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13 weeks still not sleepying through!! HELP

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Janefay · 28/09/2010 11:38

My boy is 13 weeks old and has never slept through. He is a big boy born 9.9 and now at 13 weeks 16.10 he only has 3 hours sleep during day and feeds well. We give him a DF at 10.30 but he still wakes at either 2or 3 and then again at 6 sometimes more. We have tried without the DF but he will wake naturally at 1130 and then still want food at 2. I know not all babies sleep through but i want to ensure I am doing everything right of if any suggestions to help him sleep through. Very tired as when he is awake he is up for 1 to 1 and a half hours each time.. HELP

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jinglesticks · 28/09/2010 11:43

This sounds pretty good to me. One night feed at 2 and then sleeping till 6? If my 8mo does this I call it a good night. And 3 hours in the day sound pretty good too.

My advice is go to bed earlier so you get more sleep if you are tired. And maybe prepare yourself for the fact that this could continue for months to come.

Good luck

RobynLou · 28/09/2010 11:44

sounds totally normal to me, 13 weeks is still very young.

My DD was the envy of a lot of the mums I knew, she woke just as you're describing, she dropped the first night feed then slept through at just over 5 months.

hang in there, he'll get there in the end.

flowerybeanbag · 28/09/2010 11:45

Huge sympathies for the exhaustion but really 13 weeks is pretty early to sleep through. I was extremely lucky in that my first slept through from 12 weeks and my second from 10 weeks, but I don't think I know anyone else in real life that had a similar experience.

Is he breastfed or bottle? If bottle does your partner take turns with you?

sobloodystupid · 28/09/2010 11:46

My dd is 14 weeks and she doesn't sleep through. Fwiw, she has never been dream fed and has rarely been hungry round that time. However, she has been going through a growth spurt (feeding every 2 hours for that last couple of days or so) could this be it?
Keep feeding him when he wants (Motto: this too shall pass )

explodingbosoms · 28/09/2010 12:29

I agree it sounds normal- pretty good in fact! I know that doesn't make the tiredness any easier. I really think there's huge pressure to have a baby that sleeps through- as if it's the pinnacle of parenting or the mark of a superior baby!- and a massive fallacy that by three months all babies are sleeping for 12 hour stretches. It just simply isn't true, but I know I felt the pressure and it really affected me.

Our dd has only just started sleeping through at 7 months, and that was with some help from us once I was sure she was well established on solids and was not hungry at night.

IMO anything under 6 months is too young to try any "training" (others may disagree) so all you can do is continue laying the very positive groundwork and stable routine that you have already established.

It will pass...

ps I may get flamed for saying this, but after months of disturbed nights, I can't say that my dd sleeping through is the holy grail I thought it would be. It's nice, sure, but I really don't feel that different to when I was getting up once in the night.

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Janefay · 28/09/2010 12:45

Thank you all for your comments, i thought this was normal, but as you said (explodingblosoms) it is the pressure for baby to sleep through everytime i speak to people they are like OH HE SHOULD BE SLEEPING THROUGH BY NOW, and asking what i am doing wrong, which is nice!! i will continue as I am, but i am much happy to have ready your comments at least i know this is right. and perfectly normal.

I just think my boy misses me at night and wants to see me ha ha ha x

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jinglesticks · 28/09/2010 14:17

Also, I think that what many people mean by sleeping through is sleeping 6-8 hours in a row. This confused me for a while. Siunds like you are doing very well.

littlemissindecisive · 28/09/2010 14:20

DD took 20weeks to sleep through and DD1 20 months! DS2 is 6 months and has had rare nights of brilliance but is normally awake 2-3 times.

I think at 13 weeks your baby sounds completely normal. I wouldn't even think about it as you set yourself up for disappointment.

bigchris · 28/09/2010 14:22

My first slept through at six months , my second eight months
tell people your baby needs milk in the night and they need to butt out

ShowOfHands · 28/09/2010 14:27

My 175 week old does not sleep through.

As I always say on sleep threads, see how you can make your life easier rather than interfering with the needs of a little baby. If people are concerned you're tired then they can help more.

feedmenow · 28/09/2010 14:28

My youngest slept through once at 10 months and now, at 20 months, I still look back on that one night with envy!

One day she'll sleep through - she has to!

Mae34 · 28/09/2010 14:42

My DD is 16 weeks and after a few weeks of doing 5/6 hours in a row which I thought was brilliant is now waking every 3 hours, like clockwork (12, 3 and 6). I also hate people asking if she's sleeping through but I dont really see what else one can do at that age to get them going longer! Sending sympathy tho' xx

explodingbosoms · 28/09/2010 16:31

If it comes down to it, OP, when people ask the question "how is he sleeping?" just flash them a Mona Lisa smile and say "fine thanks" and change the subject. Then you can nip any "advice" or comments in the bud.

lal123 · 28/09/2010 16:33

DD didn't sleep through til she was 10 months! Feedmenow - yes one day it will happenx

lulabellarama · 28/09/2010 16:43

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flowerybeanbag · 28/09/2010 17:41

Does your partner share it Jane? Assuming your DS will take a bottle, one of you could go to bed at 9pm and sleep through until the 2am feed, and the other one could go to bed after the dreamfeed and sleep until 6am.

marthamay · 28/09/2010 18:52

gosh, I'd love it if my five month old slept from 10:30 until 3....he wakes at least once every two hours....
feeling your tiredness....sigh

choufleur · 28/09/2010 18:54

DS didn't sleep through til about 2 1/2. Most babies don't sleep through at a few months old.

aviatrix · 28/09/2010 19:01

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MummyBerryJuice · 28/09/2010 19:12

Sounds normal to me (mine is 9 months and not sleeping through). When people ask, I put on a vaguely demented look and nod and smile; nod and smile; nod and smile. After a while they think I've gone mad and change the subject

piscesmoon · 28/09/2010 19:15

All mine were 2 yrs before they slept through!

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 28/09/2010 19:16

Snap aviatrix...

RobynLou · 29/09/2010 00:05

and all those mums who talk about their babies sleeping through really early? 50% will be lying, and a large number of the rest? their babies will sleep through reliably for a while and then stop!
that's what DD did - fantasy baby, slept through at 5 months, only ever woke up twice in the night from birth...then she got to 9 months and started waking again!

she's now 3 and sleeps through most nights....

just don't listen and carry on as you are.

thesecondcoming · 29/09/2010 00:22

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RobynLou · 29/09/2010 00:31

of course, babies who sleep through as early as 8 weeks are obviously a different case altogether, such prolific sleeping at an early age must show a genetic predisposition to good sleep which will last them a lifetime...grovel grovel...

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