CC - Please, anyone out there, I need support thru this...

[Lilypie]

DD (14 months) is absolutely screaming. Its the first night of CC and I'm feeling so desperately guilty but I know I have to get thru these few days. She's become so clingy, have taken her to GP to check nothings wrong, and she's fine but waking 4-5 times a night and cried until I cuddle her back to a v deep sleep and as this takes an hour or so each time I am getting no sleep, this is going on about 6 weeks, it started with the hot weather and she would wake up hot and sweaty and be upset.
God, I so badly want to pick her up... she's screaming. Everytime I go in she gets worse.
Is anyone out there who can give me some encouragement to see this thru...?

Lilypie, how about bringing your dd's cot into your room so that you each have your own space but she has the comfort of you being there? (you may have already tried all this of course)

It's lovely that you enjoy her so much I hope you will keep as flexible as possible about this sleep thing though - I do have friends whose children slept beautifully until they were X months old and then things changed for a while - sometimes quite a while - I think it's easier to deal with change if you try to roll with it sometimes rather than being fixed on just getting thing back how they were. Your dd will feel bewildered if your care of her changes suddenly like this, I think.

Hope No Cry Sleep Solution works - or at least gives ideas. You don't have to follow any one method, of course, you can just pick what feels right to you.

My ds was also up in the night ironically! Rare for him these days. A bad dream I think, but I thought of you and all the other mothers around the world who are pacing the floor with their babies or sitting exhausted trying to calm a tired toddler. I hope we both have an early and uninterrupted night's sleep tonight.

Our bedroom only just fits our double bed so no room for a cot!!!

Having dificulty getting dd to take a nap now, same as last night, crying unless I'm in the room. She's knackered but wont even try to fall asleep without me there.

Feel like I'm in a no win situation here, cuddle her to sleep and get a clingy baby for months on end or leave her crying and feel like a bad mother.

If you do cc in the most gentle way, just leaving for a minute at a time for instance you don't have to leave them to cry and break both your hearts. When I did CC with dd I didn't attempt to apply it to naps I made naps totally different - took her out in the buggy to sleep or let her doze off on the sofa. Then when night times were resolved she just started napping in her cot again with no problems.

I think u r right imaginaryfriend.
She knows well tho that it's nap time, if I go in and say "lie down" she does and puts her thumb in her mouth while crying. If I then stay in the room until she's asleep it's okay. That has become our compromise over the last 24 hours!

The most important thing is to be consistent in how you handle it, if you chop and change you'll make her very confused. Why not pick a method / plan you feel happy with and that you can stick with and give it your all? You might find one of those methods of slowly withdrawing from the room suits you better?

Hi lilypie - glad to hear that DD slept well in the end. It really will get easier if you stick with it, if that's what you still want to do, but I agree with imaginary friend that you will need to be consistent.

My DD slept through last night too - only the second time in her whole life, but I think it might become a regular thing now. CC was definitely the right thing for us to do, as DD is better rested and so much happier during the day now, but if you don't think that it's right for you and your DD then there's plenty of support here whatever route you go down.

"cuddle her to sleep and get a clingy baby for months on end or leave her crying and feel like a bad mother"

These are not your only two options, lilypie. Also I don't agree that a baby who is cuddled to sleep is a clingy baby. My son was always cuddled to sleep and is incredibly confident and independent, possibly as a result.