even carry him around unecersserily, it breaks my heart Sad

lovelystar · 16/02/2018 16:55

Baby*

HotCrossBunFight · 16/02/2018 16:57

My 4 year old only napped on me until he was 3. I loved it.

He's always slept fone in his own bed at night

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Jellybabie3 · 20/02/2018 15:12

Well I've been to a friends today and watched her put her baby down ( 1 week younger than my DS) and he just went to sleep and there was me rock rock rocking.....Blush

Had another bit of advice to try and do x and y to put him down. Tried it. Epic fail. DS now asleep me while I watch crap on tv. Babies are utterly bizarre. I feel like i missed a trick when he was younger so he would self settle Hmm

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Jellybabie3 · 20/02/2018 15:13

That said hes lovely and warm 😍

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Steeley113 · 20/02/2018 15:46

I napped with my first until he was nearly 1 when I went back to work! No such joy with subsequent kids though Sad I love nothing more then a tiny baby cuddle!

Spam88 · 20/02/2018 15:49

You haven't missed a trick OP, they're just all different!

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Jellybabie3 · 20/02/2018 16:13

There is a part of me that wonders what I will do in the summer when its baking hot and I am sat in with a toasty baby on me for 4 hours a day Confused

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LRL2017 · 20/02/2018 16:15

My little girl is 24 weeks and I'm starting to try to do this and it's hard! She is getting better at sleeping on other people now at least!

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Jellybabie3 · 20/02/2018 16:22

@LRL2017 it is hard. I keep trying even when he is completely fast asleep but he starts wimpering and waving his arms when i am half way bent over and that's with me holding him tight to chest (killer for the back!!) If i continue to lie him down and ssh pat he starts crying which I cant bear so i think i will be waiting it out and hoping it just happens. That's contrary to everyone around me advice who think he needs to be taught....

i really do love the cuddles I just hope it doesnt come back to bite me one day!!

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