I have two choices, it seems - leave him to scream or forcefeed him during the day

[hunkermunker]

Please tell me there are other answers? I had two and a half hours of broken sleep last night.

ooh nother thought, boy is terrible around the time of AF don't tknow if that helps as well? (normally for the week surrounding it and calms down the week during iycwim. (alwasy has done since AF returned )

hunker
this very nearly finished me off this time last year. was working full time with 9 month old ds2 very very similar to you. distraught in child care all day. wouldnt eat or have ebm. fed constantly in the night
i ended up on the sick for about 2 months
my boss was an arrogant knob
i had to beg them to let me work 2 days a week
really truely beg
I know what it is like - I really do. I went through phases of just going with it and feeling a bit better to feeling truely depressed. This time last year I was on the verge of a breakdown.

What would you like to happen? What measures would you feel comfortable about taking? When I was where you are now, I wasn't able to do anything as I was so tired.
Or how do you feel about 'surrendering' to it for now?

How did you get on last night, hunker?

I'm on the end of the phone if you want a chat (though I think I might need to email you my new number... )

Thanks all. Popsy, I'm only back two days at work so can manage - and work's often easier too!

Going out now so can't type much. Just to say he had 3oz milk yesterday with MIL, a big feed in the morning (the 6.30am one), three meals (albeit not massive ones) and a big feed at bedtime (I'd not expressed during the day, so he got a bucket-load of milk!). He woke at midnight, 2.30 and 6.30 (up for the day), so not too bad.

Miaou, you're a love and I will speak to you soon. How are you? Still sore?

Getting better all the time hunker!! Will email you my phone number and we can have a chat

Hi, My dd wakes in the night for bf too.She's 14 months.
I feed her the first time she wakes then any other wakes ( she doesn't always wake again)she just gets wrapped up again in her blanket, a shushh and pat and some teething gel, just in case!!! She's getting 4 molars at mo. Me or dh go to her. This is usually enough. sometimes she moans for a while.
When we first started this she cried a lot but we just kept on and went in and out.

Now she occasionally sleeps 7pm-5.30/6am or its usually just one wake at 4-5am ish then back till 6 ish.

This is a great improvement for us. She must know that she gets one feed and thats it. Unless she's ill or teething etc.

My ds didn't sleep through till he was 2 and now wakes a few times a week with nightmares or duvet coming off etc.
I know how you feel....tired!

He only woke once last night...about 2.30am.

But I'm at work today and I bet he's refusing all milk and most food again...so no doubt I'll be up again a lot tonight.

oh I'm so pleased for you Hunker. Hope it continues

ooh good news hunker

It won't. Not possible. He only had 3oz milk and not a vast amount of food on Tuesday - he will no doubt be doing similar today, so there's a good chance he'll want feeding all night (which is fair enough - face first in warm squashy nork is where he's happiest ).