Those who have survived controlled crying....

[barbie1]

Can you please tell me how?

DD is 7.5 months and had never been a good sleeper.

She was crawling at 4 months, standing at 5 months and almost walking now. The doctors tell me she is forward and that she finds it difficult to switch off

We live abroad so have no family or close friends to help, hence having to give cc a go for all our sakes

So here we are 3 weeks in, i put her to bed awake, she cries, stands up and paces the cot. I leave. Go back, lie her down and it starts again.

We went from crying for 2 hours (on and off, never longer than 10 mins before i checked her) to her letting me lie her down and patting her off to sleep after about 20 to 30 mins of crying.

Never once has she just laid down and gone to sleep.

She naps well in the day, has a routine for bed etc etc.

How can i encourage her to lie down and not scream for hours???

I know cc is a highly emotive subject and i don't wish to be flamed for doing this... I really do think its the only option i have left now.

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I've joined the thread a little late, but hopefully you are still reading. I am a believer in cc, but unfortunately it just doesn't work on some kids. It worked wonderfully on ds at 6 months. But then dd came along and NOTHING worked on her. She was and still is (she's 8 now) a crap sleeper. The most effective thing I did was to accept this and figure out how I could live with it. Because the reality is that I am a crap sleep and I'm 47 and she's got my genes. I co-slept with ds, but just couldn't manage it with dd because she just wriggled and snorted and kept me awake. So in the end, I sent dh (who will sleep through anything) to cuddle dd to sleep in HER bed. We started doing this when she was just a few months old and had to continue until she was 4 or 5. I would sometimes even send ds (who is 2 years old and like dh sleeps through anything), to sleep with dd and cuddle her to sleep. Dd was never good at doing daytime naps (as opposed to ds who still does them at age 9). And needs far less sleep than most children her age. This is important to recognize, if your child is like this, because I was forever being told I was doing something wrong because my dd gave up her daytime naps before she was 2. She just didn't need the sleep. And no amount of putting her down for a nap was actually going to get her to sleep.
All of this is to say...don't make yourself crazy trying to make your dd behave in a way that just isn't going to happen. Use your dh to help you with the nighttime duty. And it will get better!!!

Hello fellow sufferer's, how are you all getting on?.

We have had a few better nights, and the 45 mins wake up after being put to bed has stopped for now.
We are doing nothing different, same bath, bed routine etc. Im guessing it's just one of those things and if it returns we shall just have to run with it.

We have stopped cc completely and i'm feeling all the better for it, her day naps are still a little over the place, the first two i can feed to sleep due to it coinciding with feed time, the afternoon one is hit and miss.

Mu mum is due to visit for 2 weeks and has the patient of a saint so we are trying to switch her over to bottles so that dh can at least help out a little. Would of ebf for 8.5 months then, a little sad to stop but i feel its the right thing to do at this time.

sofiaames i also believe that cc doesn't work on everyone, my dd is the perfect example!