have YOU ever lied about your baby sleeping through?

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Interestingly, someone pointed out that most people who say their babies sleep through at mother and baby groups lie.

I am putting so much pressure on myself to get ds to sleep through, as it appears everyone else is getting a good night's sleep (as well as the fact I feel like a zombie most days..) by 3 - 4 months.

So, did you lie about your baby's sleep habits at mother baby / NCT / post natal groups?

an interesting response....

as out of my post-natal group of 7 babies ranging from 6 weeks to 4 months, they all sleep through except mine.

are your responses - no, i told people mine didn't
or
no, mine really did sleep through?

But what do they mean by sleeping through?

The thing I found is that when tiny, DS would zonk out at 7pm every night and then wake every hour between 12 and 6. Nothing I could do would change it, only time did that, so I used to go to bed at 8pm.

Whereas a lot of small babies cluster feed in the evening and then possibly do zonk out from about 11pm to around 6, if you are lucky.

No. I was too knackered.

No way. If I'm having to get up in the middle of the night I want people to know about it. I want sympathy!

Actually, thinking about it, I think I have on one occasion. Was trying to reasure babysitting grandparents that she would be fine and wouldn't wake up till after we got home from the pub .

No, not ever.

dd is 6 and still comes in with us about once a fortnight.

ds is 3 and wakes up/comes into us about once a week.

That is, we have rarely had a whole week's sleep without at least one child in 6 years.

No I never lied. DD slept through (6/7 hours at a time minimum) between 6 and 13 weeks. Then we went on holiday and she never slept through again until she was 20 months old and we resorted to a bit of CC. Always told the truth about it all, although probably a bit smugly when she was 3 months old! Then it all came back to bite me.

I may have lied to my MIL about it though

no , i didn't lie !!

sleeping through i think is classed as 6 hours of unbroken sleep so 12 - 6 counts, as does 10 - 4, what we think is sleeping through is 7 - 7, which is 12 hours !

"sleeping through is surely a ten or 12 hour stretch? "

Why?? You or the woman next to you may need 10 hours sleep at night - but I only need 6hrs (well not atm as I'm pg but that doesn't count). Surely babies are just the same??

I class my DS's as 'sleeping through' as soon as they were sleeping long enough (and late enough in the morning) for me to be able to get the number of hrs sleep at night I needed in one solid stretch.

No never.

I say that my dd1 slept through the night at 8 days old. By that I mean from 11pm until the morning.

according to sleep 'expert's and sleep definitions .. sleeping through is 5 solid hours.
By that defn, my los slept through from maybe 2/3 mths old.
My defn is 7-7 ... by that definition, they ain't yet got there (3 & 1)

As Malory for DD1.

The opposite was true of DS1 - nobody believed quite how often he woke up. But he did have reflux AND eczema. Poor lamb (he's fine now).

And nobody cares about subsequent children!

Did lie, but only to people who had a tendency to offer 'helpful' advice, was honest otherwise about dcs sleeping habits

Good lord no. I was very lucky and both mine slept through from 6 weeks and 9 weeks respectively.

I have lied the other way round though - have pretended that I was up all night with the baby and therefore can't go to that event I've regretted saying I'd go to...

Um - I confess that I lied - but in the opposite way to what you mean! DS started sleeping through (7:30pm - 7am) at 9 weeks - and I was too embarrassed to admit it to the rest of my group, so pretended that he wasn't sleeping through either! (Also, I thought they'd think I was making it up if I said he was sleeping through...)

I love the way nobody can agree on what "sleeping through" actually means - maybe that's why so many people claim their LOs are.... I found out today that a mother whose dd is sleeping from 9.30pm to 7am with no waking is getting up to check on her every couple of hours....is she mad?????? Quite frankliy, if my ds went that long, after 17 weeks of broken sleep, I wouldn't be dragging myself out of bed for no reason!!!!

A new mum rushed up to me at the baby clinic one day, trying to be friendly, and asked me if my 2 week old was sleeping through yet. I just replied "Yes." I'm not sure why now.

Never lied about it, he hasn't ever slept through yet and the other two took a while too.

no i love the look whhen i tell them she still isnt at 9 mo

Well he's sleeping through now! It only took nearly four years

what a wierd thing to do

No, mine was doing 12 hours from 8 weeks and even if she hadn't been, I wouldn't have lied about it - quite the opposite, I love a good moan.