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11 month old resillient to sleep training. HELP!!

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annaspanna · 18/01/2006 13:00

My DS will not sleep through. He Has slept through less than 10 times in his life. He was breastfed until 4 months which is when i stopped the one night feed he was having. He continued to wake once a night for the next month.
i tried controlled crying at 6 months which miraculously worked for 9 whole days!!
Unfortunately this didn't last and began waking more & more in the night until i have reached the point now where i am under HV writing down his wakings which on average are 9 times a night.i tried controlled crying at beginning of December but 1st night 2hrs 2nd 3 hrs & 3rd 4 hrs crying i gave up and swore i'd never put us all thro that again!!!
He has been in his own room in his cot from 6 weeks. I don't put on the light or pick him up. He asks to go to bed by pulling the stairgate at around 6.30 every evening. Goes to sleep by himself not rocked or fed to sleep. HE has not had milk in the night since 4 months & definately is not waking from hunger. he does not use a dummy. I have always maintained a good eat/sleep routine in the day. I truly have done everything the health visitor has recommended from day one. Joe is a very active and intelligent child. HV says his developmental age is above 18months & this has to be taken into consideration. But all i want to know is why he wakes up so much. I'm starting to think its an allergy or something. i feel so alone. Everyone i tell looks down on me as though i'm doing something wrong or they have poor advise. i do feel like a failure. Sorry to be such a bore. I'm off sick from work today and have slept all morning but still feel wretched. Does anyone else out there feel anything like me?? Have tried virtually everything but still can't get a stretch of 4 hrs sleep?

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alliep30 · 19/01/2006 21:22

Hi all, just found your conversation and i'm butting in.. Have u tried the baby whisperer book. Also has programmes on Disc Health. She's called Tracey Hogg and unfortunately passed away a little while ago, but seems to really know her stuff... I agree, health visitors don't help.. they just read from the guidelines, and not all babies are text book. The little sweeties are born ready to programme, but its really hard work breaking the pattern and re-programming them.. A lot of these books are fine such as Gina Ford, if you don't have a job, another child or a LIFE! Good luck, i'm getting down off my soap box now You must be pooped you poor love, and it all seems 10 times worse when you're knackered. Keep going..my sis kept giving up and she has a very grumpy, tired 4 year old who still doesn't sleep aaaghhhh

annaspanna · 20/01/2006 08:57

alliep30- Yes my love, i am an avid fan of Tracey - God rest her soul- she's my guru and i wish she was here so i could ask her advise personally. I totally agree about Gina. It was recommended to me by my sister-in-law who swore by it after using it on her 6 months old. I could never be that rigid. Babies aren't robots and neither am i. "Breatfeed from right breast at 7.00am and pump from left at exactly 7.30am" Are you having a laugh?? "Is it ok if i go to the toilet please miss?" i felt like saying while reading it????? I don't like being told when i should have tea and toast or that i can never leave the house ever again!! Sorry -i digress.
After everything i said yesterday, i ended up putting Joe in the bed at 5.30 after being up since 3.15. He didn't like it at all. Eventually fell asleep from boredom at 6 til 6.30. I may as well have got up at 5.30 with him really. i wont bother doing that again. He's asleep now. HV due in an hour. We'll see what she says.

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madmarchhare · 20/01/2006 10:10

The first time you did CC I would say she was a bit too young, but yes, I agree that a little longer the second time could have cracked it.

Youve been strong enough in the past, so I say give it a go again.

Every now and then we have to do a 'refresher' with DS .

alliep30 · 20/01/2006 21:13

Hi annaspanna. Hope you got on ok today. I do feel for you as I tried helping my sis out. It must be heartbreaking letting them cry like that. Be strong! I'm still gutted about Tracey Hogg. I agree she was the best. My little one would sleep at night fairly well but wouldn't do daytime naps, so was a bit of a grouch all day, and i'd be buggered if I could fit in time to eat my toast chewed 20 times at 8.00am as per Gina !!! Keep your chin up love it won't be forever.......

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