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Support thread for the over 1's who still don't want to sleep through

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PenguinArmy · 30/03/2011 18:44

I know I need a place to moan about how tired I am and if I tell anyone anywhere else, again, I may get punched Grin

tbh I feel that we've given her the tools and she will do it, when she does. No major active 'sleep training' from us, although that may change when we move house and she gets her own room (though more a change in strategy)

anyone else?

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PenguinArmy · 03/04/2011 22:50

Oh my monkey, that is hard work. Have some chocolate and {{hugs}}

We did a 5 hour session without feeding last night and we're still not on every 3 hours at others time. Had been working on a 4, 3, 2 policy. My DD is also 13 months and am wondering if the second one (currently 12 weeks pg) will sleep through before DD or be as bad.

How is Dad at their sleep, is he on broad with your strategies?

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Fumblina · 03/04/2011 23:27

Hi again PA. Not 12 months yet, but will mark place and watch for the next 6 weeks convinced DD will still not be sleeping through by then

So far tonight she has been up 3 times since bedtime.

Oh no, here we go again... ... make that 4!

LittlebearH · 04/04/2011 07:24

DD up at midnight, coughing and threw up. Finally got back to sleep at 3.10am. She has woken up for the day at 6.30am. Feeling tearful :(

Murl · 04/04/2011 08:26

I am feeling your tiredness ladies! Saturday night - up at 10.30 and settled easily, and then slept till 3am (this is good!) and then v unsettled so eventually took her in to bed with me - and then up at 5.45! Last night - awake for an hour from 10-11pm, and then the same 3am - in bed with me.
To be honest I don't mind having DD in with me - but it is not great for me and DH (I go in to the spare room), we are meant to be having our first night away (me and DH) in a couple of weeks - and I am really worried what she will be like for my Mum - AND, despite the tiredness, I love being a Mum and do want another - but can't imagine how that will work, having a new born to look after and having DD in bed with me!! I know I am getting a bit ahead of myself but I can't help it!

Since getting up this morning DD is full of beans, has eaten TWO weetabix, and has made me laugh out loud on more than one occasion! She is so fab I just wish we could crack the nightime....

Loving having this thread to turn to!

BlueChampagne · 04/04/2011 13:42

DS2 16 months this week and has slept through a grand total of 3 nights ever! Luckily DS1 a good sleeper, but last night we were kept up till about 2.30 and then woken at 6.30. Also lurched from teeth to chest infection to teeth to residual cough (which I share). Suspect sometimes it's attitude as well as discomfort and/or habit.

Great in the day and generally goes to bed well. Grrrrrrrrrrr.

StrawberriesAndScream · 04/04/2011 13:59

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MonkeyandParrot · 04/04/2011 16:37

PA Dad doesn't want have them overnight yet because DD2 refuses to drink from anything but me (she has only just weaned onto solids to be fair to her! The specaislt said to imagine she was 7 months in terms of realistic feeding patterns)

Murl - if it helps my parents had DD1 just before Xmas when she was getting up around 3/4 times a night (she was 2) despite co-sleeping. My folks co-slept with her and she slept from 7 pm (went to bed no fuss at all) and woke at 7 am Envy.

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PenguinArmy · 04/04/2011 18:18

strawberries, DH goes through phases of being able to settle DH.

Last night was a step in the right direction for us

Bed (no feed) 5pm and straight to sleep
Feed 8pm
Resettle 11:30
Feed 1
Resettle 1:30 (first time it has worked for DH in a long while)
Feed 5
a few resettles and few wakes until 6:30

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Salhal · 04/04/2011 22:04

Great thread - my 12 month dd has never slept through the night, i've given up taking note of when she wakes. She goes to bed in her cot and comes in with us at some point during the night. I am a terrible lazy mummy and just give her a quick feed when she wakes. I have crashed and written off one car and last week drove into a wall in my new car - both incidents I blame on sleep deprivation! DD is my first and I have suffered with terrible feelings of failure that she dosen't sleep but am coming to accept that maybe I just have unrealistic expectations. I have tried some gentle sleep training and did get her sleeping all night in her cot but that didn't last long. I'm trying to go with the flow and hope she improves on her own. We'd also like try for another baby but I don't think I could cope with 2 that didn't sleep.

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PenguinArmy · 04/04/2011 22:18

if co-sleeping worked for us still, that's what I'd do. I used to love just chucking her in bed and dozing while she fed.

sorry about your cars. I feel like I have wasted this year at work. Haven't progressed, but at least I haven't (I hope) regressed either.

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PenguinArmy · 05/04/2011 16:58

I thought the above post was a bit weird.

Another step in the right direction. We had 2, 4 hours blocks and got to 5 hours without feeding again.

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PenguinArmy · 05/04/2011 16:59

How is everyone else doing?

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StrawberriesAndScream · 05/04/2011 17:39

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PenguinArmy · 05/04/2011 18:04

DD was up at 5:30 today. I wanted another hours sleep before I got up and getting her tp 6:30 involves a few re-settles so sent her with DH to the front room Grin

It was advertising some CDs of soothing sounds to play in the middle of the night. It was just a link to that.

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Salhal · 05/04/2011 19:14

DD did well for her last night and slept from 9pm while 2.30 am without waking, then went till 4.30, had a feed and slept while 7.30 am. She has a sickness bug though and went to bed at 7 but woke at 8.30 only to be sick everywhere. Bless her, I'm hoping she feels better tomorrow (which is my first day back in the office for over a year - I've been working from home for the last six months, so I'll probably turn up late and covered in baby sick). I'm just putting her to bed now so we'll see what tonight will bring. I've given up thinking tonight may be the night she sleeps through! Good luck everyone!

BlueChampagne · 06/04/2011 12:53

Last couple of nights haven't been too bad, but I'm not getting my hopes up yet, esp as he's still coughing.

LittlebearH · 06/04/2011 20:01

Monday night:

7pm DD went to sleep
9.05pm DD wakes
9.35pm DDwakes
12.05am DD wakes
1.30am DD wakes
2.24am DD wakes
4.20am DD wakes
5am my alarm goes off
5.15am DD wakes
5.40am I leave the house for work feeling like shit.

Tuesday night:

Woke 8pm and again at 9.15pm. She was crying and was hysterical when me or DP left the room. Was quiet when we stayed and just sat looking at us. Tried to let her cry it out for half an hr, tried co sleeping. In the end about 11.45pm DP told me to go to bed and he made a camp on the floor of her room.
I woke at 2.30am to hear crying and DP shout "GO TO FUCKING SLEEP!!". I went in and he said she only slept for an hr. So I took over, got her to sleep on floor next to me and put her back in her cot when she was asleep. By this time it was 3.15am and I got up at 5am. She woke at 5.05am sat up and crying, I managed to lay her back down very quickly and she was asleep still when I left for work at 5.45am.

Really feeling like shit now.

Salhal DD had a bug a few weeks ago. Sympathies.

Prays for a better night for us all.

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PenguinArmy · 06/04/2011 23:57

that sounds completely draining LBH It's odd when they have good night and then go downhill again.

We are down to alternating resettle and feed with main feed 5 hours from the early night one still. Sometimes it's 4 hours to the resettle, sometimes 3.

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LittlebearH · 07/04/2011 09:36

PA No pattern is there? That is what is so frustrating!
I am considering starting a sleep diary.....

Pinkjenny · 07/04/2011 09:50

I haven't read the thread yet but my dd is 3.11yo and has NEVER slept through. Ds slept through from 9 weeks old, he is 16 months old.

Do I get a prize? Grin

LittlebearH · 07/04/2011 12:28

Pinkjenny Crikey you deserve a prize!

BlueChampagne · 07/04/2011 13:04

LittlebearH we did a sleep diary for a bit and it made me feel I was taking control of the situation. If you keep it up for long enough then I'm sure you'll see an improvement. Really hope it's better tonight for you.

DS2 has another Dr's appt next week for persistent cough (and suspected hernia). Last night he was awake, wriggling and grizzling from 1.45am to 3.15am. Gave him calprofen at 3 which settled him - but in my defence it doesn't always work.

Pinkjenny you deserve a medal! It must drive you nuts when you see threads like "my 6 week old won't sleep through".

Pinkjenny · 07/04/2011 15:22

You get used to it

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PenguinArmy · 07/04/2011 16:12

3.11 Shock

same kinda of night again for us, except I went to bed and actually to sleep at 8:30 :)

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