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Day one of pick up put down, a tiny success story

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deaconblue · 23/02/2007 09:13

First attempt at pick up put down this morning. Ds awake at stupid o'clock (5.30) so put him back for first nap at 8. Took 45 mins of back breaking picking up and instantly putting down BUT he nodded off in the cot, not in my arms for first time. Fingers crossed that this afternoon will take same or less time.

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deaconblue · 24/02/2007 17:09

That's really encouraging Kitty, thanks. Our main reason for doing this is we want a child we can read a story to, feed milk and then pop in his cot to sleep. 10 mins waiting peacefully in the bedroom is no big deal, in fact it would be nice wind down time for dh or me at the end of the day. Will keep that as my vision when I'm picking him up for the 50th time

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cruisemum1 · 24/02/2007 18:16

sbue - does lo cry much when you pu/pd?

lovefamily · 24/02/2007 18:30

I think im about to try pupd. will start monday. is it a good idea to start with naps in the day or at night. she never has gone in at all let alone dt naps so i was thinking it was best to start her at night as we have bedside cot. any tips? how long sdo i keep trying if its doesnt appear to be working. just wanna make sure ive got it all clear before i go for it!

sbue - really pleased for you - any tips/advice would be great although think theres an age diff between my n ur lo's

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deaconblue · 24/02/2007 21:07

How old is your lo lovefamily? The book has separate sections for each age range. I can look for you if you like?

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cruisemum1 · 26/02/2007 20:23

shoppingbags - how did your dh get on with his night shift? I went to NCT group today (new in our area) and all they said was sleep with your baby, buy a sling, put a matress in his bedroom so I can co-sleep on the floor. bf all day, all night, martyr yourself to your lo, give up all hope of a decent nights sleep until he leaves home blah blah blah blah. Made me feel guilty for wanting a decent nights sleep ffs!!!!!

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deaconblue · 26/02/2007 21:00

Tell them to sod off. That kind of thing is not at all helpful. There's no way I could co-sleep with ds as he pulls my hair, scratches me and rolls around the bed if I let him in.
Dh did two naps and the night shift on Saturday night and the little bugger went down with no fuss and slept through for the first time in weeks. Typical. But I have to say since Friday every nap has been quite calm. He wriggles around and rattles his dummy by its handle for about 10 minutes and then nods off. A massive change from hours of shushing, patting, cuddling, screaming etc. 4am this morning he had a bottle and was asleep again in 15 mins. Am still giving him milk if he wakes at the moment coz he's had a tummy bug and eaten hardly anything for a week so I think he's genuinely hungry.

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cruisemum1 · 26/02/2007 21:18

That sounds like a marked improvement shoppingbags! well done you . There is hope for me yet

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deaconblue · 27/02/2007 07:28

How old is he Cruisemum? Ds didn't sleep through a single night between 6 and 8 months. What I'm really pleased with is how quickly he seems to have adapted to not being cuddled etc. I'm not even leaving my hand on his back now either. Still awake at 2.30am though :

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cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 08:51

he is 25 weeks on thurs, so almost 6 mths. rubbish night last night. will have to take action soon i fear. just hate akll the crying it will cause - and there is sure to be some . ds does not give in easily...

cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 08:52

do youi haVE OTHER LO'?

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deaconblue · 27/02/2007 09:31

No he's our first which is why Ithink we waited so long to sort out htis problem. Absolutely hate it if he cries so couldn't cope with controlled crying or anything. Really wish I'd put him in bed awake as a newborn. Still, we live and learn. I shall be super sleep mum with baby number two, if we have one. It took massive resolve to get through that 1 1/2 hours of pupd on the Friday and I'm sure he'll go backwards again but it seems lots better at the moment. Jsut went down for morning nap with no tears again and in 20 mins.

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FluffyMummy123 · 27/02/2007 09:31

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kittypants · 27/02/2007 09:43

tried to start again lastnight but was naughty and gave bottle each time lo woke.

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deaconblue · 27/02/2007 09:46

cod, you are cruel to mock my nobby parenting
He was fine til you gave him raisins

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FluffyMummy123 · 27/02/2007 13:11

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deaconblue · 27/02/2007 14:01

I expect nothing less, you old trout

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cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 14:31

shoppingbags - i have a dd and the reason i have waited to do something about ds's sleep probs is that I don't want her disturbed n the night. Much easier with one! good luck. I''m watching with interest as i may have to do this soon....

kittypants · 27/02/2007 14:38

agree cruisemum is harder with more than 1. i have dd 6,ds 5,ds 14 months.is hard trying not to wake them!

cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 14:41

yep kitty. dd was woken at 5:45am ths morning by ds and she has to get up at 7 for school . She was very tired and teary this morning and told me that she wished that we could just have a me and her day for 8 hours so we could do something without lo . Felt bad for her. All I do is talk about sleep/lack of/ being tired blah blah blah. Poor girl!

kittypants · 27/02/2007 14:44

cruisemum!poor you-dont know what to say.have you spoken to your hv?mine were rubbish but yours might be able to help.

cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 15:17

mine are crap!

kittypants · 27/02/2007 20:31

oh dear!apart from vodka i dont know what to suggest!my email is [email protected] im not any help but if you want to rant thats fine!

cruisemum1 · 27/02/2007 20:50

kitty - thanks for email address. Much appreciated. You are obviously lovely!

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deaconblue · 27/02/2007 21:09

I'm lovely too
It must be really hard with older children, I hadn't even thought about that. Your poor dd cruisemum and poor you having to deal with crying baby every night. It is so knackering and demoralising isn't it?
If you want to give pupd another try I would suggest starting on a Friday evening, then you have a whole weekend to try and crack it before work, school etc the following week. As i keep saying (don't want to jinx myself) it's early days with ds but the crying only lasted one night and two day time sleeps and every other sleep since has been ok.
DS is bloody stubborn too, I blame it on his dad

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