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Advice on CC needed now please!

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:35

How long before you give up? He's been crying now for over a hour and is exhausted but still won't give up. Dp won't let me near him, say's we have to stick with it. I'm tearing my hair out!

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:35

I would go in, settle him, say reassuring things but don't pick him up. how old?

SleepySuzy · 08/09/2005 19:36

Keep going, it does work. Just try to remember, he is not in pain, he is crying for attention, and he won't remember this when he is older!

starlover · 08/09/2005 19:37

i thought you were supposed to go in every 10 minutes or whatever and just calm them down and settle them back into bed?

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:38

We're (or DP is) going in every few minutes. He's 2 weeks off a year old..

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orangina · 08/09/2005 19:38

Oh poor you monkeytrousers! I must admit, I can't let dd cry for too long, and I also can't let her carry on crying once it gets past the wingeing and she sounds genuinely upset.... I agree with bundle, I'm sure he needs to know he isn't being ignored or hasn't been forgotten/abandoned.... Can you pick him up and give him a reassuring cuddle? That might be all he needs to drop off, especially if he is this tired.....

bundle · 08/09/2005 19:39

I would go in, do the settling, but leave it a little longer each time

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:39

I'm not damaging him am I?

I know it's a daft question. I'm so afraid he'll hate me in the morning

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:39

ask him to lie down (assuming he's stomping around the cot) and rub his back. does he have a dummy?

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:40

He gets a cuddle each time + a kiss..

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:41

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starlover · 08/09/2005 19:41

MT, i haven't done CC with ds as he normally gets himself off to sleep.
however on some occassions he does just cry and cry... sometimes when he has got really really overwrought i just go and give him a big cuddle and a rock in the rocking chair and then pop him back into bed and he goes off....

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:42

No dummy. We say 'lie down, go to sleep'..Dp's in there again..he did just fall asleep for 5 mins then but has just woken up again.

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:42

teddy? blanky? I am a great believer in transitional objects

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:44

Only transitional object is mammy's boob! Will be getting another on sharpish. Will go try to soothe him again..

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:45

dd1 used to take photos of us to bed with her...

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:45

dp singing to him now which is what I usually do..sob!

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:46

Oh, that's a good idea Bubdle. I might tape myself singing too. Dream a little dream by the Mama's and Papa's

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:48

Is it normal for them to cry so much?

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:48

Maybe the Mama Cass version would be better..

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bundle · 08/09/2005 19:49

yes. dd1 used to make herself sick through so much crying/coughing/spluttering.

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 19:55

How long did iy take you Bundle?

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bundle · 08/09/2005 20:07

oh god, i've blotted it out, I really can't remember. more than a day but less than a week

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monkeytrousers · 08/09/2005 20:11

Just been up and comforted him but didn't get him out of the cot. He's asleep now...poor little monkey.

Thanks for coming in my half hour of need girls!

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orangina · 08/09/2005 20:12

I was given very good advice re: putting them down to bed (either at night or during the day for a nap).... behave as though it's just FANTASTIC that they are in bed, "oooh, look, how LOVELY, what a treat, your bed, you're having a nap, you lucky girl/boy...." + lots of enthusiastic noises. Sounds mad, but now dd generally goes to bed with a big smile on her face (not always mind you, but I never thought she would fall for it, and she has! ).
Not much help with your cc though....

bundle · 08/09/2005 20:13

oh and another one: put favourite toy into shoe box lined with tissues/fabric for its bed, next to or in cot. lavish praise on said toy as it goes to bed.