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What would you consider to be "sleeping through?"

58 replies

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer · 06/03/2017 22:35

Just wondering?
I have tried googling but cannot find a definitive answer.

OP posts:
NerrSnerr · 07/03/2017 14:55

I class sleeping through to go from bedtime until 6am or later. This didn't happen to us until our daughter was 2. We are hoping for better luck with number 2!

gameofchance · 07/03/2017 16:02

Christ based on some of the comments here my 3 yr old still doesn't sleep through sometimes!

IHaveBrilloHair · 07/03/2017 16:11

Thing is Game, having a small baby up until 11pm/midnight, snuggling or in their bouncer or whatever is no bother, a 3 year old is more likely to be annoying active.

creaser · 07/03/2017 16:18

Would you guys consider this sleeping through... 7pm in the Moses basket downstairs until 10.30 then a feed take her upstairs sleeps till about 3.30-4 then disturbs constantly by tossing and turning but never wakes fully and never cries. Gets up happy at 7am ready to take a bottle and start the day.
I am knackered however from all the disturbing... she's 13 weeks Hmm

fruityb · 07/03/2017 16:34

I would creaser I used to find it really hard to go back to sleep after DS night feed as he would grunt and moan and shuffle but not actually cry or wake. I just had to face away from him and hope I could bob off myself!

StandAndBeCounted · 07/03/2017 16:51

I don't say mine are sleeping through until they do a full 12 hours. I want my evening chilling AND a full nights sleep. Greedy like that Wink

Wrcgirl · 07/03/2017 17:02

With my first it was 11 - 5.

With the second it was 7 - 7

Totally different children and routines, and learnt from mistakes made with first and was a lot harder on second but it worked

toffeeboffin · 07/03/2017 17:30

6 hours chez the boffins.

BeanBabies · 07/03/2017 17:37

53rd I appreciate that but it references actual studies, I believe this is the one (if not one very similar) to what I was referencing http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2016/05/21/peds.2015-1486?sso=1&ssoredirectt_count=1&nfstatus=401&nftoken=00000000-0000-0000-0000-000000000000&nfstatusdescription=ERROR%3a+No+local+token

www.google.co.uk/amp/mobile.reuters.com/article/amp/idUSKCN0YF2EQ

Also I know a maternity nurse in South Ken where we are based, who has many clients that need a baby on a good routine so they can balance work with baby. She has a fantastic success rate and if the child is fussy, she is often able to identify the problem and work with the family over a longer period of time to help the child get into the best routine possible.

53rdAndBird · 07/03/2017 17:59

Yes, Bean, but so do the other 532,159 parenting books published in the past few years alone. I'm not saying your particular one is rubbish, I'm just saying that it's not the really unusual holy grail of parenting wisdom you may have been led to believe.

Also, I really, really would advise you not to assume that your particular baby will be sleeping through the night by six weeks because you'll do things 'right'. It really, really does not work like that (especially if you're breastfeeding, or if you won't just leave them to scream for hours). Sleep deprivation is awful enough without feeling like you're a failure on top of it because your baby won't do what the book says - voice of bitter experience speaking here!

2014newme · 07/03/2017 18:00

7-7 or thereabouts

FATEdestiny · 07/03/2017 18:01

I'm still trying to get my head around what your actual point is BeanBabies?

Yes - you can get any baby at newborn, make them formula fed on an established routine. If you do want to. Most people don't want that kind of parenting style. At least they certainly dont when first time parents with (often unrealistically) high expectations.

Is your point that it's possible to get a sub 3 month old to sleep 12h?
What is your actual point?
That everyone wants independant baby sleeping as their parenting style, with all of their children?

Urm, that would be very definately untrue.

And pray tell, why was your point aimed at me?

StrawberryShortcake32 · 07/03/2017 18:03

www.mamabeanparenting.com/2016/05/its-time-to-stfu-about-sleeping-through.html?m=1

Well worth a read. Made me feel alot better about DH'S 5 hours. Babies wake for feeds because they are hungry. Their bodies are in a constant state of growth and that requires energy. Your LO will sleep through when they are ready xx

Lilypurple · 07/03/2017 18:08

This question has caused me much irritation amongst friends. They all said yes sleeping through the night except Sleeping through the night meant, sleeping on mummy's chest, mummy getting up 30plus times to shove dummy back in mouth, breast feeding 3/4 times, nappy changing 1/2 times, re settling on waking at least twice a night. I think I'd get 5/6 hours of uninterrupted sleep that could be considered sleeping through. With none of the above wakings!

5moreminutes · 07/03/2017 18:44

When my DC were small I read that the definition used by health professionals is midnight to 5am, which seemed fair enough to me. If it's 8 or more uninterrupted hours of sleep some people live long and productive lives and die in old age having never actually done that...

Cerseirys · 07/03/2017 19:00

Giving a baby food that isn't puréed and being a choking hazard.

What, like baby-led weaning?

JessieMcJessie · 07/03/2017 19:03

Beanbabies
You can have 10 children but not know any better than feeding them junk food or letting them stay up to all hours - or weaning them incorrectly. Giving a baby food that isn't puréed and being a choking hazard.

Have you been living under a stone and not heard of baby-led weaning?

JessieMcJessie · 07/03/2017 19:03

Ha, cross post Cerseirys! Great minds...

5moreminutes · 07/03/2017 19:26

Grin Jessy and Cer

Very few people of any age "sleep through" actually - more people wake between their bedtime and get up time than don't, the difference is mainly how easily they go back to sleepand whether it bothers them or anyone else.

bruffin · 07/03/2017 19:47

That link is crap strawberryshortcake It ist all the nonsense about research that was babies in romanian orphanages not babies who are loved and cared for My babies didnt need food in the night after 12 weeks. They were in our room in a cot next to our bed. They just stopped waking up for food at 12 weeks. No CIO or any sleep training.
Ds was bf at that stage and dd ff so that didnt make difference either.

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StrawberryShortcake32 · 07/03/2017 20:11

Bruffin what are you banging on about? I didn't mention research. It's common sense, babies aren't just in a constant state of growth. They are learning to interpret what they are seeing and hearing. Their brains are constantly developing. It's common sense that they need energy from food for their bodies to do all that. Why are you going on about Romanian orphanages?

The point of the link is that people seem obsessed with "sleeping through" when actually it isn't a race and night feeds are okay.

Well done on having a baby who sleeps alot. Yours isn't the same as everyone else's. I also breastfeed, means nothing where sleep is concerned.

bruffin · 07/03/2017 20:20

I didnt say you said it, the link refers to

"Making (not “letting”, let’s be very clear with that distinction) a child ‘cry it out’ will not make her Sleep Through The Night. Instead, the consequences you can expect include, but are not limited to:

Elevated blood pressure
Elevated cerebral pressure
Erratic fluctuations of heart rate, breathing, temperature
Suppressed immune and digestive systems
Suppressed growth hormone
Apneas
Extreme pressure on the heart, resulting in tachycardia"
From your link. Its nonsense based on misinterpretated research.

StrawberryShortcake32 · 07/03/2017 20:32

Where's your evidence of it being misinterpreted? As far as I can see letting a baby cry out can have no benefits at all.

rainbowdash888 · 07/03/2017 20:58

To me it means early evening until at least 6am. But many many people consider it 11-6, or 12-5.