can someone please tell me how a hysterical vomitting 16 months old is better than a calm, co-sleeping breast feeding 16 month old please?

[popsycal]

felling extremely fucked off, shattered and stinking of puke and very unhappy

excuse the french

Not sure entirely but I am sure that you started a thread called "last ever thread abut sleep I promise" or some such nonsense.

You have my sympathies though. BabyDragon threw up spectacularly this week. In my bed. At 2am.

Oh Popsy Not going so well tonight I guess. Only you know if it is worth it in the end - short term (although feels like a life sentence right now) for long term gain? Or maybe sticking with the current system unil he is ready to do it alone? I don't know the answer. We resorted to the CC when DD was 20 months in the end - for MY sake, not hers. Our current system was making me shattered and I knew I just had to go with it no matter how hard. For us it worked; for some it doesn't though.

Wish I can help and make it all okay

oh anbd now i have just found this bloody link in my mail box from DH!!!!!
ffs

i stink of sick

Don't ask me, I've always been one to go with the flow until they sort of grew out of things by themselves. Makes for far easier life IMO.

Well you know what the solution is, don't you?
You sleep with your toddler, dh sleeps alone.
Works for us!

Tell him that "that explains it" then when he goes to get in bed tonight - tell him to "fark off and go sleep on your own".

Sorry popsy, i know you have been struggling with this.

he woke me at 1am this morning to rant at me that ds2 was in bed again and didnt i think i ought to sort it out.
i lost my temper
i have apparently been perpetuating it and have a strange oedipus complex brewing

dh is very stressed at work and i am about to expolde

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Popsycal,

The only SUREFIRE way to fix this is to get your twunt of a DH to take over adn do the sleep thing.

Yes he works, but so fucking what? He is a parent too.

Its no good him sitting there "giving advice from the sidelines".

Next time he does that - if you dont sort it out before, get up - tell him that if he thinks he knows all the answers, HE can deal with it and leave him in the room and go sleep on the sofa or something.

Sorry - but he's being a selfish arsehole. IMO.

he is a selfish arsehole....but also a selfish arsehole who is currently dealing with a lot of shit at work.......but selfish nontheless

he has been an absolute knob end over the last few days about the whole breast feeding thing too...
sorry this is turning into a rant

Why shouldnt you rant popsy?

You are more than entitled to. Can you spend some time at a friends/relatives to help you get this sorted?

You know.
They were both up ay 4:40 today for the day. I have been at work from 8 til 5 looking after other peoples' kids. argh
sorry
if i go on i will cry

oh honey i wish i could help you. Whereabouts are you?

Who have you got close by?

if you ask me , you are better off with ds2 in bed with you than your dh by the sounds of it.
My daughter was practically in our bed until about 2 years, obvisouly sometimes she slept in her own bed but not often and we gathered that we both got a better night sleep if we just let her in with us. My sister has theee kids and most of hers were the same and she told me that they get to a stage when they just want to be in their own bed, and she did. she is now 2.5 yrs and in her own bed every night all night, has been for ages. lifes too short, ifs it makes it easier do it

thats the thing
ds2 is in bed with us and he is hrorendous.
he is worse in our bed than in his cot...thogh i tend to bring him in in a half asleep state as i am shattered

i did promise that my last thread would be the last ever sleep thread

we are in the north east

sleep training? should be available through local health visiting

I know all the strategies
coul dstock a book shop with all the different theories that i have read

i just know that hysterical crying until he vomits is not right by any stretch of the iagination and i am not going to let that happen again

have dh on my back and dont quite know what to do
he blames breats feeding
i am sure he has been talking to someone this week about it as he is coming up with all sorts of new stuff that he has nver mention before iyswim

cranial osteopath?

or have you done that?

. Was wondering today how you were getting on.

not done cranial osteopath....
going to try homeopath though i think

Is his cot still in your room, or have you sorted the spare room out for him now?

My DSs are older now(7yo),but they were in our bed most of the time until they were about 3.It was the only way we got any sleep at all.However,they were very uncomfortable to sleep with and with the two of them it was a bit crowded.
We bought a super kingsize bed(plenty of room for 4),very soon afterwards they decided they wanted their own beds,so DH and I had a lovely big bed to ourselves.
These days they only come in in the morning for a quick cuddle, it does pass far too quickly.

THats nice that he is suggesting lots. Is he actually doing anything though?

You really need some support with this.

Total other side of the country from me. Bum.

cranial osteopath are suprising amazing at sorting out alot of this type of thing, My dd screamed her head off for up to 8 hours a day from 3 months to 6 months and he sorted it in 2 £25 visits
I'd spend my money on that personallly