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When did you put them in their own room?

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Gem13 · 13/06/2004 20:48

Currently having this debate as DD (4 months today) is now sleeping through but tossing and turning when we go to bed and again from 4 or 5 onwards. She doesn't normally wake until 6.30ish though.

I know the SIDs advice is to keep them with you until 6 months but as we are low on the other risk factors we feel reasonably confident of her safety.

It's hard to go against the official advice though. Anyone else been in this situation?

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islandgirl · 13/06/2004 20:50

we kept ours with us until 5 months - but at least 3 friends have moved them after 1 week!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(I am a bit pathetic though!!)

poppyseed · 13/06/2004 20:51

DD was in her room from about 2 weeks and DS about 3 weeks - they were both such noisy sleepers they kept waking us up!! We weighed it up on the risk factors and came to the conclusion that we were low on all the others they had to have their own space, and so did we! I used a baby listener to get up for the breast feeds and they were both fine! Good luck with your decision!

pesme · 13/06/2004 20:52

Hi, I moved dd into her own room at about 3.5 months as the curtains in our room let in too much light and she started waking at 5. Her room is next door and we can hear everything. We all get a much better nights sleep. I do miss her though. I used to wake up to see her lying with her feet in the air chatting.

Lisa78 · 13/06/2004 20:54

DS2 is 7 months and still in with us - DH is more than happy for him to go to his own room, but I am not! I just like having him next to me, he seems too little to sleep by himself - but I am going to have to move him soon, before I get a real complex about it! Can you imagine him in 10 years, pleading to be allowed to sleep in his own room

Tessiebear · 13/06/2004 20:55

My Ds's were both in their own rooms very early on - almost immediately - i used the monitor with DS1, with DS 2 didnt use monitor but i would always stir the second he woke up - a mothers instinct

carla · 13/06/2004 20:56

About a year ago. DDs 4 and 5. Hugely expensive bunk beds. All of 2 days .....

AussieSim · 13/06/2004 21:04

I moved DS when he was about 6 or 8 weeks. Our room was just too light and the temperature varied too much. I had the baby monitor up full boar on the most sensitive setting right next to my ear. I hope I don't get an ear bashing. He is now 16mo.

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Gem13 · 13/06/2004 21:09

Thanks for these. They're very reassuring. I don't know why it is but I feel it is almost tempting fate to go against advice even though I feel my instincts and knowledge about my own children is sound.

I was feeling quite brave about it until I read pesme's 'lying with her feet in the air chatting' - DD is all smiles and chatters away too. Maybe she can stay with us for a few more days...

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pesme · 13/06/2004 21:28

Sorry gem. I still smile when I go through to her room in the morning and she is all smiles with her feet in the air! (What is that about?). It is nice to read a book in bed or chat with dp!

timo · 13/06/2004 22:04

I was the same as Pesme.Last wk.My ds was 3mths so moved him in then.My room is right nxt door & have monitor.Wots the diff in a baby monitor or havin baby right nxt 2 u.Ur response will be the same wont it.I was exactly the same,asking every1.Just do wot u think.
Your a mum. U just wake @ any sound anyway.U go 2 sleep whether baby in room or not.I hope u do wot YOU want & feel confident with it.xx

Hulababy · 13/06/2004 22:07

Dd didn't get her own room until she was about 15 months when we moved to the new apartment. In the rented place we had at the time I just didn't feel comfortable with her in the second bedrrom as too far from my room - and ground floor with her room at front, so she stayed put. We co-slept much of the time anyway so wasn't really an issue. Our original plan was to be 6 months - following the SIDs advice.

collision · 13/06/2004 22:11

We moved ds into his own room when he was a few weeks old because I kept disturbing him!! I have strange sleeping habits and kept shouting in my sleep to dh to 'give me the baby NOW!!' I would pick ds up when he was sleeping and wake him and just found the whole thing exhausting plus the fact I was driving dh mad!!

pesme · 13/06/2004 22:12

collision, good to know I am not the only one who does this. I co slept with dd and still wake up looking for her in the duvet in a panic.

timo · 13/06/2004 22:17

Me too!!

Chandra · 13/06/2004 22:20

3 weeks old but used a monitor, it was a terrible night, not for him but for me, I almost ended sleeping in the floor by his cot, but I think it was better for him and for us, as we keep waking him up, because we made a big fuss in our sleep at every one of his movements.

Regarding SIDS advice, well we followed most of it except let him sleep in our room until 6m old, but I still find some of the tings on the advice ackward... at my country, during the height of the summer, the only way to have children sleeping at 17 degrees (ideal temperature) is to put them in the fridge .

Chandra · 13/06/2004 22:24

Cross posted but, me too!!!, I "accidentally" co- slept with DS twice (fell asleep while BF) and in both ocassions I thought I had asfixiated him!!!

nearlyfour · 13/06/2004 22:25

three months for us - we had to move bedrooms around for people staying anyway and it seemed the right time to move dd. But not much distance between rooms and used the monitor. I did spend a lot of time going in to her room and checking her though. Actually, still do before I go to bed and she's nearly four and a half. I'm sure she is going to wake up one day and say 'Mummy GO AWAY, I'M TRYING TO SLEEP' . Do it when YOU feel comfortable to - I think you will know.

Ghosty · 13/06/2004 22:32

6 weeks ... both DS and DD ...
Can't sleep with baby in room ... and every murmur she made I was feeding her ...
As soon as she went into her own room we all slept better ...
She is right next door with doors open in between ... so I don't hear every little tiny murmur but I do hear her if she needs me too ...

Ghosty · 13/06/2004 22:34

Just like Chandra, the first night in her own room was awful ... I kept getting up and checking her ... all night ...
Even now (4 months) I hear her ... get up and by the time I am in her room she is sleeping ...
So having her in my room would not make it any different ...

GeorginaA · 14/06/2004 08:16

I'm really reassured by this thread. Ds1 was put in his own room at 4 weeks, mainly because I kept waking him up every time he stirred and we all desperately needed the sleep. Felt horribly guilty about it though

Ds2 is 5 weeks now, but as soon as he outgrows the moses basket then he's going to have to go in his own room as our room is too small for his cot, and cosleeping isn't for me. I feel even more terrified of cot death this time around than last time, if that's possible, and dreading having to put him in his own room.

Flip · 14/06/2004 08:19

Ds1 was in his own room from 2 weeks and ds2 was moved into his own room at 4 weeks. Both are excellent sleepers and manage at least 12 hours every night.

Blackduck · 14/06/2004 08:20

4 months - actualy he stayed in our bedroom and we moved into the spare! At 6 months he went to his own bedroom (and a new bed...)

motherinferior · 14/06/2004 08:55

Moved dd2 as soon as I could - about two months, I think. Mind you, you can hear EVERYTHING from their room next door to ours!

bootsmonkey · 14/06/2004 09:09

DD went into her own room at 8 weeks as neither of us could sleep through her fidgeting and farting - DP was in the spare room. She was a very light sleeper and I retired when she did at about 8ish and didn't dare move until she woke for a feed. Once she was in her own room I could retire later or read in bed or any of those little things that make life seem normal. We hooked up the monitor, but didn't need it as I still woke at EVERY noise. Haven't looked back.

My friends have just moved their 2yo DD into her own room, so each to their own!

strangerthanfiction · 14/06/2004 13:01

I'd planned to do it at 3 months but dp was too attached to hearing dd shuffling round, sighing and singing and I liked just slipping her into bed for her breast feeds so we did it at 7 months when we were clearly disturbing her when we came to bed, coughed in the night etc.

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