FEEL LIKE THE WORST MOTHER EVER!!!!!!!

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My 3 yo has always been a good sleeper. She had a dummy til just before her birthday. She has had a lot of change in the last 6mths/year.
She used to sleep about 8pm-8am, with a 2 hour nap in the day.
Since I took away her dummy she wakes so often in the night it's driving me mad. I also have dd2 who is 7 mths old. She sleeps well, only wakes for feeds 1/2 a night. Sometimes sleeps thru til 5 or so.
Now not only does dd1 not nap in the day since I took her dummy away (foolish , foolish mummy) but she is getting up earlier and earlier.
I AM NOT A MORNING PERSON. Not shouting, just stressing the point. It is the worst thing for me. I can cope with 7am, as she goes to bed at 7pm. but it's getting to 6:30, and today 6:10.
I get very snappy esp after a broken night and bawled her out this morning when she woke dd2 up shrieking for me.
Feel so bad, I made her cry .
Then she came in, while I was cowering under the covers trying to regain control, and quietly shushed dd2 telling her "it's ok, mummy's just grumpy because she doesn't like me anymore.
At which point we had huge cuddles and I (along with my now MASSIVE guilt complex) became loving mummy again.
She thinks once it's light out she can get up. Will get a black out blind, but not sure it'll work as she likes to go to the window, "look mummy, it's a lovely sunny day, time to get up??!!!"
Is she going to get up at 4am in the Summer?????????????
Does anyone know how to get her to have a settled night without waking, and not get up so early???
Or am I just going to have to lump it as she's older now and doesn't need so much sleep.
Trouble is come 4/5pm she's dozing off on the sofa

HELP-sorry it's so long

does she still have a nap? if ds has his nap ant 4-5 he has an awful night!

My ds was awake at 5.20am this morning. I feel your pain.

No if she dozes I try to distract her and get her up again.

5:20 Regularly???

can you try to get her to have a 20min nap in the day before 4pm? she could be over tired

Yesterday she had a little nap at 12:30 to 1:30, prob from getting up so early yesterday too. But she still got up early, then she's shattered and wants to go to bed early, and the evil sleep cycle begins!

Not every day but a couple of times a week at least. He came into bed with us at 5.50 (just to stop him waking dd) but he is full of beans then and won't go back to sleep (sigh)

I vividly remember being little and getting up because it was light. When I was a bit older me and my sister used to get up to watch cartoons - at 6am!!! We couldn't understand why our parents were still in bed (I know now,lol.) A relative's little boy is nearly five and gets up every day at 4am so I guess it's not unusual even if it is an almighty pain.

Perhaps I've just been lucky til now.
Thing is I know she needs more than that, esp if she's been woken loads in the night. That kills me more than anything. Between the 2 of them I sometimes don't get an hour in a row. HATE broken sleep.
Don't know why she's suddenly waking so often in the night either.
She actually sleeps later on mornings when she hasn't woken in the night. You'd think it'd be thew other way round!

Waking, not woken

Annoying aren't they?!

OMG Nosher. 4am???????
Can I give them back, I've changed my mind. I kind of assumed they'd get better as they get older!!

LOL. new boots.
yes very.

What annoys me the most is me. I get cross with her and often shout at her, for waking up!!WTF
She just woke up. It's not naughty, and yet at 6something in the morning I just can't seem to control my temper.

Floating, am looking for a clock today. Thanks for the link.
I don't have trouble getting her to go to sleep at night. Just staying asleep, and not getting up at the crack of dawn. Even just stopping the waking during the night would give me less broken sleep and I then cope better with an early morning.

Tried rapid return once. HYSTERICAL.
Talking calmly to her and absolutely swearing I will come and check on her in 10 mins works loads better. She's usually fast asleep when I check. Of course you have to check or it's pointless.

It took her a few weeks to settle well without it. Now, no prob settling. Perhaps she used to resettle with it, but doesn't now so calls for me instead. Have thought of that, but don't know how to stop it. She has a bunny, which I connected with the dummy for the time when I would take it away.
She'll go through days of sleeping through, then days of waking loads.

Feel your pain everyone as also have a dd who is an early riser.

I know it doesn't solve the problem but remember the clocks go forward in a couple of weeks so your 6am wake up will actually become 7am

She shouts for me. Sometimes I don't go in and she'll go back to sleep, but otherwise she'll call and call and then come in to me. dd2 is in my room still, but would like to merge in few months. Don't want her waking dd2 every time.
So i usually go in to her before she wakes up completely and then wont settle.
She usually doesn't even want anything.