DS is 3 and has never been a good sleeper. Slept through for a few nights a year ago round about the time he self-weaned but is now in a routine of bed at half 7ish, up again around midnight and into bed with us, restless and unsettled, we all end up falling out, often wakes for the day around 5 and we spend another couple of hours trying to get him back to sleep until morning comes and we give up.
Can't go on like this. Have tiny house and MIL staying so DS is starting the night on a mattress anyway. Then when she goes nursery starts this week for a couple of hours a day. And DC2 is due in 6 weeks.
Where we've been going wrong: having big middle-of-the-night discussions/shouting matches, being inconsistent, visiting/having guests (he's slept in 6 different beds over the last 3 weeks), hoping he's going to sort this out himself.
What I want to do: some sort of rapid return, thereby removing the attention he's getting at night. I hate crying and am worried about how we're going to manage this though.
What I need: people to tell me how they did it and what the pitfalls are. I can't think right just now and don't want to go into this half-cocked and screw it up.
Please please help :(