Apparantly the reason my 15 month old is waking at night is because "your milk isnt good enough"

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Was at a party at a childrens party at tue weekend with my 15 month old and got talking to one of the other mothers. Got onto the topic of breastfeeding and she was shocked that i was still feeding my baby and went on to tell me my milk isnt good enough because my baby still wakes at night. I didstick up for myself but the comment has really hurt me and made me doubt that im doing the best thing for my baby by continuing to breastfeed her,Ilove feeding my baby but obviously want the best for her,I have no problem waking 3 or 4 times in the night to feed her either if she wants it. Guess I was hoping to hear from other mums who are still breastfeeding through the night..........anyone?

I am still feeding 2.4 yr old at night, probably 3 or so times each night.

You are doing absolutely the best thing. Ignore the stupid woman.

You are doing amazingly. Well done :)

Thanks tweaks so nice to hear of another mum continuing to breastfeed. I left that party feeling so angry and have been thinking about it for days now.

The baby wakes at night for precisely the opposite reason. She loves your milk and a cuddle so much that she wakes up for it.

The woman was an ignorant moron, don't listen to a word and carry on

Ignore!

I got in a conversation with somebody who did the low whisper 'she's still feeding her 9month old' shock horror. I had great pleasure in telling her I nursed Till 3 1/2.

At 15 months you have the pleasure of being your child's personal chemist. Your milk has adapted to suit only her. Bunging them on the boob sorts out any kind of upset (I miss that even now). You just encountered a common ignorance regarding natural breastfeeding. Ignore ignore ignore. You're doing fab.

I stopped Bfing in the summer; dd2 was 2.2. I was ready to give up by then, but have no doubts that Bfing for so long was exactly the right thing to do.

Thanks everyone!!!!! Been feeling so emotional about this and now I want to cry with relief. I LOVE feeding my baby so much,we're both so close its amazing.

Happy mummy :-)

They're called milk teeth for a reason ;) don't give it another thought.

I wont gamer thankyou so much.

Its a load of rubbish.

My DD didn't sleep through until she was around 2.4.
She was formula fed so milk has nothing to do with it.

Some kids sleep and some kids don't.

How ignorant and rude of her. Don't doubt yourself. You are doing brilliantly and it is your choice anyway, nothing to do with her. I'm still feeding my 18 month old Dd during the day and at night (we co sleep as we get more sleep that way!)
She is a nightmare to get down at night but it isn't because of breastfeeding!

What an ignorant bitch. You are absolutely doing the right thing for your baby and you should continue BFing for as long as it's right for you and your child. DS is a couple of months younger but still bfing lots day and night, he's my third and I've been pregnant and/or BFing since the spring of 2007 so you can guess I'm an enthusiastic natural term BFer. I feel justified now, DS is allergic to cows milk so BFing is absolutely the best way for him to get his dairy.

Thanks all. Its not just me then,the woman was actuallyrude and out of order. So glad you all think so. When I got home i kept thinking of things I could have said to her.

How rude. Why do people think it's OK to tell other people how wrong their personal choices are like this?

If you ever see this woman again, and it comes up again, ask (innocently) Oh, are you a doctor or a medical researcher?' and when she says no, smile and go 'Oh, I thought you must have some kind of knowledge on the subject! Oh, I'm so relieved now'. (Not that doctors are always the most open minded about breastfeeding, but.... )

Weird woman. It's milk not knock out drops.

Haha mellow good chance I will see her again so ill remember that one.
It is amazing how other peoples comments can make you feel,a ten minute conversation with her caused days of stress and worry for me.

Why do people talk such bollocks, and they say it as if its gospel! I'm sure they only say it because of guilt that they didn't do it. I fed all mine til they were 3. I was at a childrens party once and was feeding my DD a woman said to me " I couldn't do that" I thought, I wasn't going to ask you!

Haha sonl she did keep telling me that she breastfed for 6 months,must have told me about 5-6 times.

I think no one breast feeds because no one see's anyone do it, its a mystery to them. I've watched women do it all shoulders hunched up as tense as hell they look like somethings going to explode! No wonder their milk doesn't flow.

okay. I have never bf for very long, as I really did have problems with supply.

But, I feel like a world class expert in morons.

Some people(as Dh said to me this week) are just arseholes. And a lot of people are ignorant arseholes. You have just had the sad misfortune to have met one.

We would not take the random stranger's comments about dry rot, why do we all get such heart ache over a random person's comments about baby rearing?

You are doing a great job, it is SO clear.

Thanks sonyl and bloodied your right and thankyou,i feel so much better now. I am always taking things to heart,think I need to grow a thicker skin :-)

Me me me! I'm still bfing my 18 month old. He feeds around 3 times every night. I'm exhausted though but I can't see how cow's milk suddenly becomes healthier for a child after 6 months, a year, etc. I don't want to stop bfing but I'd like to night wean asap.

Don't engage in conversation about bfing to anyone. There is too much ignorance & misinformation out there & you will just get hurt by it.

Thanks zippity i think in future ill change the subject or walk away.

DS2 is 2 and a half and still BF. I really need to link up with other mums who feed toddlers as all my real life family and friends except DH and DS1 think its weird and wrong and that he is going to be in some way affected by "doing that at his age".