FEEL LIKE THE WORST MOTHER EVER!!!!!!!

[BandofMothers]

My 3 yo has always been a good sleeper. She had a dummy til just before her birthday. She has had a lot of change in the last 6mths/year.
She used to sleep about 8pm-8am, with a 2 hour nap in the day.
Since I took away her dummy she wakes so often in the night it's driving me mad. I also have dd2 who is 7 mths old. She sleeps well, only wakes for feeds 1/2 a night. Sometimes sleeps thru til 5 or so.
Now not only does dd1 not nap in the day since I took her dummy away (foolish , foolish mummy) but she is getting up earlier and earlier.
I AM NOT A MORNING PERSON. Not shouting, just stressing the point. It is the worst thing for me. I can cope with 7am, as she goes to bed at 7pm. but it's getting to 6:30, and today 6:10.
I get very snappy esp after a broken night and bawled her out this morning when she woke dd2 up shrieking for me.
Feel so bad, I made her cry .
Then she came in, while I was cowering under the covers trying to regain control, and quietly shushed dd2 telling her "it's ok, mummy's just grumpy because she doesn't like me anymore.
At which point we had huge cuddles and I (along with my now MASSIVE guilt complex) became loving mummy again.
She thinks once it's light out she can get up. Will get a black out blind, but not sure it'll work as she likes to go to the window, "look mummy, it's a lovely sunny day, time to get up??!!!"
Is she going to get up at 4am in the Summer?????????????
Does anyone know how to get her to have a settled night without waking, and not get up so early???
Or am I just going to have to lump it as she's older now and doesn't need so much sleep.
Trouble is come 4/5pm she's dozing off on the sofa

HELP-sorry it's so long

Am liking that idea annemarie. And will def get abunny clock and some stickers.
Am collecting the Fifi collectables fortnightly mag so that can be her trat and a dif mag or book otherwide.
Thanks everyone

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BofM - since it is easier as an adult to sleep to command, why don't you go to bed earlier?

If they are both in bed asleep by 7.30 then if you go to bed a couple of hours earlier than usual then you will be ready to face the day at 6am along with your DD1.

It seems to me to be a far easier solution than expecting a child to sleep when she doesn't want/need to.

I agree FiS - the quiet time in the evening with dp is about the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes! I figure I also need to share my time with all the family - including dp - so would feel a bit bad if I went to bed early every night.

Soapbox, I know. Some days I do. But like FIS and AM said. I get maybe 3 chatter free hrs a day, maybe 4, if I stay up late. It's my only downtime with out the kids. I NEED it.

Plus I often do mean to go earlier, but get caught up in something and before I kn10/11 o'clock.

BOM I can definitely empathise - I am so not a morning person. I have to conciously set myself the target of getting DS to school without shouting at him but it is WAY too easy to wind me up first thing in the morning.

I was going to suggest you could encourage her to play in her room, but I see you want to move DD2 in there, so that's not going to work..

no more ideas than others have already come up with - good luck!

Hi, just answered you in the teashop.
Actually I do let her play in her room. Before dd2 was in my room dd1 used to come in and watch milkshake, in bed. Was lovely, can't do that as she wakes dd2. When dd2 is in with her she can come in again. She got to the point tho that she didn't want to sit in bed watching tv. She likes to watch a bit then pootle about playing with her toys.
She also used to sleep til at least 7.
Will just have to get a blackout blind, cross my fingers, go to bed earlier and get a bunny clock. LOL9with a little sob at the end)
Anyway, after reading about some of the times some of you are forced to get up I think I'm lucky to have got away with it so long.

Also, she's become a really fussy eater and often refuses what I make for tea, unless it's pasta, or noodles. Dh thinks she may be up earlier cos she's hungry. But if I cater to her every whim she'll never learn to eat proper food. Right?
We were always told, that's all there is, eat it or not, but i'm not cooking anything else.

Firstly you are a fantastic mum, otherwise you wouldn't be upset and posting on here, you wouldn't even give a crap, seeing how it has upset you just proves how much you love your LO's. Your DD will know by those lovely cuddles how much you love her

I was going to suggest clock/light on a timer, worked great for my friend who's LO starting getting up at 4.30...now stays in bed till light comes on

So they work then, the clocks. Will try anything. Hate shouting at her.
And thanks for popping over

They LOVE stuff like that don't they.
Am looking round market and town today, and if I don't find one or something similar, I will be ordering one from here.

Thank god I got replies and some good suggestions. Am feeling better now anyway after 3 cups of tea.
Stickers too. Think some nice yellow smiley faces will be good.

Stickers. That's sweet. DD1 does that in her scrap book. Bought her barn yard animals once and she segregated them. There was a group of pigs in one corner, sheep in another and ducks in another. LOL So funny