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HV not happy that my 5 month old is sleeping 7pm-7am

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TheBoysMum · 30/01/2004 14:30

ds2 has not been putting on loads of weight recently (between 2 and 4 ounces a week for the last month). Until recently he has been breastfeeding every 2-3 hours through the night which I found exhausting, but for the last week has slept 7pm-7am. My HV reckons that I should wake him up for a feed at 11pm. I on the other hand reckon that is barmy. Do you agree? ds2 feeds lots by day and I now sleep lots by night (PS he has also had a cold for 6 weeks)

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twiglett · 30/01/2004 14:33

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salt · 30/01/2004 14:34

Tell her to sod off. My dd slept 7-7 from 3 weeks and I asked HV if I should wake her... she told me to sod off (basically) and was I made - why make work for yourself etc...

I say let him sleep.

Gem13 · 30/01/2004 14:34

That is ridiculous! Sounds like she's been reading too much Gina Ford. Why wake a baby if they're not waking for milk?

My DS slept through from an early age and yet according to GF I should have been waking him up for a feed. Load of tosh. Still sleeps through at 18 months so it sounds like you could be on to a winner!

Enjoy your sleep.

princesspeahead · 30/01/2004 14:37

barmy barmy. you are doing brilliantly, ignore!

StressyHead · 30/01/2004 14:37

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Blu · 30/01/2004 14:42

Also, the weight gain sounds absolutely fine. As someone said on another thread recently, they can't keep putting on a pound a week for ever! If he's hungry, he'll wake. PLEASE enjoy your sleep, and don't let worry or HV-induced-guilt cause you to lose one single 'z'.

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TheBoysMum · 30/01/2004 14:42

Well, that clears that up then..... Thanks.

(PS ... her reasoning was that he is "missing a feed that other 5 month olds will be getting" (which could account for his lower weight gain...in her opinion))

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twiglett · 30/01/2004 14:44

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TheBoysMum · 30/01/2004 14:54

Particularly sore point since sad old me crashes at 9:30pm every night at the moment (ds1 is 21 months, a total whirlwind and getting to that 'lets-frazzle-mummy' age (shhhh ds1&2 BOTH sleeping now )). Setting my alarm for 11pm for unnecessary ds1 feed each night is not an option!!!!
Can't decide whether to use Twiglett's "Piss" off, or salt's "Sod" off. May opt for both.
Thanks all....

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twiglett · 30/01/2004 14:56

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Blackduck · 30/01/2004 14:58

Ask her to come round and wake him up and feed him!

emmatmg · 30/01/2004 15:00

Our DS3 is just 4 months and sleeps from around 7pm to about 5am. I do give him another feed at about 10pm but he doesn't wake up for it. I'm not quite brave enough to miss it out just in case he starts waking again at 1am, 2am, 3am or whatever.
Well done for having such a co-operative baby, ohhhh how I dream of 7pm-7am sleeps. Blimey if mine did that I'd be in bed at 7:05pm just to catch up on all the sleep the little blighter has stolen from me.
Just ignore her, what a ridiculous comment 'missing out on a feed another 5 month old is getting'

nutcracker · 30/01/2004 15:02

I wouldn't. I was told to do this with dd2 and im sure it was partly responsible for her terrible sleeping habits.

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TheBoysMum · 30/01/2004 15:10

... ok so I lied. I am in bed by 8:30pm most nights... it's just that 9:30 sounded more grown up!

Having two wee lads is exhausting! (I can't be well as I am thinking of #3 already. Anyone out there got 3 under 3 (ish) and is still 'all there'?)

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squirmyworm · 30/01/2004 15:24

Hi there - still on number 1 and learning curve is steep! Got same advice to wake for 10-11pm feed (but mine is younger - only 14 weeks). slightly different circumstances (he'd only put on about 1oz in 4-5 weeks) so I took the advice and wake him at 10.30 ish for his feed. Hopefully it won't last too long as he seems happy to sleep through. I tend to feed him 'in his sleep' so it's not too much trouble.

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Carla · 30/01/2004 15:33

Tellher to sod off and get a life. I would have killed to have a 5 month old who slept like that. He's obviously having enough during the day. Ridiculous woman!

JennH · 30/01/2004 15:35

Tell her where to shove it He would wake if he was hungry.

Carla · 30/01/2004 15:37

And another thing - tell you GP - if he/she's worth their salt they'll have a word with her about it. I'm seething!!!!!

BosworthBear · 30/01/2004 15:46

Both my DD and DS started to sleep through 7 to 7 at about 7 weeks, both weighed 7.4 when born but dropped a little on the percentiles because they weren't getting a mid night sleep but my HV's comments were to be grateful for the sleep - if they're that hungry they will wake up. DD is now 2.5 and is a really great sleeper DS is now 6 months and has only just gone on to solids (last weekend). I would look around for another health visitor who is more supportive if I were you!

marthamoo · 30/01/2004 16:21

I'm almost lost for words. She is completely insane! If he isn't waking up then he isn't hungry. You enjoy your sleep

Utka · 30/01/2004 16:35

Can't you just try adding in an extra daytime feed, if she's worried about weight gain? Why does it have to be at night?!!!

Slinky · 30/01/2004 16:47

NO WAY!

DD1 slept long periods at night from an early age and I was concerned about milk intake. Asked 2 HVs and a GP whether I should wake her at night for a feed - and all 3 of them looked at me as though I was insane!!

aloha · 30/01/2004 16:48

Tell her that she's welcome to come round and give him a feed at 11pm. You, however, will be in bed, asleep!

WideWebWitch · 30/01/2004 17:00

Mad, mad, mad woman. I'd complain about her too, what's she on?

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