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Babies sleeping in parents' beds

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amysoph · 11/05/2004 22:22

Sorry if this has all been discussed b4, but I am new to mn....heard on the radio (but was not listening fully) that some organisation (World Health? the government?) is now recommending that parents do not allow babies to sleep in bed with them at all, risk of cot death. I know about the usual stipulations of not doing it if you are a smoker/have had a drink/etc etc, but I was bothered about it, as my 6 wk old dd2 sleeps in my bed every night. She generally wakes for a feed at about 3-4 am, and I am just too tired to do it anywhere but in bed, and once she has finished, it is usually easier to settle her next to me. ( dh is usually in spare room, getting decent night's sleep, so there is lots of room). I am careful to position her so I can't roll on top of her/she can't fall out/won't overheat, etc. But now I am worried. Should I be doing it at all? Thoughts from other people???

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hercules · 13/05/2004 16:06

Dh's cousin intends to send her 3 month old baby to srilanka for 6 months on his own. Dh explained that it makes them posh in srilanka to do this. Barmy I say.

MrsDoolittle · 13/05/2004 16:11

Hi papillon - sorry, just got back from baby clinic.
I meant that there is a lower rate of cot death in those countries where babies stay with their mothers all the time - which is why it is currently recommended that your baby stays with you for 6 months. According to my HV.
Pardon my ambiguity

two · 13/05/2004 16:28

Health visitors and bossy doctors often give crazy advice. My MIL told me (and I think she believed it)that in 60s her doctor had told a friend to DIET while pregnant to stop baby getting too big!!!!!!!She wasn't overweight, it was just that DR decided baby would be big because pregnancy happened to be large and he said birth would be difficult.

When I had endless probs breastfeeding, my (female) dr was really unpleasant. I was desperate to bf but got continuous mastitis (with both children) and was on constant antibiotics. As soon as Dr learnt I had had homebirth, she started interrogating me about my (fabulous) midwife - where had i 'got' her from? MW is actually senior mw at NHS hospital as well but does part-time independent. This was supposed to be an appt to sort out bf but she spent whole time insinuating my mw was at fault and told me that i should get mw round and I should sit in hot bath whilst mw stood over me watching me express milk to make sure I was clearing breast cos obv I was doing things WRONG! Actually, love my mw but funnily enough didn't fancy that experience and learnt that sopme women are just physiologically prone to mastitis (as my mw has herself experienced in her job). It was a v unpleasant experience and I remember thinnking that if I was even slightly more sensitive I would have been in tears!

Mind you, there's the time when I first got pregnant with dd1 and went to get blood test results that a male gp insisted ondoing a breast examination - which was quite obv a grope!!!!!!!

Dont you just love the medical professions approach to new mothers!!!

There's also the women who I see in state of anxiety because their bouncy, lively babies hae been pronounced underweight cos my HV cant see past a percentile to a healthy child. Asked if the chart takes into account the heavier body type of bottlefed babies and told no, altho those I know who have been made to feel anxious are all breastfeeders and I notice that they are all leaner, meaner machines!!! btw, my baby mostly bottle!!!

Jxxxx

amysoph · 13/05/2004 16:45

Thanks to everyone who responded to my posting, and for the article links. I shall carry on co-sleeping with confidence now.

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