I want to cry.

[SleepForTheWeek]

Just when I thought DD2's sleep was getting better we are back to all time shit nights.

Tonight she was asleep at 6.30. Awake at 12.30 - and I mean wide awake. She was fed and then DH took her downstairs to get her to sleep as we have a 3yo DD who if wakened, can take a couple hours to settle again.

Not sure what time he brought her back up stairs but she was then awake at 2.30, I fed her again and she fell asleep about 3.

4.15 she's awake again. Won't take a feed and is now wide awake again so have had to bring her downstairs again.

It's one thing having to get up and feed her a few times a night, but these 'awake' periods are driving me up the wall. She's sitting here smiling at me and I can't even crack a smile back. I just want to cry.

She's 6mo

My lo had a couple of weeks of this around 6 months- as did some of the other babies we know. I think it's a developmental stage and will pass!

Is she crying? Or is she just awake? It sounds like a sleep regression. If she reliably sleeps in the evening, for maximum sanity you should go to bed early to get a block of sleep. It sounds like DH is sharing the load so can support you to do that.

It's been going on for months, she seems to just have these awake spells! She's not crying although will get upset if put back down in the crib or rocked etc when she's not wanting to sleep.

DH is brilliant as is usually the one who will get up with her once she's fed, but he is absolutely choked with the cold at the minute so can't expect him to get up twice in the night with her.

Last week she had 2 nights of sleeping 8.5 hours straight!

Thanks for replying at this ungodly hour

My son is the same. Been awake since 3:30, this is not unusual for him. Typically he slept through last night but when I have the school run we have another crap night.

How old is you DD @GetSchwifty ? What to you do with him when he is awake?

Sort - DS!!

*sorry

I need some sleep

He’s ten months. I’ve fed him, rocked him, got him back in his cot twice but he won’t go back to sleep. I even let him crawl about his room for a bit as he was crying when I was rocking him. He’s in my arms now and calm so hopefully he will sleep for a bit. It’s going to be a long day.
Would she sleep in your bed? Sometimes that works for us, although sometimes he just thinks it’s playtime! I got to bed early every night, it’s shit!

Also re the evenings, as much as going to bed at same time as DD2 is appealing, there's just so much stuff to do and the evenings are the only time I get a chance - and even then it's not reliable as sometimes DD2 will be up till 10!!! Also, there's DD1 to get organised for bed and spend some time with too.

It's just never ending, isn't it?

@GetSchwifty so she won't sleep in the bed, but DD1 always ends up in it every night anyway so not safe enough.

She's getting grouchy now so going to attempt getting her down.

I hope your DS stays asleep for you

He went back down at 5 until 6:30 so not too terrible I suppose. Hope you managed to get her back to sleep. At six months he did this a lot and it is very slowly getting better. I never thought he would sleep through the night but he has managed it a few times recently so there is hope!

@GetSchwifty my 3yo still doesn't sleep through the night so my expectations are fairly low but this is just ridiculous lol

She went back to sleep at 5.30, then woke as soon as I put her down, so DH rocked her for 10 mins and that was her until 8.15

She had terrible wind so wondering if that's a contributing factor

Well it's 4am and I've only had 1 hour sleep. Have just given her some nurofen as she just cries when put down which isn't like her.

This isn't sustainable

Have you heard of myhummy bears? Or tried white noise? My DD likes to fight sleep especially when over tired but settles straight down with this.

Hope it passes soon OP

Yes @Dscarl07 she has one of those and we have it on the continuous mode 😩

I've had 2 hours sleep - that's enough right??

Oh gosh sleep, I could have written something similar. My 5 month old will sleep for a few hours when he's first put down, but then is up every hour-90 minutes until the morning. He has reflux so has to be held upright after a feed, so by the time I get him down there is about half an hour before he's awake again, and often I haven't managed to get back to sleep myself before he's woken up. My 3 year old rarely sleeps through the night, and manages to time his waking up for when DS2 is sleeping. Its not sustainable at all, but I don't know what else to do. No advice from me, just a show of solidarity.

Ahh did it not work then? have you heard of the amber bracelets? Not sure how you would feel about them but they’ve had great reviews. 2 hours is not long really, hope you get some rest soon OP! Is there anyone that could maybe mind your little ones for a few hours so you and DH can get some well needed rest?

Thanks for the show of solidarity @SaneAsABoxOfFrogs - it's hard to tell any it when it's not just ONE DC not sleeping. And of course I ended up getting mad at DD1 which wasn't fair as it was DD2 that woke her and she just couldn't get back to sleep.

We gave nurofen and she slept in her pram from 4.30-7.30 and I slept on the couch - so I got 3 hours which doesn't sound as grim.

@Dscarl07 I used to use the amber bracelets all the time with DD1, I might look into them again actually, thanks for reminding me! Myhummy is good at masking any background noise which might wake her but doesn't actually stop her from rousing because of others factors iyswim

I'm dreading tonight already

Hi, can anyone help please. My little boy is only 4 weeks old but will not sleep hardly at all through the night his wide awake for a good few hrs and then just grouchy and starts crying when i put him back in his moses basket. Some nights i get around 1 or 2 hrs sleep because his up all night and just wont settle. Im finding myself just sleeping in the living room now as im up all night and not worth going to bed and will just sleep on the sofa when i can. I really dont no what to do he just wont seem to get into any routine at night. I play him soothing music for 20 mins which can settle but as soon as the music stops he starts stiring again :(

Hello, read the above comments to see if any of those will help you? Is he being sick at all? My DD wouldn’t sleep in Moses/cot at all, soon realised she has silent reflux which would make her uncomfortable. Hope he settles soon

Hi, yes im going to try the things in the comments i will give anything a try if it will give me a few extra mins sleep :). Well i went to the doctors with him today and the doctor wants him weighed once a week for the next few weeks to make sure his gaining weight ok (im not sure how this is relivant to silent reflux but i will do as im told). Yes he is sick some times more than others and he seems to curl up as though his tummy hurts after some feeds so it could be colic so ive started to give him something for that. What do you do to help with the reflux?

@sashatodd1985 if he likes white noise but the 20mins isn't long enough you could look into a MyHummy - they aren't cheap but a lot of people swear by them. Do you have a DP that could help during the night?

That's DD2 almost asleep so hopefully the transfer into the crib will run smoothly. I've covered the sleepyhead in a fleece blanket, put a hot water bottle in to it to warm it up AND she's had nurofen. She's surely got to sleep??

Sleep - sounds really tough for you :(

How did it go last night?

Your DD sounds similar to my DS and I went back to work last week (sob sob!).

I tend to get up in the night with him and come down cuz I find it less demoralising lol.

I have a bad feeling we will have to ride it out which is an awful prospect but I'm out of ideas :(

X

I also have a 3 year old who gets woken up and I feel so sorry for her going to nursery tired :(

We will both get there - it's just soooo tough! X