13 weeks still not sleepying through!! HELP

[Janefay]

My boy is 13 weeks old and has never slept through. He is a big boy born 9.9 and now at 13 weeks 16.10 he only has 3 hours sleep during day and feeds well. We give him a DF at 10.30 but he still wakes at either 2or 3 and then again at 6 sometimes more. We have tried without the DF but he will wake naturally at 1130 and then still want food at 2. I know not all babies sleep through but i want to ensure I am doing everything right of if any suggestions to help him sleep through. Very tired as when he is awake he is up for 1 to 1 and a half hours each time.. HELP

I'm 40yo and I still don't sleep through.

DD is 8mo and is now down to 2, sometimes 3 awakenings overnight.

"Sleeping through" apparently means a five-hour stretch at some point from midnight...

So my DD "slept through" last night, although it didn't feel like that...

Best advice I can offer is don't torture yourself with false hopes and expectations and adjust your own sleep patterns to compensate, if you can. My bed-time is now 21.00...

13 weeks?! Ask again at 13 months!

I don't mean to be flippant but really, under a year (or older as many MNers will testify), it's just a blessing if they sleep through, not a expectation.

I also had the same prob as janefaye.My dd1 didn't sleep well in the night and I was sooo tired.And yes your right Robynlou all bar 1 of my NCT girls had angels that slept through!aaarrrggghhh!!!One nite at 3am(after being awake for 2hours courtesy of dd1!)I went on the internet .I found a lady called Jo Tantum who helps poor mummys like us.I emailed and she called me and had a chat.I felt I had to have this lady to save us even if my husband had to remortgage the house!
Jo came and whithin 2 days and nights my baby who'd never slept was sleeping 10 hrs and a dream feed!!I can honestly say it was the best money I have ever spent and funnily enough my hubby actually agreed!(a miracle in itself!)
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Good luck ladies xx

13 weeks
ha ha ha

even if he does sleep through from time to time, it is a phase and it will stop.

get used to it.

btw other people's idea of "sleeping through" are not the same as mine so ignore other people. many think 10-4am is "sleeping through"
others think that if their baby doesn't wake up between 10 and 6 2 days a week they are "sleeping through"
ignore. ignore. ignore.

Your DS sounds very normal to me. Babies need feeding more often than older children because they only have small tummies. Both my children woke for a feed at 11ish for the first year and woke in the night too. With my first child, I thought I would go crazy from lack of sleep (he didn't sleep in the day much either). Could you catnap in the day? After the first year, I managed to get my first child into a routine of sleeping at midday and I became a champion cat napper. Just 15 to 30 minutes of sleep whilst he was sleeping helped to get me through the rest of the day.

I know it's awful when you're going through this, but this phase will pass. Make sure you accept any offers of help with the baby and make your own sleep your priority (before housework etc).

normal

in fact, good.

Agree with Nicky, this is on the good side of normal.

People lie about sleeping habits about as much as they lie about how much sex they are having. I don't even think it is lying so much as having an elastic definition of sleeping through. Or wishful thinking.

I remember telling someone DD was sleeping through at this age because she was sleeping from 10 'til 3. I wasn't really lying, I just actually thought of this as sleeping through because it was such a relief when she stopped waking up every hour!

Oh the bliss of 5 hours straight! Feels amazing...

oh it's like the question "have you got her into a routine yet"
which i used to hear as
"are you a good mummy?" "have you passed the first mummy test"
honestly ignore other people, they are mostly making conversation, but i used to be soooo sensitive (inwardly, did a great job of "oh yes" outwardly!)

ha ha ha amidaiwish!
I've never managed to get myself into a routine, let alone my child!
I've obviously failed both the first test of adulthood and motherhood!

Another thing to add (and this is a real bugbear of mine) is that a baby is not "good" or "better" or "angelic" if they sleep through.

Hearing people say this when your baby is not sleeping through can make you feel really really shit. Because if a baby that sleeps through is an angel, what does that make yours?

It's great when your baby sleeps. But I've seen it from both sides now, and I can confidently say that my baby is no more of an angel, no more "good", because she is sleeping through.

It's not about being good. It's about whether they're hungry, whether they've learned to settle themselves, and the fact that they are human beings and we all have different sleeping habits. And of course the fact that they are babies- last I heard, babies do wake up at night, they're famous for it!

Rant over.

My DD slept through from 3 - 4 months then got worse and worse until first tooth came through at 7 mo. Since 8mo she has been sleeping through from about 7.45pm to 6am. She is now 9 months. Ignore 'helpful' comments from relatives etc who tell you your baby should be sleeping through/eating so much/doing handstands etc...

Oh, and we do blw but with the addition of sppon fed porridge at teatime - I started the porridge at 7 mo so maybe that helped with sleeping through - might be worth a try.