Breastfeeding baby can't put down to sleep

[firsttimemum15]

I don't expect my 6 say old to sleep through the night by any means but I can't out her down to sleep at all. She will sleep after feeds but only on me or partner. She did not sleep for the standard 3 hours in hospital but would sleep in the cot. We've been home for two nights and for both of those I've been feeding at night pretty much constantly. I don't mind but when I put her down she's wakes and wants feeding.

I'm worried about Co sleeping and don't want to do it. I have a bedside crib but I think it's too big for her so have been using carry cot.
Also don't understand how bedside cot works. Babies are supposed to sleep with their feet at end of cot so have been putting her feet at the end towards my head.

Due to the way it had to be set up eg not level with our bed I'm unsure how to use this as an extension of our bed to feed her when we eventually get to that point.

Can anyone help. So many times I've questioned what I'm doing and why. Partner is v supportive

Thanks fluffikins. I can't get past this at the mo. Partner keeps talking about gping out but I can't make plans at the min. Just need to focus on this for the moment.

Tonight she keeps falling asleep after top ups or at the boob. Trying to wake her up also trying to keep her actively drinking as Jack Newman says worried she does too much nibbling which doesn't seem to be recommended as she can do it for a long long long time. I'm not convinced as to what she is doing here. Really don't know now if she is getting hind milk or not. But I am still letting her. X

If she's on for more than a few mins she'll be getting hind milk until your oh can lactate tell him to bugger off about going out

Finding things really tough at the mo. Anyone else?

What's up? Take each hour at a time and try not to over think. You're doing really well breastfeeding is hard in my experience so you've done great already for persisting

I'm finding it tough. Everyday is the same. Can't get out. Feel tied to the house and the pump. Csnt put the baby down at all. I can manage a two min shower in the morning and then shes back on me straight away. I csnt even go to the loo. Sou d like im whinging but im not. I just didbt expect it t9 be this hard.Walked to the end of the street today on my own.
Look at other mums and babies who go out etc and think why can't I do it. Tried to get my baby in the sling on several ocassion so I can get some freedom in the house. Can't get her in it she wakes up and wants feeding. Thought I'd walk her to the end of the street today in the pram. Couldn't even manage that. When I say about going out I don't even want to go far I'd be happy walking to the end of the road and round my block.
I have literally got fresh air 3 times in 3 weeks. Nobody tells you it will be this hard. Feel like I should be saying how wonderful it is - and it is but the hardworking is outweighing that at the mo.

She won't go down at all. Think I've managed about 3 hours in 3 weeks. I've read about the 4th trimester it makes total sense but doesn't make it easier.

Feel like I'm the only one finding it tough unless other new mums aren't as honest.

firsttimemum15, please don't be offended by this, but you seem to have been anxious to some degree throughout most of your thread. I just wondered if you recognised this in yourself?

It does not necessarily mean PND, you are only 3 weeks in afterall so could just be "baby blues" still, but it might be worth to begin to be mindful of your anxiety levels and considering chatting to your doctor about how you are feeling. You might be offered counselling or medication. Or just take a 'wait and see' attitude. But I for one, reading your posts, and a little worried about your anxiety levels

'Wait and see' might just mean being more mindful than normal about looking after your own wellbeing. Like forcing yourself out into the fresh air. Asking for help so you can have a break.

Baby is gaining weight well and nappies are good. Therefore your supply is fine. You don't seem to want to believe that your supply is fine, but it is. You don't need to pump, it is stopping you from being able to go out and you need that fresh air and freedom.

I would try to persevere with the sling. Get yourself ready to out (shoes on etc), Feed, then pop her straight in and start walking. She would probably drift off and you'll hopefully buy yourself some time to get some fresh air.

Is there a local friendly cafe/coffee shop you can get to quite easily? One that you would feel happy feeding in? Take a friend with you and sit yourself in a quiet corner. Once you get used to feeding whilst out and about, it means you are not completely tied to the house for feeding.

It is really difficult to begin with and it probably seems never ending right now. But it does get easier (people always say this but it's true!). You're doing really well.

Hey, you're doing great and it DOES get easier as others have said. I might have missed something but I'm not sure why you are pumping? Can you not just ditch that and just let her feed off you? May free you up. I pump so I can get out for a bit on my own and leave DH with a bottle but if you're not doing that, it's just more pressure...

I'm pumping because I have supply issues. I don't want to leave a bottle as that defeats the object of all my hard work.

At the moment baby isn't gaining appropriate weight so don't just want to settle her rather than feed her

I am not concerned about feeding in public and will.keep trying with sling but if she cries for feeding I'm not just going to persevere with it regardless, not at the mo.

I do have a supply issue which has been due to various medical reasons hence the pump. .back at hospital on wed to discuss and hopefully get remaining tongue tie cut.

I don't think I'm anxious. It genuinely is hard, hard work. I am ready to go out then she wants feeding which takes a while. Again at the moment I'm not going to put her in carrier or pram and go out if she needs feeding. Eventually we may get to thay point but we are not there yet due to supply issues which I do have - am not jusy in denial.

Hospital may say otherwise on thurs as it may be resolved until then I need t9 keep doing what I'm doing for both of us.

Just to be clear, I meant of bottle of breast milk. I realise you're not at the point of leaving her yet for an hour or so but it will happen so you can have a break. At this stage babies take ages to feed, it really is a full time job. But she will get much more efficient over the coming weeks. It's so tough, don't be disheartened. The pumping makes it even harder work, it's not an enjoyable experience! Lots of luck.

My post was offering some friendly suggestions to help you out. I was not criticising you in any way. You can of course take it or leave it, you know what's best for you and your daughter.
Best of luck with it all OP.

I know thank you. Things don't come across right in text. It is good to know it gets easier and I appreciate the support