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do you check your toddlers breathing in the night?

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faeriemum · 13/05/2006 08:38

i check my ds (now 25months) about 3-4 times a night to see if his breathing is normal....i know this might seem abit strange especially now he is 2, but i have a fear of cot death...
it did phase off when he turned 12months...but then heard about a number of cot deaths up to the age of 3yrs old....and from then on the checking him increased...
...i wake up in the morning still tired after getting up....but feel complete guilt if one night i dont wake up at all.....
his baby monitor is always on...and one night the connection must have come loose because i woke up and it was off..i thought oh shit and ran to check him.
i never wake him up..i just watch his breathing......
ok, im sounding mad now..but does anyone else have a fear of cot death at this later age?

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Mercy · 13/05/2006 22:03

I always check on my two before I go to bed, partly because they tend to kick off their duvets and ds doesn't understand he can pull the cover bakc up. I also occassionally check dh as he is such a quiet sleeper it's hard to tell what's going on with him. - ditto dd.

ds and I snore like pigs!

yoyo · 13/05/2006 22:05

Mine are 10, 7 and 3 and I still check on them! I don't get up in the night with the express purpose of checking them but if I am awake I will usually wander in to their rooms. I have been known to give them a shake too.

Aurala · 13/05/2006 22:56

I have a monitor which detects movement (tommee tippee reassurance 8) and have has 2 false alarms which have obviously been scary but I do tend to worry quite a bit and would never be without it. It ticks with every breath and alarm sounds after no movement for 20secs. False alarms have been when ds is lay on his side right up against the bars of his cot away from the sensor pad.

Ds is now nearly 23m. A friend tells me she still checks her 13 year olds breathing so not to worry lol

Only problem is when do I stop using it? It will be hard:)

jampots · 13/05/2006 23:03

at the risk of sounding really paranoid I check my children before I go to bed and if Im up for any reason in the night. I think it's just something I got into when they were babies and never got out of BlushHowever if dd stays overnight with friends I dont call her to jolt her awake or anything Grin

joash · 13/05/2006 23:04

Yep - always did and still do. Although I have finally stoped checking on DS (he's 17 this year) Blush

Twiglett · 14/05/2006 08:45

arrrrggghhhhhhhhh I am so sorry but a 2 year old is a 2 year old not a 24 month old .. a 30 month old would be '2 and a half' .. its one of my bugbears

but the issue on this thread is surely more that you're absolutely knackered FM because you are allowing your 'fears' (whether grounded or not) to interrupt your sleep patterns .. I agree with all those posters who say its time to get those fears under control ... a knackered adult is not the best parent they can be Sad .. and sleep deprivation is torture and mentally disadvantageous as well

Twiglett · 14/05/2006 08:45

arrrrggghhhhhhhhh I am so sorry but a 2 year old is a 2 year old not a 24 month old .. a 30 month old would be '2 and a half' .. its one of my bugbears

but the issue on this thread is surely more that you're absolutely knackered FM because you are allowing your 'fears' (whether grounded or not) to interrupt your sleep patterns .. I agree with all those posters who say its time to get those fears under control ... a knackered adult is not the best parent they can be Sad .. and sleep deprivation is torture and mentally disadvantageous as well

zippitippitoes · 14/05/2006 08:53

Gosh I'm astonished at all this checking...I wouldn't go near a sleeping baby/child/person for fear they would wake up and require attention..

WideWebWitch · 14/05/2006 09:30

Me too Zippi

NotQuiteCockney · 14/05/2006 09:35

I'm with twiglett, zippi and WWW. I never ever check on my kids, unless they're making noise (i.e. shouting).

I did go check on DS1 just before I went into the hospital to have DS2, but that was more a sentimental thing. There's no bloody way on earth I'd ever go in to check on him in normal circumstances. They're asleep, they're asleep, I can rest and not worry.

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