I would like to resign

[Lamin]

I've had it being ds's mum and would like to resign to do something I am good at. Maybe heading up the non-sleeping baby store?

I can't bear another night going to bed thinking tonight he might just sleep through only to be sorely disappointed. Every time I think I have got it cracked something happens like he gets tummy bug, or cold or ear infection and all goes tits up again. I have tried everything - even employed the lovely gina ford to advise me and we have even foxed her I think.

So there - big fat moan for a horrid wet Sunday, am at home on my own as dh had to go to work and feeling v sorry for myself.

Got no good advice, i've been through it, lavender oil, tapes the lot. It just took time, sorry it is hell

Lamin, sorry it's not working, and that even GF has been unable to help you! How old is DS?

FF, how are you today? Still in need of chocolate?

I know forestfly you are right, normally I manage to stay on the up by reminding myself how lucky I am - happy healthy baby etc. Just feel like a wallow today PMT i think.

Thanks for replying when you are having a rubbish time too.

he's coming up 7 months

Well, you must be a very good mum to be trying everything under the sun to try and get ds to sleep.... so I don't think you should resign just yet! But I know how you must be at wits end, not getting much sleep yourself! Good thing there's MN to keep you company!

My child woke up every two hours for 18 months. Now i have a 4 year old that goes to bed at 6.30, till 8 in the morning. You will get there!!!!

I hope so. Every mile stone I think will make a difference and it never does! Magical 12 weeks came and went, then weaning (although that defo made a vast vast improvment), then protein (again improvement but still not solved), then getting mobile (hoping it would tire him out) but no. What I can't bear is that now when he does wake there is no consoling him for ages, I wouldn't mind if he just wanted a cuddle, water or even milk and then went back to sleep. But nothing I do seems to help so I end up spending ages batting in and out of his room like an idiot. When I do do CC it works after one hideous night then he will sleep through for about 4 nights then back to square one again. I actually think he is crying because he is so annoyed he can't get back to sleep - he winds himself up IYSWIM.

oh dear I am boring myself now!

I relly believe now that nothing helps! There isn't a magic formula, they just all have different personalities, sorry thats not going to cheer you up is it!

Not really - but I know you are right

Bed at 9pm for me tonight.

Out of curiousity, how does DS do during the day? And what about teething? Is that having an impact?

Didn't mean to make you feel worse, is baby sleeping in the day?

Can I get dd to join the non-sleeping store?? Wakes up every 2 hours. Do have her (and DS) sleeping next to me as I would not manage to get up every time they wake up. I have given up believing all these people saying it will get better...
I do have a "secret" supply of chocolate though and it makes me feel a bit better to know there are others out there worse off than me (sorry)

He is really good in the day - naps really well a la Gina. I just read the "tired baby sleeping less thread" and wonder actually if he is more tired and needs more nap time/ go to bed earlier now he is on the move as he is getting ratty towards bedtime which he didn't used to be.

Teething defo having an impact as well I think - one through and another budding. But I thought they were supposed to be grumpy in the day too? and he isn't he is Mr Happy?

Every two hours - aagh. Yep, feel better .. sorry How old Lailag?

Aloha's baby woke constantly every night till he was 8 months and only then did cc work. So there may be hope. In the meantime, ALL my commiserations.

IME they never sleep through reliblay till in a bed - the job at the store is yours - early start tho!

What does ime mean? I keep seeing abbreviations that i don't understand, |I know all the basic ones!

lamin - much commiserations and lots of understanding from me. First time my DS slept through he was 8 months and even then he still would wake up at least 4 nights out of 7. I think some children are naturally lighter sleepers, more active etc.
we tried everything too - soothing music, black out blinds, lavender oil, everything and anything that we thought might help.
he's now 2 and much, much better but still not the best sleeper in the world and always up at 6 if not earlier.
the only thing that does seem to help is habit, so same thing at bedtime every night.
anyway, it will get better, promise but I really understand how tiring and depressing it can get.

IME= in my experience

oh we tried controlled . It would work but then 2 weeks later or whatever he's start waking up again or he's get ill and it would disrupt it and we'd be back to square one.

oh we tried controlled crying. It would work but then 2 weeks later or whatever he's start waking up again or he's get ill and it would disrupt it and we'd be back to square one.

Thanks Katie

Katie - funny s my ds3 has only just started sleeping thorugh at 8 months - except for when he has a cold as he sems to have all the time.

The other two were far better - think they are just born that way

coddy - the fact that the other two were much better gives me hope for any others I might have! seriously though - I really believe that much of it is to do with personality. adults are different in their sleeping patterns/habits so why not children?

It's so horrible it has actually put us off having another child - love ds to shreds but the idea of 'losing' nearly a year of our lives to feeling perpetually ill, exhausted and emotionally drained is just horrific. How did others get over that feeling?