How often do you check on a sleeping 4 year old?

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To settle an argument between DH and I, I am wondering how often other parents check on their children while they're sleeping? I check on DD twice in the evening, quick check of her chest rise and fall a few times and that she's not too hot and that's it. DH thinks we should be doing a quick check every hour. Am I not checking enough?

Not often enough. I just popped my head in as I was going to bed and discovered the iPad still playing next to him.

I didn't even know dh had given him the iPad so have no idea how long he was watching for or how long he's been asleep. Sigh.

Never.

I tuck her in, she goes to sleep, I see her in the morning. If she needs anything she comes and fetches me, though this is rare.

I'm curious, why do you check? What is it you're checking for?

Many thanks for your responses, it sounds like the consensus is one check in the evening. That clears that up, thank you 😊

On the way to bed...do you get up in the night then?can't a 4 yr old tell you if there's problem?
Obviously I would when they're ill.

If I need to go upstairs after DC (youngest is 2) have been put to bed, I'll look in on them, but I don't go up especially to check.

I check on them before I go to bed, and if I wake in the night for a wee.

I wouldn't even consider checking every hour unless my child was ill.

DS is 3 and is asthmatic. We don't check on him unless he's got a cold and we think he might need puffs overnight. And that's because he terrified his sibling when he had croup last year, she woke us up really upset about his breathing and we had a midnight dash to the hospital. The other children we don't check on unless we hear anything, why would we?

Just before bed. I still do it for my 8yr old (mainly because he has a habit when poorly to puke and just lie back down) and to check the teen has switched his room off.

Is your bloke unusually anxious?

Don't check on our 3yr old nor do I check on our 6 month old now he is in his own room.

Lol I still use a video monitor in my 3.4 year olds room, so I can check on her as many times as I need - normally only once or twice before we go to bed

Her bedrooms next to the bathroom and she has the door open so I tend to look in the door in the way to the loo. Actual go in and check her is only done when I go to bed and that's mainly to put her blanket back over her

4 year old DD goes to bed between 7 & 7.30pm. I may just pop in & check that she's actually gone to sleep about an hour later but, other than that, we just check her quickly on our way to bed.

If I get up the night for a wee, I may also just check again quickly - but if I didn't need a wee I'd just let her be!

Well between us one of us probably pops upstairs (bathroom/airing cupboard and computer etc) each hour at least between the dc's going to bed and is going to bed iyswim so whilst we wouldn't necessarily make a special trip one of us would almost certainly have popped our heads round the doors so to speak.

Quick check and tuck up with duvet as we go to bed then if either of us wake in the night for any reason to use the bathroom, get a drink or let the fusspot cat in or out we check on the DC then too. If nobody wakes we obviously don't so bizarre when you think about it.

I am quite a light sleeper so generally wake up if there is the slightest noise. Also I in particular am quite late birds so often not to bed until 12.30 or 1.00 and DH is generally up before 6 so the longest they might go would be 5ish hours.

Every now and then. Used to be every night on my way to bed but the layout of our current house doesn't take me past their door. Your DH has some issues to be looked at there.

2 yos - check if they are ill and I'm worried about their breathing. Otherwise, never! I might wake them!!!!

A quick look on my way to bed and that's it! Unless they are ill and then I go in more often, I'm a crap sleeper so wake up a few times a night anyway

I check about 10 mins after i have put DS to bed to check he's asleep so I can switch the landing light off. Then once again before we go to bed.

I never checked, unless he was poorly.

DD is nearly 3. I don't check on her, DH comes to bed later and does so on his way to bed.

I would only check on my 1yo and 3yo if they were ill. If they need me they are both very capable of letting me know!
What does your DH think is going to happen?

I don't usually. Someone's once. I used to check often when I was worried about cot death and had a touch of PND

I only check once before I go to bed.

I might possibly sleep with them if they were ill. Not if it was a cold or cough

We have a 10 mo. We have an alarm on (as he still wakes in the night), but if he doesn't cry he doesn't get checked! We are trying to get him to sleep through the night. Checking him every hour would defeat that purpose!